pregnant again at 19

[abond0017]

I know very well the disappointment you feel. One of my SILs had 3 children by the time she was 21 (and 2 more since). With each we were hoping it would be the last because she had and still to this day has no support from the fathers, no steady income, no education, and no home of her own. She struggles every day.

Since your sis has your support, her fiance, and his family...I think she will be fine. Just be there for her as much as you can without putting too much of a burden on yourself.

[jkljkl]

50 years ago, it was considered quite normal for a 19 year old girl to have babies. In fact, that is really the age at which a young woman should be having children. I know many here with disagree with that, but its the truth. So, I won't read any replies to this because I know they will be unpleasant. If my own daughter wants to marry and have kids in her late teens, then I will support her doing so. I married later and struggled through years of infertility and expensive (IVF) medical treatments.

Many people right now, young or old, are having a difficult time getting employed in this economy. There are some who say that if you wait for the "perfect" time to have a child, then you will never have one. Its true.

[CouponQueen23]

Well all you can do is be supportive and offer kind words and help when possible. I am the middle of 2 sisters bothe having children at a young age. My older sister having 4 by the time she was 23 and my younger sister having 6 and she is not even 30 yet. Neither of my sisters had twins or anything all single births. It had nothing to do with up bringing so I know what you mean when you say "don't bash the up bringing." My parents did a great job bringing us girls up I hate to hear people make negative comments about them. It's their life their choices all you can do it support them. If they were trying to prevent it no reason to say you should have tried harder or anything along those lines. Most cases if you were to ask some one after having a child they would most always tell you they wouldn't change a thing for the world. Or how happy they are to have had the baby couldn't imagine their life with our the baby/ children. I know they ay the economy is and everything and you sister just getting back on track and getting into school the timming is not so great but it has happened and the best thing to do is not make her/ them feel bad in any way. My younger sister came to me to tell me when she was expecting her 6 th child I was like ahhh man! I couldn't make her feel bad was really careful about what I said. He talked taht people were telling her to have an abortion she was so against it. Her baby girl will turn 3 in June and she was born with d/s and we all leave her precious little heart to pieces! My sister tells me she is so glad she talked to me. I kept her from feeling like having an abortion, let her know it is ok. We all make mistakes we live and learn. I told her her kids are gonna be the best of friends all close in age. A palymate or each other. She has 3 boys and 3 girls my older sister has 2 boys and 2 girls I have 3 boys.. I say it very often I am so glad I have boys.