Is it OK to sell something someone gave you at a yard sale?

[hbaqueen]

Hmmm....

Well as I mentioned in another thread a "friend" took advantage of my kindness when I allowed her to come into my home and take from my stockpile anything she wanted. Something I do not do often. I GIVE family/friends/neighbor a lot when I have extras and donate. But the things that make it on the shelf are generally for us and sometimes are things I have had a lot higher OOP on but it is things we are brand loyal to. Or it was a sale that was better than normal even if not cheap/free.

So, anyhow she took all sorts of things bags and bags and bags of stuff and things that I didnt get a great deal on like trashbags and what not.

Well, she calls me up a little while later and says shes having a yard sale and when I asked what she had to sell she said she was putting all that "bulk" stuff I gave her into it.

It made me upset for several reasons
I didnt just give her random free junk. She came into my home and took anything she wanted at any amount she wanted. I gave it freely but she chose the items and the quanities.
I attempted to help her learn to shop and she refused to try couponing and would buy stupid crap and then go to the shelter or ME for help.

Had she learned to coupon she could do with her loot as she wanted. Had she not needed or wanted the items she should not have taken them. Had she taken too much she should have offered them back to me. I do not feel like it was right for her to take so much from me when I was trying to help her and then sell the items for profit. I spent a lot of time and money and effort getting those items and it was wrong IMO for her to take advantage of my kindness in that way.

It would also had been different if she was in dire need and selling them for a bill or diapers but again if things were as bad as she made out to be then she shouldnt have been buying stupid stuff every time you turned around. And had she listened and coupons she would have had diapers and more $$.

Yes it was hers after I gave it to her but I gave it to her with the intention of she could use it for her family to save money on those items and use said $ to pay bills and get caught up. I didnt give it to her to re-sell the items for less than I paid for them. That defeated the purpose.

Yea Im bitter! LOL





BUT my sister gave me a trivial pursuit game for my Bday one year and we do not play games, we tried to play it and didnt know any of the ?s because it was a decades game for a year before DH or I either one were born, and it had small pieces and I had no where to store it and was afraid DS would get into it.
So, yeah I sold it in a yard sale.

[Macaela25]

Your response to the other thread was what got me thinking, obviously :). I thought what your friend did was really low class, but there are lots of different possible situations.

For instance, I got to thinking about this myself. An aquaintance gave me some baby items. I kept some, but others I either can't use or are a little too shabby. I'd like to put them in my yard sale, but I'm not sure if I should offer her at least part of the cash I would get (maybe $10-$20 max). I would have cleaned them up, sold them and done the work, after all. I dunno...

[ladywaterwind]

Hmmm....

Well as I mentioned in another thread a "friend" took advantage of my kindness when I allowed her to come into my home and take from my stockpile anything she wanted. Something I do not do often. I GIVE family/friends/neighbor a lot when I have extras and donate. But the things that make it on the shelf are generally for us and sometimes are things I have had a lot higher OOP on but it is things we are brand loyal to. Or it was a sale that was better than normal even if not cheap/free.

So, anyhow she took all sorts of things bags and bags and bags of stuff and things that I didnt get a great deal on like trashbags and what not.

Well, she calls me up a little while later and says shes having a yard sale and when I asked what she had to sell she said she was putting all that "bulk" stuff I gave her into it.

It made me upset for several reasons
I didnt just give her random free junk. She came into my home and took anything she wanted at any amount she wanted. I gave it freely but she chose the items and the quanities.
I attempted to help her learn to shop and she refused to try couponing and would buy stupid crap and then go to the shelter or ME for help.

Had she learned to coupon she could do with her loot as she wanted. Had she not needed or wanted the items she should not have taken them. Had she taken too much she should have offered them back to me. I do not feel like it was right for her to take so much from me when I was trying to help her and then sell the items for profit. I spent a lot of time and money and effort getting those items and it was wrong IMO for her to take advantage of my kindness in that way.

It would also had been different if she was in dire need and selling them for a bill or diapers but again if things were as bad as she made out to be then she shouldnt have been buying stupid stuff every time you turned around. And had she listened and coupons she would have had diapers and more $$.

Yes it was hers after I gave it to her but I gave it to her with the intention of she could use it for her family to save money on those items and use said $ to pay bills and get caught up. I didnt give it to her to re-sell the items for less than I paid for them. That defeated the purpose.

Yea Im bitter! LOL





BUT my sister gave me a trivial pursuit game for my Bday one year and we do not play games, we tried to play it and didnt know any of the ?s because it was a decades game for a year before DH or I either one were born, and it had small pieces and I had no where to store it and was afraid DS would get into it.
So, yeah I sold it in a yard sale.

That is horrid!! I can't believe someone would do that. I was taking this as a gift or something, not groceries. For someone to be given groceries like that, especially things they picked up form your stockpile, wow, that is so low class.

Your response to the other thread was what got me thinking, obviously :). I thought what your friend did was really low class, but there are lots of different possible situations.

For instance, I got to thinking about this myself. An aquaintance gave me some baby items. I kept some, but others I either can't use or are a little too shabby. I'd like to put them in my yard sale, but I'm not sure if I should offer her at least part of the cash I would get (maybe $10-$20 max). I would have cleaned them up, sold them and done the work, after all. I dunno...

I'd ask her if she wanted them back first. Just say something like 'hey, all that stuff you gave us was great, but I wasn't able to use some things. Would you like those back in case someone else you know may need them, or I'm going to be having a yard sale soon and we could really use X for the baby, would you mind if I put those few items in the sale to help with the money towards getting the X.'

[hbaqueen]

I wondered if that was the thread you were referring to :)

I agree with LWW I think maybe just say the baby has grown out of a few things and I was wondering if youd like them back or if you just want me to pass them on to someone else.
That way if you sell it or donate it either way your covered.
Or We were cleaning things out for the yard sale and came across a lot of things that are not going to work for us anymore but I wanted to check with you first.

I had one baby item that the giver asked me to give it back when we were done with it , it was an adorable and expensive snow suit and I did give it back to her. But I had another snow suit from another family member that I ended up not using and it was beautiful and I re-gifted it. She didnt ask for it back and I rarely ever see her and I knew she wouldnt want me to drive an hour to give it back. But generally I dont think its wrong to re-gift or sell a gift item in most situations. I just think it depends on the item(s) and the situation.
I had to get that story out there because in some situations like that one its pretty rude.
Plus it felt good to vent, again. LOL

[CW&M Mom]

I think it's fine unless that person could possibly be attending your sale.

My sister got me a pair of jeans for my son...used...but they are way to small...and they are going to be sold at our flea market in a couple of days. NO reason to hold onto them.

[MrsPinecone]

I think it depends, but overall it's yours and you can do with it what you want to.

On my knitting boards, I saw a thread about an expensive item that the OP hand knit for someone. She went to their yard sale and saw it for sale there-- she bought it back. There were many hours of work and some $$$ yarn in that sweater, and she was really, really hurt that it was being dumped like that.

[VivaciousJewelz]

Yes - as long as YOU didn't ask for it - it was freely given.

^I picked this option b/c how awful would it be if you went to someone's house and were like "Oh, I LOVE that coffeepot" and your friend said "Oh really? Well, you can have it, I've got another one" and then next week they swing by your yard and see you get $10 bucks for that pot...

BUT, if your friend just dropped by and said "Hey, I've got all these extra baby toys I don't need, I thought you could use them" and then if you wanted to regift or sell those, I'd be fine with it.

[434Teresa]

If you mean stockpile stuff that the friend gave because she thought you needed it no I dont think its right to sale it.............but if its old clothes and stuff she gave you a year back I dont think it would hurt anything but i would ask her if she would liek them back first.