How do you interpret this?

[jillynoodle]

ten days!!!:hectic1:oh boy i have been in this situation quite a few times let us know how it turns out, i hope the best for u!! some visits i stressed out though turned out so good and i really felt like a heel for complaining but it is sooooo hard i know!!!!! its great that you can email him so maybe in your response to his email just state how bad you feel you cannot do like you have done for him in the past and you feel really bad that you dont want him to be bored etc..but state again how broke you are(then maybe one more time)..just so he knows that it wont be like the other times and you never know he might end up taking your family out for dinner and then realize for five people to eat out can get expensive, (ok it just IS expensive) some people just dont know because they havent had to deal with supporting more than themselves....goood luck and definetly have your husband give a call to say he is more than welcome to stay at your house because you would love for him to visit but then again state all of the above...you dont want to hurt his feelings so make sure he you tell him first how you are glad to see him

[buddysmom]

I think that the first problem you've got is the word "hint". The second is that this is your BIL, I'm assuming that means he's your dh's brother? If so, your dh needs to pick up the phone and talk to him directly. This should have happened long before this and you/dh should have said something along the lines of:

We'd love to have you come, but remember, we have no entertainment here and can't afford to be going out. If you want to hang out and watch videos and chit chat with us, and see your nephew/niece great. If you're looking for trips into Albuquerque, you're welcome to make those but we won't be able to join you.

Good luck!
Tess

Great advise! A conversation is so much better than emails. :)