Are you the only person in your house...

[tinkinpink84]

My husband can never find things that are staring him right in the face like ever! Sometimes i just stand there and tell him i know where such and such is then proceed to tell him im staring right at it. It will be right near him, just to see if he can find it. The few and far between that he actually coooks he leaves the empty meat wrappers, cans etc in the sink! It bugs me to no end! I dont know if my husband knows how to work the washer. hes never done laundry. He too likes to leave his dirty clothes anywhere but the clothes basket. And the times he does actually use the laundry basket is when i have clean clothes that need folding and he throws his sweaty workout clothes on top!

[kbullsexy07]

This thread reminds me how much I enjoy living by myself! I use to live with my ex- boyfriend and I would constaley have to make him a list of simple task for him to complete. Check the mail, take out the trash, feed the dog, take the dog out etc.. only to come home and find these simple tasks were still not complete.

I can honestly say the stress of living on just my own income and doing all the chores myself is less stressful then trying to rationalize why it was so hard to complete these simple things!

[JulieDB]

My husband is in the military and is away most of the time. When he is here, he does do his own laundry but only because I refused to do it. He is super picky about his things and he wanted his things washed without touching any of our clothes. So I was like... Fine! Do it yourself then! However that is about all he will do for himself. Once in a while he will get his own snack. But he won't even get a drink. He just hollers until my daughter gets him something because I won't do it.

My daughter is almost 13 and normally does help but is currently in a corset for a back injury and she is on restricted activity. She also has a thyroid problem and I don't think is on the right dose of med. So she is very tired all the time.

So tonight this played out as it has sooo many times since she got her injury.

I needed to go to the grocery store to use my doublers. And I need to go again tomorrow after I get the ones from my dad that he won't use. I couldn't get her moving. Yes, she is old enough to stay home alone. But she doesn't like to. But at the store? It hurts her to walk. So she wants to use the ride on carts. But... She doesn't really know how to drive and once she gets the cart she has trouble with it. Especially parking it. So on the one hand she wants the cart and on the other hand she doesn't. Long story short, it was dinner time by the time I got her to the store.

Once again I had trouble in the store because I had coupons for things I wanted but they didn't have the product. So we did extra walking and backtracking trying to find things I could use coupons for.

Then she wanted to go to Jamba Juice which was only a few blocks away. Fine. But it is surrounded by all these fast food places and another grocery store and, well, it was dinner time, so... No place to park. Finally got the Jamba Juice and came home.

Now normally she would go open the back of the van and start hauling things into the house. Then she would start putting things away while I got dinner going. And if I asked her to she would even feed the cats.

But now she is really miliking that injury. Yes she can't lift much. Yes she can't bend over. But... Today she took her Jamba Juice and only that into the house. And stayed there! I hauled the three bags in. Thankfully I didn't buy a lot. But then I realized I had to take out the trash and recycling before I could get dinner going. And those strawberries that I bought at Costco needed to be gotten rid of. They were just soooo sour. And starting to rot. We wouldn't eat them. So I was trying to do all that when our two cats were running over my feet wanting their dinner.

So I hollered for my daughter. I had to holler because she was on her computer with the headphones on so she couldn't hear me. Asked her to feed the cats. Yes, I know this is hard for her to do because it involves bending. But... I am disabled and I just simply can't do it all!

So she snapped, "Why do you ALWAYS ask me to do something after I sit down and get comfortable?"

To which I replied, "Am I sitting down? Do I look comfortable?" Gah!

So then I hurried up and got everything done because SHE was hungry and then I still had more work to do before I could sit down and eat.

Yes I could see this if she was still a baby. But she's not. I get that she is injured and doesn't feel well but she's not an invalid.

Oh and the other problem I am having with her is the hoard-like piles she makes. There is one by the recliner and another by the couch. She gets drinks and snacks and just leaves whatever it is right there. Cups of yogurt, ice cream sundaes, wrappers from things, cans, bottles, cups, forks, plates, you name it. I keep telling her, "You have two hands. Put something in each hand each time you get up and take it back into the kitchen. Or if you're not going to do that at least tell ME to take it in when I get up!" But no. And I know I should check this every few hours to nip it in the bud. But... I forget. Several days go by and then I am freaking because there's a little hoard going on there again. Oh and... I have a recycle bin AND a trash can in both rooms where she has these hoards going on. So to me there is just no excuse.

[JulieDB]

LOL we had a big lonnnnng discussion about the toilet paper roller not too long ago here on HCW.

Another pet peeve, after I insist you take the trash out .... the job isn't finished until you put a new bag in the can.

My DH has gotten into the habit of leaving his clothes on the bathroom floor beside the hamper. Go figure! The other day, he asked me when I was going to do laundry because he needed clean undies. Well, I told him that I had done the laundry but that I only wash what is in the hampers not what's in the floor because I wasn't his maid. So, he picked them up for me and I washed them but guess what ???? he is gonna run out of undies again this week because his mom doesn't live here!!!! LOL He will learn :)

My daughter puts her dirties beside the hamper. What is with that? Then last night I was standing by the hamper. Instead of asking me to move, she threw a dirty sock at the exact moment I opened my mouth. So, yeah. I caught her dirty sock in my mouth. Oh you can imagine how well that went over!

[JulieDB]

My DH pulls out a new roll of TP and places it on the counter. He likes it there, even if there is a brand new roll on TP holder. Then he leaves it there, for my children to dump right into the toilet.

It drives me up the wall.

some day in my happy world...we will have separate bathrooms where he can have stacks of TP to his hearts delight and I'll never have to walk in and see them ever ever again.

Well at least yours leave it on the roller. Mine will actually take it OFF because he wants it on the counter! Thankfully he has his own bathroom now. Yep. I try to stay out of there too.

[JulieDB]

My husband can never find things that are staring him right in the face like ever! Sometimes i just stand there and tell him i know where such and such is then proceed to tell him im staring right at it. It will be right near him, just to see if he can find it. The few and far between that he actually coooks he leaves the empty meat wrappers, cans etc in the sink! It bugs me to no end! I dont know if my husband knows how to work the washer. hes never done laundry. He too likes to leave his dirty clothes anywhere but the clothes basket. And the times he does actually use the laundry basket is when i have clean clothes that need folding and he throws his sweaty workout clothes on top!

I get the trash in the sink thing too. That just makes no sense to me! And husband and daughter neither one can find things even when I tell them exactly where they are.

For years my husband would say, "We are out of _____." So I would run out and buy more because whatever it was, he needed it right then and there. And I would always say, "Are you sure? I thought we had a ton of it!" He would always say that we had no more. But then one day I got smart. Because we ALWAYS had more of whatever it was. I have had a stockpile for many years. Now I know to check. And whatever it is, is always there.

My garage is full of partially used bottles of cleaner and barely used rolls of paper towels. Each time he decides to clean one of the vehicles he goes out and buys more instead of checking the shelf just inside the garage door. Heck, my van even has window cleaner *and* paper towels right inside there. I find it is necessary to keep them in there for all the stupid messes he makes. One of his favorites is to kiss the window on the outside. Yep. He leaves lip prints there. Ew.

[gctattoo]

My DH is afraid to do most household tasks for fear it's not the "right" way as designated by me. And I don't really mind since yes, he will do it wrong. For instance, I take care of all the trash. Certain procedures must be carried out before the full trash bag can be removed from the house-- all bathroom trash cans must be emptied into it, any litter box clumps must be emptied into it, any thawed meat in the fridge must be put into a storage container so the empty packaging can be put into the trash, etc. If I'm throwing out a bag of trash, everything that can be put in there is gonna be in it. DH doesn't have that sort of reasoning.

Luckily, he knows to pick up after himself when it come to laundry and dishes. They each have a spot where they belong and they need to be there. He's good about that.

But he does drive me crazy with forgetting to replace the toilet paper roll. At least he can find a new one if need be. Anything else he tries to find in the house-- can't do it. I think men just don't get the idea of moving something out of the way and looking behind it. Not everything can be perfectly in view all the time.

Or he'll ask me where we keep something. We've lived here for over three years. Stuff has been kept in pretty much the same spot all that time. We don't have a big house nor do we have a lot of stuff. So how can't he know where to find things?

Even when I make it easy for him, he's clueless. True story-- this happened on Sunday: he asked if we had an old toothbrush for cleaning purposes. Knowing he'd never be able to find it, I thought I'd save us both the trouble. So I went to the utility room, found it, and left it on the dryer in an old cup I keep for cleaning. There was nothing else on the dryer and anything other that coupons being on the dryer would be very odd. It could not have been any easier to find and he couldn't find it. Actually asked me where it was after he walked in there. Do I have to put it in his hand??

When his son lived here, he drove me up the wall with not replacing the toilet paper. He claimed he didn't know where I kept it. So he didn't look. We have a hall closet. A normal person would think it would most likely be there, right? I just wanted to scream, "Where do you THINK it might be?" He'd probably say the fridge.

[abond0017]

My DH is pretty good about helping with some things but often he just doesn't do it right, so I feel ya on that gctattoo.

When we are done with dinner he will take the dishes to the kitchen so I can do them after we get through watching whatever tv show is on...but he doesn't put them in the sink. He leaves them on the counter next to the sink...still covered with scraps and our used paper towels on top.

He also is notorious for going around the house and picking up glasses...which wouldn't be so bad (and actually a good thing) if he didn't manage to always take the glass I am using at the time too...and then also put them next to the sink instead of in it. Oh and on a similar note, he also seems completely incapable of getting himself something to drink. Unless I have already gotten him something to drink, if I get up to go to the bathroom or set my glass down, often he will steal mine and tell me we are sharing. Uhh, no, we are not, you just stole my drink...go get your own! Or at least ask if I will get you something. Ugh!

He is also good about taking out the trash and recycling without being asked, but half the time he forgets to rinse the recycling bin out (coke and wine bottle drips) and to spray disinfectant in the trash can and wipe it out (I am a germaphobe).

He will also do laundry, but no matter how many times I tell him, he doesn't seem to understand that our white towels, sheets, socks, and undies need to be bleached and washed in hot water. And every once in a while he seems to completely forget that dark colors will bleed onto lighter ones. I think it is because there may not be enough dirty clothes to do two full loads but for some reason it just "has to be done" , so he just puts them all together instead of waiting another day or two for more clothes. Then a few days later, I will usually notice one of my lighter shirts has become dingy and call him out on it and he'll say, "well, then you do the laundry". WTH? There wasn't enough to do yet, that is why it wasn't done and why you messed it up. I think he has a problem with impatience sometimes.

There are many more things that have to do with me being a germaphobe, but they aren't necessarily chore type things. Not washing veggies, putting a salsa spoon into the sour cream, things like that.

Things he never does are the floors, bathrooms, anything that has to do with the dogs (bathing, meds, etc), and dusting.

[dookersmom]

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 When his son lived here, he drove me up the wall with not replacing the toilet paper. He claimed he didn't know where I kept it. So he didn't look. We have a hall closet. A normal person would think it would most likely be there, right? I just wanted to scream, "Where do you THINK it might be?" He'd probably say the fridge. 
  

ROFL Gotta' love teenagers!

[ELLE-TN]

My daughter puts her dirties beside the hamper. What is with that? Then last night I was standing by the hamper. Instead of asking me to move, she threw a dirty sock at the exact moment I opened my mouth. So, yeah. I caught her dirty sock in my mouth. Oh you can imagine how well that went over!

I'm thinking you solved your throw your dirties in the floor at that very moment

I asked DH about his issue with tossing his stuff in the floor instead of the hamper and he said that it's just his work stuff. He said since he works in a plant he doesn't want to get the crud from work on the good clothes. So....I'm thinking I am gonna get a separate hamper just for his work stuff and see what happens you dare me? I think he's full of bull as he also tends to put his trash on top of the can instead of bending over to lift the lid and drop it in. I think he's just to lazy to bend over