Need suggestions about a mooching neighbor

[Smee]

I agree and disagree at the same time.

[momof2inohio]

Hmmmm....I always thought responsible parenting meant having children that you can provide for without relying on assistance. I agree that is does not take alot of money to raise children BUT you do need to be able to provide food, clothes and shelter. If someone is already on assistance and purposely has more children I do not think that is ok and I think that is what most people feel. There is a difference between parents falling on hard times and needing assistance for a while and parents who know they cannot provide for more children yet continue to have babies while relying on other taxpayers money to provide for their children.

[loaslaen]

Hmmmm....I always thought responsible parenting meant having children that you can provide for without relying on assistance. I agree that is does not take alot of money to raise children BUT you do need to be able to provide food, clothes and shelter. If someone is already on assistance and purposely has more children I do not think that is ok and I think that is what most people feel. There is a difference between parents falling on hard times and needing assistance for a while and parents who know they cannot provide for more children yet continue to have babies while relying on other taxpayers money to provide for their children.

Well I consider two scenarios, a family that has one parent working and the mother stays home to take care of her kids, but they don't always have enough money to pay the bills....then there's the rich family loaded with money, and both parents work and the "nanny" or daycare takes care of the kids for the most part. Or better yet, the rich family that ships the kids off to boarding school and rarely sees them at all. The first family shouldn't have to suffer or give up a family life that they WANT just because they don't have everything they need at the time. Anyone can also lose everything or gain more at any point in their life, and foregoing children based on finances at a certain point in life is not always the best option.

[momof2inohio]

Well I consider two scenarios, a family that has one parent working and the mother stays home to take care of her kids, but they don't always have enough money to pay the bills....then there's the rich family loaded with money, and both parents work and the "nanny" or daycare takes care of the kids for the most part. Or better yet, the rich family that ships the kids off to boarding school and rarely sees them at all. The first family shouldn't have to suffer or give up a family life that they WANT just because they don't have everything they need at the time. Anyone can also lose everything or gain more at any point in their life, and foregoing children based on finances at a certain point in life is not always the best option.

Well that first family should think about not bringing MORE kids into the world that they cannot afford and letting the "rich" families supplement the rest of their income. I don't agree with either scenario. I think the responsible thing to do for any family is to be able to provide food, clothes and shelter for their own children.

I know alot of moms who would love to stay home with their children but they would not just quit their job and let the government take care of them when they are able-bodied and able to work.

That would be great if all moms could stay home with their kids but that is not real life.

The stay at home moms I know are able to stay at home because their husbands make a decent living and are able to provide the necessary things for their families.

[CouponQueen23]

Yep we have the mooching neighbors up ther road too. They came to borrow our riding lawn mower and my DH had the bagger set up on it. Well apparently they didn't want to to mow their lawn with the set up on it. So they took it all off. Then had the nerve to bring it back taken apart because they couldn't figure out how to put it all back together. Then after the girl up the road had a baby she was constantly bringing the baby for me to watch for days, with no diapers she knew I had a stockpile that I wan't using. I finally got fed up with it and told her it had to stop I had my own stuff going on and she wasn't paying anything either, I never had a free sitter and I wasn't about to become one either. I loved the baby she was a real sweetie but he mama was a big time mooch and all the whil I was watching her baby she was out running the streets on dates. No more. Well her brother has been down and borrowed my bike for court he had it for about 3 weeks the weather has been beautiful and I have been wanting to get out. He never brought it back, Then him and his friend came down asking to use our 4 wheeler, trailer and a chain saw. WTH!!? No I really don't think so kid you still have my bike. Well earlier this week the kids mom called me to tell me he took off last Friday and my bike was dumped somewhere in town. She told me where I went and got it. He will not be getting anything else. I can't stand moochers and people who think everyone owes them.

[billig]

Yep we have the mooching neighbors up ther road too. They came to borrow our riding lawn mower and my DH had the bagger set up on it. Well apparently they didn't want to to mow their lawn with the set up on it. So they took it all off. Then had the nerve to bring it back taken apart because they couldn't figure out how to put it all back together. Then after the girl up the road had a baby she was constantly bringing the baby for me to watch for days, with no diapers she knew I had a stockpile that I wan't using. I finally got fed up with it and told her it had to stop I had my own stuff going on and she wasn't paying anything either, I never had a free sitter and I wasn't about to become one either. I loved the baby she was a real sweetie but he mama was a big time mooch and all the whil I was watching her baby she was out running the streets on dates. No more. Well her brother has been down and borrowed my bike for court he had it for about 3 weeks the weather has been beautiful and I have been wanting to get out. He never brought it back, Then him and his friend came down asking to use our 4 wheeler, trailer and a chain saw. WTH!!? No I really don't think so kid you still have my bike. Well earlier this week the kids mom called me to tell me he took off last Friday and my bike was dumped somewhere in town. She told me where I went and got it. He will not be getting anything else. I can't stand moochers and people who think everyone owes them.

That kid ain't a moocher, he's a thief!

[3timesoccermom]

billig -

CouponQueen23 - good for you for being firm. My gosh some people have a lot of nerve!

[TeePee]

This is not about OPs concern with mooching neighbor but I just gotta tell yall about a *man* that came into my office this week. He just turned 21. Had a girl with him. Lied to my face about tickets and accidents (I work in insurance) and then when I pulled his driving record, it was one that went on the *wall of shame* at the tickets and accidents (including one for having drugs in the car during a traffic stop). When I confronted him on this, he shrugged it off and said oh well. Then he pulls the a wad of cash out of his sock (a sign of a drug dealer....) and hands me 9 $100 bills. And then bragged that the girl he was with was getting ready to have his-----wait for it--- SIXTH kid! I was so infruiated that I could not wait to get him out of my office!

Come to find out, I also insure his brother and his brother told me, this is his sixth baby mama too and he doesn't pay a dime in child support and the rest are on welfare. He was digusted too! This *man* kid should be manidated to be snipped, I don't care who thinks otherwise, because I am tired of working all the time to support his lack of control/responsiblity! And I wanted to pop six baby mama in the head and tell her to get a friggin clue!

[everprincess]

I really like the $20 bill idea. I have very strong views on having children and not taking care of them. I have a dear friend who has adopted two boys. They were severly neglected by their drug addicted mother. So bad these children now will hide food, eat as much as you give them and ask for more for the fear of starving. Now she is telling her family and other people she is prego again but her due date keeps changing by the day. The family has stated she has done this before just to get money for drugs.

For me having children is a SERIOUS decision.