People asking why all the time

[jkljkl]

I do not like people asking me questions constantly, wanting me to justify personal life decisions that have nothing to do with them.

The phrase starts out like this: "But I don't understand why you don't just.....(fill in the blank)"

They have not walked a mile in my shoes and do not understand!

Example: I had someone ask me "why do you live here?" (I was living in a low income apartment complex at the time). Obviously if I could afford to live somewhere else, I would!!!

Also was asked why I am doing low paid work, even though I have a college degree. Obviously, if could earn more money I would. There is a recession going on!!! Many people have NO job at all!!!

I wish people would shut up and quit judging. I do not owe them explanations for things that have nothing to do with them.

[kschick96]

When people ask me questions like you have posted above, I usually smile, and answer, "I prefer not to talk about it." It usually makes them shut up quick.

[Smee]

I like to work "minding my own business" into intrusive conversations.

"Because that's what I like to do when I'm minding my own business."

"Because that's the way I mind my own business."

"Because minding my own business usually works out pretty well for me."

Or:

"To make people ask stupid questions."

[Pennstater]

I find this answer stumps most people.

After they ask a nosey question, you say..."What makes you want to know?"

or "What makes you ask that?"

They usually shut up after that, I mean, what could they reply..Um, "I want to know because I'm nosey."

[joshmamabear]

I do not give other people the pleasure to run my personal business. Therefore, I do not answer questions of that nature like why do you do this or why did you that or why do you have all these stuff? I refuse to validate their questions with an answer, which they can't fish out from me

I am not asking anyone's opinion; IF I do, then they have the liberty to give theirs BUT it doesn't mean I will follow their suggestion OR advice

I stick to LIVE AND LET LIVE principle and have been doing well with it; I let others do their thang, I want them to give me the same courtesy

[fungirl2727]

I can't stand people that ask me why I don't work!
A. My hubby makes 100,00 or more a yr
B. He work swing shifts night day shifts and some weekends!
C. My hubby and me love that I don't work! I can get grocery shopping and everything elce done well he is working.
D. We can go movies and lunch doing wk well everyone elce is working.
Plus my hubby is going to class at work and when he gets out make 170,000 a yr.or more.
I would rather have more time and vacations with family then worry about a job. I am not in buying lots of expensive clothes at all. I do get name brand clothes for kids and me always get amazing deals on them.

[fungirl2727]

I can't stand people that ask me why I don't work!
A. My hubby makes 100,00 or more a yr
B. He work swing shifts night day shifts and some weekends!
C. My hubby and me love that I don't work! I can get grocery shopping and everything elce done well he is working.
D. We can go movies and lunch doing wk well everyone elce is working.
Plus my hubby is going to class at work and when he gets out make 170,000 a yr.or more.
I would rather have more time and vacations with family then worry about a job. I am not in buying lots of expensive clothes at all. I do get name brand clothes for kids and me always get amazing deals on them.

I don't mind drivng older car or not having a huge house.
I get sick of the women that work 50 hrs a wk so they can have huge house and expensive car and everything elce. But these women don't have anytime for kids or hubby and wonder why they end up in a divorce. So people please stop asking me why I don't work 50 plus hrs a wk.

[pharrothead]

I get asked why I left a job making 2-3x the pay I make now. I get really sick of having to tell people I wanted to be a PRESENT parent. I was working 6 days week (sometimes 13 in a row before I got a day off) crazy shifts, overtime, etc. I WANTED a 9-5 job (I ended up 8 to 4 which works even better with DD's school schedule). I get to be at the school activities, I'm off holidays, etc. I don't understand why it's a hard thing for some people to grasp that money doesn't make me a 'better' mom. We live in a nice area, she goes to a good school, and I get to BE with her and go to things like her basketball games, open house, holiday dinners, without having to run off to work.

I give up 'justifying' why I coupon. It's allowed me to work like I do, buy a newer car (in better shape) in cash, and have a good emergency fund.

I'm now in the camp of coming back with "Why do you ask?" it really does stop people.

[sandratesch]

I find this answer stumps most people.

After they ask a nosey question, you say..."What makes you want to know?"

or "What makes you ask that?"

They usually shut up after that, I mean, what could they reply..Um, "I want to know because I'm nosey."

I should try that!

[*QQUEENMN*]

With family asking why, I do not mind at all but if it is friends or aquaintances, then it is none of their business as they don't pay my bills!!!