I am so angry that ex husband did not contact me when dd was suicidal!!!!

[aCRaZyCoUpoNgiRl]

I have been divorced from my ex husband for over 3 years and we are NOT on a talking basis. I have not spoken to him since the bitter divorce/custody battle which he won because I did not have the will to fight it out. I was very depressed and he made me out to be unfit/unstable mother...etc...I was a SAHM for the 13 years we were together taking care of the children while he worked, yet he claimed I was unfit to take care of them. My daughter is 15 and my son is 13. I see my children every other weekend and we talk alot via cell phone & facebook. My daughter is very depressed. She has been cutting herself and she stated to counselor that she wanted to die so they sent her to the hospital because she said she tried to slash her wrists. I had to find this out via my son! You would think my exhusband would notify me somehow considering the situation! I do not know what to do considering we cannot speak to each other.... I love my daughter so much and I feel so helpless when my children live an 1 1/2 away! I don't know what to say to my ex via email. I just want to have my children come live with me....I need advice...

[angeleyeza]

I think you may need to get a lawyer for the kids moving in with you.. but iif i was you i would go to the hospital and be with her and talk to the dr and find out in some way what is wrong/ bothering her to this extreme. Let her know u are there for her and be supportive to help her get the help she needs. im sorry if this isnt much help but im nto sure what else to say

[angeleyeza]

prayers and thoughts to your family

[LaLabrowneyes]

I think you may need to get a lawyer for the kids moving in with you.. but iif i was you i would go to the hospital and be with her and talk to the dr and find out in some way what is wrong/ bothering her to this extreme. Let her know u are there for her and be supportive to help her get the help she needs. im sorry if this isnt much help but im nto sure what else to say

I agree get a good lawyer and go to the hospital....it's just wrong for him not to contact you. Prayers and hugs

[3timesoccermom]

I'm sure this is very scary and I'm sorry it's happened. If it were me, everything would have to come to a standstill so I could be with my daughter 24/7 if its allowed. She needs to know that she (and her brother) are your primary focus and that they have a solid support system. She's also going to need intense counseling.

In the meantime I don't think I'd bother with the attorneys right now. I'd be spending time looking up the reasons kids cut so you go in with at least a little insight.

Finally, for her sake you and your ex are going to have to bite the bullet and communicate. I know it has been hard in the past but sometimes exes can even go on to be friends if both parties will act responsibly and maturely. Do this now so you can save your daughter.

Best of wishes for things to turn out well for all concerned.

[CW&M Mom]

Would you have someone who he could contact..who could contact you? Friend or Family Member maybe...so if he just refuses to call you...someone would get a hold of you.

I'd also contact the hospital and find out there policy on the matter. I'm actually kind of surprised they didn't put any effort into calling you. Makes you wonder what the told them. I'd ask to be added to her medical records to be called...in case something happens again.

[wholesalebiker]

Here you go you can use the best interest of the child clause to obtain custody back.... Check your divorce papers, in MN most judges have that spot checked to revert custody in emergancy situations, I would also contact a social worker in whatever county he is in and explain your concern and the situation... It is not in the best interest of the child if she is intentionally endangering herself....

[Blessedw2]

Just BE THERE!!!! I am a child of divorced parents that haven't spoken to eachother in 30 years. My Dad gave up the fight too. Swallow your pride and just be there. She will only be in this place for a moment, but the effects will last a lifetime. Trust me, you don't want her wondering why you weren't there. I could be projecting but that's what I think! I will be praying for you!

[aCRaZyCoUpoNgiRl]

thanks for the prayers...I am a just a mess!!! Last summer, the neighbor boy who was just 18 shot himself in the head in their driveway...and I heard the gun shot the night before but I thought nothing of it because those boys were always shooting their guns. At 6:00 am, someone was knocking at our door and it was the police....they said someone commited suicide and then I put 2 n 2 together....I went to our window and their he was...IT WAS THE MOST AWFUL SIGHT TO EVER SEE...to see it on tv is one thing but to see that right across the street! He left a note saying he was heartbroken over a breakup.

Now my daughter is in crisis and I feel so helpless and scared! I could fight for them back but I don't want to do that. I don't have the funds nor the energy.

[Mermanity27]

Hang in there and be the best mom you can be. You know your daughter...talk to her like only you can. Best of wishes.