How did you know you were done having kids??

[jhall1977]

For me, I knew I was physically done & wanted to stop while we were ahead. With #2, I had signs of early labor. With #3, because of problems with #2, had to have the same procedure to prevent early delivery. Then @ 27 weeks I started bleeding due to placenta previa. I ended up on total bedrest for the last 9 weeks, had to have a semi-emergency c-section. I knew I couldn't go through any of that again either physically or emotionally, so I had my tubes tied.

If I hadn't had any complications, I'd still want to have another though. When they were babies, I could just sit for hours smelling their little heads, nothing like that sweet baby smell!

[abond0017]

AWWW your post breaks my heart, because I see this with the little boy across the street. He does cry sometimes when I say no to playing, he just does not understand that I don't say no b/c I don't want him here, I say no b/c we have something else going on. On top of that he goes to a private school a fair distance from here, so none of his school friends live nearby. He is a great kid an I enjoy having him around. I do see his loneliness and it makes me sad.

Poor kid. :(
It also makes us a little too sensitive too I think. It took me a while to break that. But since an only child without real friends around is usually most often around their parents like I was who are there as nurturers and to comfort....they also don't get used to the poking and prodding and the other type of harmless stuff kids and siblings do to each other (I don't mean bullying). So, they may be more inclined to be overly sensitive.

[loulou3133]

Poor kid. :(
It also makes us a little too sensitive too I think. It took me a while to break that. But since an only child without real friends around is usually most often around their parents like I was who are there as nurturers and to comfort....they also don't get used to the poking and prodding and the other type of harmless stuff kids and siblings do to each other (I don't mean bullying). So, they may be more inclined to be overly sensitive.

Oh I know, I try to make sure he understands why, he is only 7. I go out of my way to include him when DS has friends over from school or we have company with friends. I am not sure whether he is an only child by choice or not. To the OP, your little boy is still very young. Whatever decision you make is your and right for you. :)

[katieyj]

We thought we were done with one, DXH had came from a family with 3, I came from a family with 4, we figured one would be just great. I remember the day I decided DS1 would not be an only child, it was when my brother died. No matter how bad that pain was, I had my DS & DB2 to help me through, and I'd never forget the relationship I had with DB1. DS2 is now 21 and knows who he his named after. My boys still fight/argue (25 & 21), but don't let anyone else say or do anything to the other.

[katieyj]

Ohhh, I forgot, we knew after the second that we weren't having any more children.

[434Teresa]

Its really up to you and your hubby but if you are 50/50 on having another I would say dont have one at this time. You need to be 100% that you both want another child becuase as you know from just the last year they are alot of work.
I would say if your hubby dont help do his part of careing for the one you have now and you find that you are his main care giver for most everything dont have another.

I was told after my second son that I could NOT and would NOT have anymore due to probelms. I was happy with the two boys I had so that was not a problem with me but 11 years later I did get prego again and I had twins, it was not plained I cried becuase I was happy and upset both at first. Smetimes its just not up to you.