Rude Customer Behind Me In Line Today

[moonbeam747]

i too have had the huffers & puffers & some that have gotten down right nasty.

I remember 1 nasty instance where a man & his wife were carrying on like 2 year olds making comments about my coupons, me tying up the line & that i should have gone to another line, that coupons were a waste of time & i was a fool to use them.

It was hard but i kept my mouth shut. However when i finished i hung around several feet away from the register but far enough out of the way "arranging" the bags in my cart, putting away my receipt, etc., etc. To kill time waiting for them to start paying. They only had approx. 20+ items to my cart full & when the cashier told them how much they owed i started laughing & true to my user name i said " youpaidwhat?? I only paid $.xx for my whole cart full & you paid $xx.xx for those few items. Who is the fool now?" look on their faces ~ priceless!! I turn & walk off while others are laughing, smiling & giving me a i must say it felt good!

i...love...this!

[shashabell]

I've had rude people behind me in line but not about my coupons. I've had a couple old ladies make rude and hurtful comments about my son. He has ADHD and autism and it's hard for him when having to stand still in one place. He does well now, but when he was a toddler and wasn't on medication it would be pure torture for him. Some told me he needed a good spanking and one person asked me if anyone ever wanted to kill him. I'd take coupon complaining over something so hurtful and personal.

[~~Who,Me?~~]

I've had rude people behind me in line but not about my coupons. I've had a couple old ladies make rude and hurtful comments about my son. He has ADHD and autism and it's hard for him when having to stand still in one place. He does well now, but when he was a toddler and wasn't on medication it would be pure torture for him. Some told me he needed a good spanking and one person asked me if anyone ever wanted to kill him. I'd take coupon complaining over something so hurtful and personal.

I know, I have a handicapped child too, and the behavior issues that accompany it. It takes a LOT of gumption, but I can tune him out and push him in a cart, crying and screaming, while I'm trying to put together deal transactions. I'm sure that in the minds of others, it totally does NOT make sense, and I can tell by their faces they're thinking "Does she really need to get 10 laundry detergents and use coupons right NOW, with that kid carrying on like that?" But they don't get it.

If I turned around and went home every time he had a fit, we'd never leave the house. And I don't want him to think that if you don't want to do something, like shop, then you just throw a tantrum and you don't have to do it.

When I get rude or hurtful comments, I look the people right in the eye and say, "He's handicapped and doesn't process things the way you & I do. Thanks for your concern." That usually shuts them up. And you're right, it usually is the older generation, because really, 50 or 60 years ago, they just institutionalized children like this, didn't keep them in the home and raise them. Younger parents usually have kids that go to school with lots of kids with autism, so they're better at recognizing it.

I feel I out it to my (non-verbal) son to call their BS when I see it. After all, he can't defend himself.

Hijack over.

[tinkinpink84]

I do not like taking my son out in public! Not sure what is issue is. but lately he has been using foul language! But with my husband gone sometimes I just have no choice but to take them out together. Otherwise i usually do it while he is at school. He used to be the kid screaming bloody murder in the store! Being 5 he isnt so bad now. But alot of older people think every child deserves a beating. But now a days a a swat on the hand might end up in a call to cps! Thankfully i have not ran into rude people ever! You get the people that just look at ya. Wich is all ive noticed but no one has ever actually said anything to my face.'
Reminds me of target in fla. my daughter is 4. at 4 they are gonna tell you what they see 100% honesty. She mentioned that she saw two big people. No one giggled or anything and i told her not to say that but they decided to be rude about the entire situation. She is a 4 yr old stating a fact and we didnt sit there and laugh when she said it. They had no kids with them so not sure if they understand how matter of fact lil ones can be!

[jkljkl]

Yeah and say with gas going up everyday who can afford to pay full price for anything . I can't wait for the day to come (though I hope it doesn't-it will) that the same people that think I'm nuts for stockpiling say you were so smart to do it .

I used to think Qs were a waste of time, but I did not really understand how to use them effectively.

[wolfangel]

I've had rude people behind me in line but not about my coupons. I've had a couple old ladies make rude and hurtful comments about my son. He has ADHD and autism and it's hard for him when having to stand still in one place. He does well now, but when he was a toddler and wasn't on medication it would be pure torture for him. Some told me he needed a good spanking and one person asked me if anyone ever wanted to kill him. I'd take coupon complaining over something so hurtful and personal.

Get to know the store management at your store. If your son is just having one of those moments (I have friends with autistic children) and you can see its going to deteriorate, then you should be able to ask the customer service manager for an accommodation of them checking you out without having to wait in line. But...make the arrangements ahead of time. Let them know you will not abuse it, but need to know that you can make the request if it becomes necessary.

Quote the Americans with Disabilities Act if you need to, but there should be no reason for you to have to work with your son when he is having a difficult time and be subjected to the abuse from rude people as well.

[wolfangel]

I know, I have a handicapped child too, and the behavior issues that accompany it. It takes a LOT of gumption, but I can tune him out and push him in a cart, crying and screaming, while I'm trying to put together deal transactions. I'm sure that in the minds of others, it totally does NOT make sense, and I can tell by their faces they're thinking "Does she really need to get 10 laundry detergents and use coupons right NOW, with that kid carrying on like that?" But they don't get it.

If I turned around and went home every time he had a fit, we'd never leave the house. And I don't want him to think that if you don't want to do something, like shop, then you just throw a tantrum and you don't have to do it.

When I get rude or hurtful comments, I look the people right in the eye and say, "He's handicapped and doesn't process things the way you & I do. Thanks for your concern." That usually shuts them up. And you're right, it usually is the older generation, because really, 50 or 60 years ago, they just institutionalized children like this, didn't keep them in the home and raise them. Younger parents usually have kids that go to school with lots of kids with autism, so they're better at recognizing it.

I feel I out it to my (non-verbal) son to call their BS when I see it. After all, he can't defend himself.

Hijack over.

I love your comment. All of it. Yes, your child is handicapped and yet you are still setting boundaries and letting him know that he cannot throw a tantrum simply to get his way. Too often, this doesn't happen. And I LOVE your response to people. It's not rude, it's not too in your face, it's very much a polite yet firm way of saying "hey stupid.....did you ever consider...?" Good for you!!

I love it when Mothers stand up firmly and intelligently for their children, what a great example!