When is it to far to create gift list for a child??

[sweetpickle]

I understand having list for wedding/bridal showers but really for children??

I got an email from my sl (not the first time either) of sites for gifts to give my nephew. I think it is really rude! If I want to give a gift fine but to actually tell me what to buy?! I have kids also I never thought of doing this..I may give ideas of what they like and sizes they wear but not specifics! My kids are happy with whatever they get..they appreciate it as a matter of a fact!! My kids are happy with handy me downs doesn't always have to be brand new name brand but for her liking it must be new and certain brands or it isn't good enough for the child. My feeling is they are just going to raise a lil brat! He's just turning 2 so I know I will get more of these. It's at all holidays not just his bday!

My ? is what are others ideas on this and what would be a "polite" way to tell her this is just darn rude!!

[3timesoccermom]

They may do it because they get asked that a lot and maybe they thought it would be helpful. I would consider these suggestions and may find them useful if I have no ideas myself but I wouldn't feel I had to buy from the list. It may not bother anyone but you.

[pharrothead]

I usually do one for dd for her birthday/Christmas (2 months apart). Because I have a LARGE family who is spread out over the US and some overseas. They are always asking what she likes, wants, needs etc for gifts.

It makes my life easier and their because they can see someone already bought X and they can move onto Y if they choose.

It's not the be all end all, and I do not send it out to anyone other than family who asks what she needs. I only did it because honestly she was getting SO much clothing I had no room left to put it. I'd rather make her a list of books and games than feel bad about returning clothing (there were times she got 2 of the same outfit even) because it doesn't fit, she doesn't really need a 26th pair of jeans, etc.

[jennsvs]

I had a friend who did this too. I also thought it was rude. I made it a point to not buy anything off the list. I actually already had gifts bought and wasn't about to buy something else. I am okay with suggestions of types of things to buy. Some people do ask for ideas and that is fine. I think that she should have just given the list to people who needed it though.

In my situation, she had all the expensive things on the list that she didn't want to buy. Some items were over $200 each. It wasn't the child who picked the things out either. That is where I had the most problem. Her son was happy with marbles and cardboard tubes. His mom's list had electronics and really pricey toys.

When I gave the gifts I bought, the little boy loved them. However the mom wasn't so happy that it wasn't a super expensive gift off of her list. She also wasn't happy that there was no money in the card. I simply told her that I already had his gifts purchased and knew that he would love them (which he did), so I didn't need to buy anything else. I also told her that the way she told people exactly what to buy her child was rude. Especially since they were all expensive. Had I liked her more, I would have been nicer. I really only hung out with her for the sake of my son, he was friends with her son.

[anaj06]

Wow, that is over the top. I just wouldn't buy from the list and move on and not waste any of your energy thinking about it!

[Doglover8180]

Wow - gift list for a 2 year old - that's crazy. Here's what I would do - not give a gift at all - not from the list or anywhere else - she will get the message if she isn't too dense.

I don't think anything is wrong with volunteering what a child is interested in at the moment if the person buying them a gift specifically asks you - but to send a gift list - that's a lil out there.

[amylynne01]

It depends. I did make a gift list for my 2 yr old for her bday in May because my mom and sister specifically asked for it. I only gave them the link to it and then to DH's cousin when she asked what to get her. I did not put it in invitations to her party or anywhere else - only if asked. I would never give a list to someone unless they asked me what DD might like or what size she was or what books she's interested in. It's tacky to assume that someone will give a gift for a birthday (or any other occasion).

[Doglover8180]

I dont think anythign is wrong with giving ideas or sizes or such when someone asks what your child is interested - as long as the person asks - cause some truly want the information so that they dont waste their money on something a kid can't wear or won't like.

[fungirl2727]

I made a list for my daughter 6th birthday and xmas! Her birthday and xmas are only 6 wks apart. My daughter picked all the stuff on the list and had blast doing it. My daughter dad and his family love this list so they can know what to buy. They live 10 hrs a away and only see her 2x a yr. They love the fact they are buying stuff they know she wants.

[motherofmolly]

i would never email it, but dh's and my family always request ideas for them. i give a list of lower priced items for them to give my kids. and do a general list.

i have another relative that would give me a list of crazy expensive items for her kids. needless to say she could give me the list, but that doesnt mean they got those items.

a general list is good for a suggestion...but i dont think it should be crazy specific and over the top.