Wedding Thank-You Notes?

[atcwag]

Just asking for some opinions.... We are so thankful for all the people who attended our special day on 7/23 and we had a great time!

We are in the midst of getting out all the thank-you letters for the gifts we received. We did have a few people who did not bring gifts. Do we send "thank you for attending" cards to these people? Just not sure of the etiquette...

....unfortunately, one of the guests who did not bring a gift was my father, which makes this even more difficult.

....Just not sure what to do

Also have another issue. A friend of ours attended the wedding and came from far away, so we didn't expect a large gift (or any gift) from her. We were so happy she could come and travel the distance. When we opened her card, we realized the end of the card was oddly ripped open (we did have an enclosed card box). There was a nice card, but nothing else. We didn't have any problems with any other gifts/cards.

I feel odd asking her if there was $ in the card, because I feel as though that makes it sound as though we were expecting that. I would like to just "let it go", frankly if it was somehow taken, there's nothing we can do about it now anyway.

What do you think? Would you say something about it, or just send a "generic" thank-you (with no mention of gift) thanking her for coming?

[JulieDB]

The thank you notes are for gifts only. Nobody attended my wedding. We eloped!

[Abbybob]

Gifts and cash money!! Don't forget those who brought or sent you $$!!

If your dad helped pay for the wedding, a thank you card would be nice, otherwise...No card.

Your friend- I would send her a thank you note because she traveled a long distance for your wedding. Let her know how much it meant to you both.

[Macaela25]

I agree that thank you notes are meant for gifts, not attending.

Agree with Abbybob...if anyone other than you footed any portion of the bill, they deserve at minimum a thank you letter. For those that just attended with no gift, I believe that your feeding and entertaining them was thank you enough for attending.

As for the ripped card, something along the lines of "Thank you for the lovely card". If there was cash in it and she asks if you got it, just act embarassed and tell her that you must have overlooked thanking her for it in your note. You'll know you had a thief or a really weird mishap. If she says nothing, you'll know there was either no cash or her bookie showed up and demanded a sudden payment :).

[Smee]

Just not sure of the etiquette...

See? SEE?! This etiquette stuff is hard!


I'm glad you had fun. Congratulations!

[CW&M Mom]

no gift, no thank you card.

[kschick96]

Ditto with everyone's responses. BTW-your wedding pic is cute!

[lovemygirls]

I agree with the above. I would not worry about the possible money missing though. I know you want to know as anybody would but it would be a odd question to ask if someone left you money or not and you cannot do anything about it now. If there was money/giftcard in it and someone did take it well we all know Karma comes back to those who deserve it someday.

I'm glad you had such a great wedding

[DebK1013]

ok, I think I may look at it a different way.

I think I would send a thank you for attending. Maybe just saying "thank you for joining us on our special day". In 5 years..10 years..are you going to remember that they didn't give you a gift or are you going to remember who was there? Because they may not be with us any longer. Also, you don't know the circumstances of why they didn't give a gift.

As for your Dad, most definitely, I would give him a thank you! Parents are not required to give you a gift...they already gave it to you!

I just happen to come across a wedding pic of mine, and it was of my Dad and I having "our dance". My parents are no longer here and I have my memory of them 'attending" not of "who" gave me what!

Just my two cents....Cherish your memories because in the end...it's all we have!

Congrats on your marriage....God bless!

[atcwag]

[QUOTE=DebK1013;3022479]
As for your Dad, most definitely, I would give him a thank you! Parents are not required to give you a gift...they already gave it to you!
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My parents (and his) were all thanked profusely at the rehearsal dinner and given gifts from the 2 of us. Would you still write another separate thank-you card now?