Annoyed!

[tinkinpink84]

I posted about this in the vent section as well. With my couponing buddy who asked me if she could have A razor. Im pretty sure A means one by anyones definition. Well she went and took 5! I figured i had lots more left too but still i didnt say a few or a couple i said she could have A razor no plural in their! Well I looked and i only have one proglide in their! I do have other razors as well but that dont matter . its my stuff! I did pay something for this stuff! I did post a comment on her wall on facebook and told her that when i said she could have A razor i didnt mean all of them! She also took a shaving cream that i didnt even say she could have! Her kids get on my nerves lately as well. They come over and play with my kids but the 4 of em together get the dogs riled up to wanna play. Well her son got nipped on his ear after riling the dog up and she keeps acting like my dog attacked her son! She scratched his ear because he got her all excited now he acts terrified of my dog cuz none of them can leave the dogs alone and run around like nuts and in and out the house so we cant even keep the dogs outside when they are over!
Another thing she doesnt know coupon etiquette. SHe will use expired coupons and cut off the dates or use it on a different product that isnt specified then tels the cashier to scan it cuz it will work. Its nice to have a couponing friend it is just annoying that she does these things! She is one of those that buys stuff just cuz she has coupons like buy it with a coupon but it doesnt even come up cheap or anything. I try and teach her but its a lost cause because i follow the rules. I think she just took 5 of my razors so she can have her own stockpile but taking my stuff isnt gonna cut it! I dunno it just really irks me! I havent talked to her at all today aside from leaving her a comment on facebook wich i havent gotten a response from.
My father in law comes over and takes stuff from my stockpile but he does ask first and its usually just one of something maybe 2. Hubby had a piff about him taking stuff but willingly let his dad have some when he asked the other day. But then i find out his dad pawned our chainsaw because he was broke the chainsaw my husband bought back in march brand new with our tax money! So heres to hoping we get our chain saw back! No one told me about this either hubby ended up telling me somehow. And then last year hubby wasted $600 on a trailor thing to haul crap on the back of his truck. Well we have never even used the thing. but gues where that has been. Ya at his dads! His dad uses it to haul his ride on lawn mower to mow yards on the side. So the trailor has never been at our house until we asked him to bring it back to haul our carpet and couch away. shouldnt have to ask to use something that belongs to us! Cant wait till his dad can get the truck out of our name. he is trying to do that now. Because im sooo over being nice to people. Id rather have no friends and no drama. I always feel like i am being used.
Why do i feel bad for being a good person and why cant i be friends with good people that dont use me!
On another note im soo over eating normal. my eating habits have been all over the place and i usually dont eat much and the past 2 days ive had 3 meals but my stomach hurts and i feel like crap from eating normal because my body isnt used to it and i really hate feeling miserable and cruddy!
ready for this carpet to get installed so i aint got my stockpile sitting on my counters for idle hands to see and grab! I seriously dont even like leaving my purse anywhere when my friends over. because twice i swear i had $20 that dissapeared but im not 100% sure if i did have $20 or not. BUt im pretty sure i did in my wallet the 2 times ive went to use my cash! So yeah i shouldnt have to feel like that. friends should be able to trust one another.

[rachellepeters]

That is pretty rude...I'd say let it go for now and the next time she asks for anything say NO :) Tell her you decided to give them away for Xmas gifts or gift bags for birthdays. If she ever asks why, just make a joke about it and tell her the last time she asked for a razor, she took 5, and you had to end up going out and paying for them because you ran out (thats a fib, but not her business). Some people are rude and unappreciative. She had her chance....and not again :) If she's a couponer....you can get free razors almost every month at a store. She should be able to get free's herself from now on!

[tinkinpink84]

I know she really can get them she has the same coupons i have! It wouldnt have bugged me as much besides the fact that i said A not a bunch and if i had more left at least! I said something about them not being the best razors but none of the ones i use i have found awesome so i guess she assumed i hated them but uh im married and my husband has to shave everyday for work! She should know her BF is military. Im pretty sure she gave them to him though. They are in a drawer thing in my bathroom but Once my carpet is put in they are getting moved. Because i dunno i just hate trusting people and they screw it up so i gotta move the opportunities. Ill just tell her my husband said i cant give anyone any of our stuff. cuz it is kinda the truth. he would be sooo angry if he knew i gave her one razor! So yeah he dont know about this situation. the least she coulda done was give my 5 bucks! Cuz im pretty sure i paid $1-$2 for each of those razors! I really shoulad got more the past 2 weeks cvs had them but i havent been out to cvs in a while! i just dont like rude ungrateful people.

[mommy22boys]

That stinks! I hate being taken advantage of for being a nice person. It happens to me like pretty much daily! I have co-worker who is 8 months pg, left her husband so she could go act like a teenager all over town, she drags her 3yr old daughter out to bars and parties all hours of the night.... then at work she acts like such a victim cause she has no money and no car and blah, blah... I was being nice a couple of times and let her borrow my car to take her daughter across town to a doctor appointment and another time to cash her paycheck. Now I literally have to hide my purse and keys or she will just help herself to my car or change for the soda machine (I don't carry much cash really.... and its a good thing!)

It's upsetting when you try to be nice to someone and be a good friend and you feel like they just take advantage!

Best of luck with your situation!

[tinkinpink84]

I say nothing to his dad because his dad has a mouth and a smart atitude that i dont feel like hearing! One weekend i was like realy sick prob had the flu and was doing my laundry and his dad had dropped his off before that. I did his laundry and stuff but didnt fold it cuz i felt like total crud and he picked it up and i told him i was sick cuz he asked why didnt fold it then hes like bull$%^& basically calling me a liar. I really really really hate my father in law. Luckily he never seems to have the gas to come over here much anymore thank goodness! And since our washer broke over a month ago he stopped bringing his laundry by. We have a working washer now but thank goodness he doesnt bring his nasty clothes by.

[tinkinpink84]

That stinks! I hate being taken advantage of for being a nice person. It happens to me like pretty much daily! I have co-worker who is 8 months pg, left her husband so she could go act like a teenager all over town, she drags her 3yr old daughter out to bars and parties all hours of the night.... then at work she acts like such a victim cause she has no money and no car and blah, blah... I was being nice a couple of times and let her borrow my car to take her daughter across town to a doctor appointment and another time to cash her paycheck. Now I literally have to hide my purse and keys or she will just help herself to my car or change for the soda machine (I don't carry much cash really.... and its a good thing!)

It's upsetting when you try to be nice to someone and be a good friend and you feel like they just take advantage!

Best of luck with your situation!

I soo know how that is i had a friend in germany that was like that. She had 2 kids and stayed with me while our hubbys were deployed and would go out with her friends and stuff for 8 hrs at a time and leave me with her kids. and never buy anything herself and ran up my house phone and everything. Her hiusband was army too! they had an issue and involved a restraining order but she could go to the commander to get money from him to take care of their kids she just chose not to! The first year back in the states i had no friends whatsoever and didnt have a problem with that. Well i had one that i talked to on occasion ive known her since we were in like 6th grade and she is one of the few good people in the world but right now shes living im missouri .

[tmsmalley]

Sorry, but I wouldn't let someone run wild through my stockpile and just shop willy nilly unless I didn't care what they took. If you wanted her to have A razor, you should have opened the cupboard and given her 1. And if her kids are wild in your house, either step in and let them know that's not acceptable or don't have her over again.

Personally, I'd say you need to raise your sites for friendship and find a new coupon buddy.

Tess

[tinkinpink84]

Oh i did let her kids know what was up. her 10 yr old decided to sulk in the corner. he is old enough to know better though seriously. I seriously raised my voice and said the dog does that because you guys keep running by her cage tormenting her then when she is out your screaming and running around getting her excited if you dont want her to jump then stop screamin!
This was the first time she had asked for anything she said can I have A razor so i said yeah cuz A is one! I saw she had 5 assumed i had plenty more till i looked when i went upstairs later after she had left. 2 other times id given her some mayo and ragu. because i got a few mayos set to expire in october and we dont eat a crap ton of it. Im bringing some mayo to my sisters as well. Needless to say if i offer then ok but if ya ask then im not allowed. Ill see if she still talks to me after that. usually she texts me or something during the day but i have not hear from her at all today not even a reply from the comment i left her. Im done sharing my coupons with her too. its like my sister in law i gave her shampoo coupons for freida once and she lost them! so i dont send her anymore. i could have used them! I try and be nice but it always backfires. Its like you gotta be careful in choosing friends. I shop with her sometimes but not too often. harris teeter and walmart is the only places we go really. Once we had a cvs trip well i had my stuff planned she didnt plan hers out then she freaked that her total was soo high but she didnt organize or plan her trip at all then sorta got an atitude with the cashier saying he did something wrong when she put all her stuff up there like she was doing it all at once. I had no clue what she was trying to do so i just stood back and let her do whatever she was trying to do but she ended up not buying anything and complaining that HE did it all wrong when it was her fault. i just kinda looked at him like i dunno wtf she was trying to do and we arent like best buds haha so dont think im nuts like her. I coupon and i do it right and plan my trips according. I throw out all my expireds well donate em overseas I dont try and use them! Nor would i tel a cashier to try it because it will go through. Thats called we gotta watch this lady when she shops and i dont wanna be associated with that!

[tinkinpink84]

Lookin back i soo shoulda totally went upstairs and got it myself for her! So stupid me for letting her get it (them).

[everprincess]

Yeah I think the pp is right you need to find a new friend. I hate that when people just don't understand the time and effort it takes to do this. To them they just think well she has soo many she doesn't need them all. I go through razors and shaving cream like water! I help out my mother all the time and I don't might doing it. But she criticizes me for my couponing hobby and my stockpile all the time. Then this week she hurt my feelings after I stayed up late clipping her q's for triples. She complained about the q's and the size of the bag of chips I had q's for. I told her this is what I have to work with I can't do any better. I would just tell your friend you are taking a break from couponing and go shopping by yourself. It's nice to have a coupon buddy but not one who doesn't want to put in the time and effort to get their "own" deals.