Momma Drama... massive family vent! long

[barclay13]

Your mom is hurting. I would try not to throw it in her face and just put the focus on her and what she needs from you regarding support.

If she brings up Vegas just ask her how she is holding up and tell her that you love her.

[wolfangel]

Your mother is hurting. This "MAN" that she married isn't even your blood relative and yet you are clinging on to him and won't let go. She's jealous hun. You have to remind her of her importance to you, but also that those 12 years she was married to him that because of your love for her that he was completely accepted as a member of your family and that just because he is not going to legally be your family anymore, you are choosing to have him remain in your life. That it does not have to have any affect on her, as you will not be asking her to come to Vegas and stay at his house with you, but that you are an adult and as such free to make your own decisions on who remains in your life. Let her know she raised you to be stronger than to just turn your back on someone else because you were told to. She raised you to make your own decisions independently and it's hypocritical of her to ask you to otherwise now.

[abond0017]

I agree with the above. She is upset...divorces are hard. But you need to tell her that 1. You will be there for her with whatever she needs to get through this in the way of personal support and love. BUT 2. You will not force your child to be stripped of a loved one because her anger and pain is being misdirected.

You are correct...she is divorcing him, you guys aren't....and you should tell her this in a very loving way in words that she will understand.

[lovemygirls]

I had this same type of situation in our family. My mom and step dad have been together since I was 1. When I was 16 my mom decided she wanted a divorce and wanted to move on with her new boyfriend. My mom ended up leaving me with my step dad and brother who was only 6 at the time. I have to say I have not been able to forgive her for that to this day. I would never ever leave my kids and go months without calling for any reason. My step dad is the only father I really know as a father figure. He is also the only grandpa my 2 girls know. My mom often wonders why I keep in touch with him but I remind her that he was not my sperm donor but he is my dad. Just because she left him does not mean that I need to leave him. When I got married I really was not sure what I was going to do. I know who my real father is but never really was close to him because my mom did not allow us to keep in contact. I had both of my dads walk me down the aisle. Just about a year ago my step dad was told he had cancer. It hit me really hard. I was devistated at the thought of him leaving us. He went through chemo and radiation and has done pretty well so far. I would not be who I am today without the love and support of my step dad being there for me. He has always treated me the same as my brother who is his real son. He always has done the job of a father and grandpa when he really did not need to.