What is best for a child of divorced parents?

[CW&M Mom]

He can also have the court order the mother to not speak about the custody issues....

[padmelupin]

He can also have the court order the mother to not speak about the custody issues....

True. It is very hard to enforce though.

Your BF needs to go to court. For everyone's sake, especially the kid's.

Before my DH got custody, we had 2 days, then BM had 2 days. It was hellish. Now we're pretty well every-other-weekend with dinner in the off weeks. That works really well for us and for SS. I frankly don't care if it works for BM. It's more time with SS than the court ordered, so she should be thrilled.

[whatsfree4me]

Your boyfriend better wake up fast. He needs the courts because it is the only way to truly force the ex's hand. He is not damaging his child-- the kids mother has done this already. It is your boyfriends responsibility to minimize her exposure to maintain stability.

I agree with this. Your BF needs to do what's in the best interest for his son and not worry about rocking the boat. Unless he does something now, it just might backfire in his face. The mother sounds unstable in her day to day life...who is to say the next time she leaves the state, she won't take the son with her.

The courts are used to this kind of thing. They are not going to make the boy get involved any more than necessary. He is six years old and kids that age adjust pretty well. It's only going to get harder as he gets older. It is best to try to stabalize his environment now before he gets older.