A thank you would be nice

[bali1228]

I've sent baby coupons to a member here, went out of my way to ask if that person if he/she could use it bc I knew he/she had a kid. I clipped it, mailed it and never heard a word back about it. Not the most pleasant experience.

MyTWO YEAR OLD says thank you to EVERYONE. We were out to dinner with my in-laws and when the waitress came by with refills, my DD said thank you. My FIL was stunned. When we go thru a drive thru, she yells thank you from the back seat. Amazes me some adults don't get this concept.

My three year old is the same way, I think people are shocked because it's so rare these days. No one trains their kids to say please, thank you, and may I's anymore.....

[tinkinpink84]

I havent ran into that problem. I havent ever just given coupons. Ive traded in a RAOK. just cuz thats how i am, if i get something even if it is a RAOK they deserve a lil something in return for their work! As nutty as my kids are they are polite! Ill make them something and my daughter will say no thank you i dont like that! I got them a nightlight when they were asleep one night the other got lost and plugged it in while they were asleep. I got woken up to my 4 yr old telling me thanks for getting them a nightlight! I am always super nice to people. I dont expect a thank you in return cuz well not everyones like me. But it is nice that they recognize the good deed and thank someone for taking the time out to think of them and do it! I alway swave my hand as a thanks if someone lets me go ahead while driving etc. And i let people go as well. But in general im a generous person. get it from my dad and gpa. But i also sorta have a people pleaser type personality. In the end you did your part and that was a good deed. So you can feel good about diong something for someone even though they didnt acknowledge it back to you. I just helped a friend of mine in fla do her first cvs deal. She wrote back on my facebook wall a thank you, Wasnt expecting it but it makes ya feel good to hear or see it though! you feel more appreciated for your efforts.

[3timesoccermom]

Also, what's cuter than a little kid saying "thank you?" Just makes you swoon.

[billig]

I think most of us on this board have had the same experience trying to help others save money...unless they've asked for it, they don't really want it.

[hburnette3]

I think most of us on this board have had the same experience trying to help others save money...unless they've asked for it, they don't really want it.

I actually receive more thanks when I give Q's to complete strangers when I shop than when I give Q's to family. Around here when you reach out and help someone save money it's like you've made a friend for life. Seriously they ever forget.

a few examples
Once a gave a lady a Q at Wally Work for deodorant. We chatted for a while she thanked me 2 or 3 times. I had a warm fuzzy feeling. Then at Rite Aid, later that day, I ran into the same lady. She had to go get her hubby so he could meet the wonderful lady she'd been telling him about.

The other week at Wags I was getting an almost free razor. At the register the cashier tells me she was planning on getting one for her husband since the RR made it a good deal. I gave her a Q and told her how it would make it 89¢. She was thrilled. Yesterday when I was in there (a good while later) she brings it up again and thanks me more.

but family just expect it.

example

"just stick them on the fridge" nothing else said

[angeleyeza]

personally i know i am behind on feedback with 6 kids its a busy life I try to get them done one at a time. I try to get it done but sometimes you just forget or hope someone sends you a msg.

[everprincess]

I gave up a long time doing this for family. I gave my stepmom free meters since she is a diabetic-no thank you at all. I have given winetags to my dad for her-no thank you. I have given rebate forms to several members of my extended family and got the deer in the headlights look. I traded for calendar rebates for my mom-she claims I never gave them to her-$80 down the drain someone else could have used. If someone asks me for a coupon or help I will try but volunteering has stopped. I will give shoppers in the store q's though since they seem to appreciate it more than anyone else does. This just isn't for everyone. The ones who do not do it don't understand the amount of time and effort we all put forth to get good deals. It's hard enough for me to do the deals I can't help everyone who doesn't get "it".

[tinkinpink84]

Ive given people coupons at the store. I see them grabbing something that might be a super good deal so i dig through my coupons and im like i have some coupons you can have for those makes em this amount wich is like super cheap! Makes a strangers day and they always say thnks. I dunno how many times i thanked the cashier today at harris teeter lol. Having issues keeping my kids where i can see them and he ran all the way to my car to give me my daughters book that got left at his register! think im about done helpin the FIL. he just aint worth the effort. he seems to only come by when he is broke.......yeah.
It sucks putting effort into something just for them to not say anything at all! ive never given my in laws any rebate forms cuz i know theyd never use em! I would hate to see savings down the drain that someone else could have and would have gladly used! Im sad that i have 2 MIR on fruit and veggies for NC only but now its soo soon to mail it out it wouldnt get there and get mailed back out again in time for the postmarked date of the 15th :(.
I would never keep helping someone when they show no gratitude whatsoever to you helping them! Once or twice is nice but after that then it goes to feeling like your being used!

[Sally C]

This isn't about them, it's about you.

You are a kind individual.

You chose to give something that fit the recipeint might need and enjoy.

You went out of your way to be gracious.

You were sensitive and caring.

You did the best for them that you could.

You did something selfless.

Our world needs more people like you.

[nurseannette]

It's just common courtesy.
I once sent someone some formula, the formula was free to me(it was samples from where I worked at the time) but shipping the formula was kinda pricey, so I was really hoping to hear from this person to make sure it got to where it was going. Sadly, it was a looong time before I heard back and then it was only after I messaged her. I was kind of disappointed in her but that is just how most people are these days.