Birthday parties. Why are parent so lazy??

[CW&M Mom]

So my daughter insisted on having a birthday party this year...I "knew" there was no point to it..cause no one seems to be able to drag there butt to birthday parties any more

Is this a midwest thing. Like we are from Utah and we managed great parties there...but out here in the midwest...we'll invite my daughters whole class...in hopes of getting someone to come....and like today....one whopping kid showed up.

NO one RSVP's either. Is it that hard!!!!

And my daughter both here in Kansas and in Missouri where we used to live...she would be invited to a party...and we'd take her and she'd be the only child that would come.

Bah...parents suck.

I should state..that the one B-Day party here where the mom was taking all the girls to chuckie cheese and to RED LOBSTER....that one, all the girls managed to come...sorry if I think it's silly to take 8 year olds to Red Lobster..and don't have the will power, want, or money to do that (or patience LOL).

I've decided...last one we ever will do. I purposely made it as super easy as possible...knowing NO ONE was gonna come..and warned my daughter multiple times, that no one was going to come

Did I mention parents suck

[motherofmolly]

i remember my best friends daughter had a birthday party her freshman year of high school. no one came. her dh liked me so she asked me to come over. we did and played games and joked and had fun.

this is why i have my dd pick somewhere she wants to go. zoo, aquarium or someplace else fun. no one to worry about but us.

[mom2lucas]

We've invited the kids' friends to parties, but only family ever shows up. This year we didn't bother. We invited our friends (none of whom have children) and our families. The kids both had great parties.

[Macaela25]

We actually had DS' fifth birthday party today, and between two preschool classes and church, we invited about 35 kids, knowing a fraction would show. There were probably about 15, which was a good group. We don't plan on doing another party for awhile for him, simply because he'll be going to public school and we won't know the families in his class. I'm not comfortable with inviting people over I don't know well, so we'll take him to a theme park or go to the beach for the weekend.

I wonder if parents don't bother because they don't want to pay for a gift. And the RSVP thing?? I don't even bother to put that anymore. I'm also surprised how many parents of 4 and 5 year olds are willing to just drop their child off and pick them up when the party is over. I couldn't do that unless my child was much older, had a cell phone, and I knew the family hosting the party.

It's a good thing you took your DD to that party though, Sarah...can you imagine how that little girl would have felt if NO ONE showed up??

[ELLE-TN]

Sorry that happened I hope you DD wasn't too disappointed.

[gem7]

My DD12 has a slumber party every year now since she was 7. Every year we get the invitations out late, like Monday for a Friday party and every year I worry so muvh that week that noone will show up, I'm surprised I don't have an ulser. Fortunately, every year she's had between 5 and 8 girls show up and spend the night and another 3-5 that come, but don't spend the night. Sorry you had such a small turnout, but maybe next year will be better, if you choose to do it again.

[CW&M Mom]

We actually had DS' fifth birthday party today, and between two preschool classes and church, we invited about 35 kids, knowing a fraction would show. There were probably about 15, which was a good group. We don't plan on doing another party for awhile for him, simply because he'll be going to public school and we won't know the families in his class. I'm not comfortable with inviting people over I don't know well, so we'll take him to a theme park or go to the beach for the weekend.

I wonder if parents don't bother because they don't want to pay for a gift. And the RSVP thing?? I don't even bother to put that anymore. I'm also surprised how many parents of 4 and 5 year olds are willing to just drop their child off and pick them up when the party is over. I couldn't do that unless my child was much older, had a cell phone, and I knew the family hosting the party.

It's a good thing you took your DD to that party though, Sarah...can you imagine how that little girl would have felt if NO ONE showed up??

When we lived in Missouri...she went to one party...one of those inside jumping things...and she was the only one that came. We invited her whole class (cause I knew the likelyhood of people showing was almost zilch) and he came..and his mom said this was the first party he had ever been invited too .

He has ADHD and well ran around our house about 2000 times..but he was a nice kid and I certainly wasn't going to single anyone out. Well he next year..we had moved here to Missouri..and she sent an invite..to our old address...so it eventually made it way down here. I FELT SO BAD...cause we live 3 hours away now.....with only a couple of days to spare, before the party..and no phone number so I couldn't get a hold of her and tell he we had moved.

There are only 2 kids in her church class..and she doesn't go to the school they do...but maybe we will try them next time instead. We have no family here...none.

[momof2inohio]

My kids have had birthday parties every year since they were 4 years old. We usually always have a pretty good turnout. We have had parties at home, sleepover parties, parties at Magic Mountain, Chuck E. Cheese, bowling, ice skating, you name it

I am with you about the RSVPs. I always send out invites 1-2 weeks in advance of the party. I give my phone number and email and say to RSVP usually by the 3rd day before the party so I can let the place know how many kids are attending if we are not having the party at home. Last year I had 2 parents RVSP the day before and then had to call back the bowling alley and add 2 more kids. I have had kids show up and not RSVP and we always get several parents who don't bother to RSVP at all. I think thats so rude!

My DS birthday is around Thanksgiving so his turnout varies. Alot of families go out of town but he usually has a decent turnout. One year my DD wanted to invite her whole preschool class. I said sure thinking that not ALL would attend. Every kid but one attended and this was one of the times we had the party at our house. The kids had a blast but it was very tiring for me

We wont be doing parties anymore for DS since he is 12. Last year was his last party and he had 8 boys over to spend the night and we took them all to Dave and Busters. This year I will let him invite a few friends and we will go wherever he wants. Probably Dave and Busters again.

Sorry about your DD's birthday I don't understand why parents don't want to bother with taking their kids to birthday parties.

[brixtonrileightaylor]

I threw my dd her first bday part 2 years ago for her 9th bday and suprisingly had a fairly nice turn out..though i didnt think we would because only 2 people rsvp'd.


she was invited to a bday party later that year for one of the girls who came to her party it was for the indoor water park we have here and i was so glad i took her because this woman went all out and my dd was the only kid that showed up too =(

[cpaige]

WOW!! How said, and horrible that people do that!!! I have one child, 19 months old, so don't know how much I can contribute, but I will tell you that my neighbor has 4 girls and between their birthday's and their friends, they are on the go constantly. Their mom is always bringing them to someone's b'day party. Are people so busy that they can't take time out to attend a child's birthday party? Do they not think how THEIR child would feel if that happened to them?? I know for my son's first b'day, we invited 50 and 40 came. And that was only family and close friends. I hope those parents wise up.