My ds wants to quit baseball the coach plays way too much favortizim

[CouponQueen23]

My son is 11 this is his second year of little league. He played on the same team last year. It is one of those teams wear its a sort of a clic type of thing, Family friends who you know type of thing. Last year my ds didn't get to play very much we took it as it was his first year he is new he will work his way up. This year there are 4 new kids. Younger at that 1 boys dad helps out during games the other 2 seem to be fairly good freinds with the main coach.

My beef is this year my son seem to hardly play at all. I talked to the coach his resond was my son asked to sit, out one inning because he hurt his foot that was one inning, he was sat the rest of the game. Each game after that he plays mabey 1 to 2 innings in the field and bats twice if he's lucky. I am not gonna toot his horn saying he's that he's the best player or anything. My problem is he is playing his kid every inning, the coach helper every inning. New kids are batting way more than my son. WTH! I told my son to speak up and ask what is going on tell him you wanna play he said I do but he says he needs to get all the kids in.
See I am there every game I see my son and another boy who is not in the clic seem to be the ones pulled so every kid can play just about the entire game.
This has me frustrated to no end. I am not sure how to handle this I can tell you what I wanna do, but I will hold my tounge. My Dh misses alot of ds games because of his work schedule but the 2 games DH was able to make he watched our son hit almost the hole game we were both pretty upset when we left. DH won't go to anymore games he said why would I wanna go watch everyone elses kids play the game. I agree.
Tonight ds told me he just wants to quit I would like him to stick it out a few more games till the end of base ball, I can't stand seeing him hurt though. He has a practice tonight but looks like he is not going he just is so frustrated about the last game up to bat once out field once. He says why bother they don't want me playing.
He has a game tommoro I put his base ball jersey in the wash tonght I am debating to just give it back to the coach and tell him he's done he signed up to play base ball not to watch.
Don't know what else to say:sad:

[CouponQueen23]

I can't seem to edit here but what I meant to type was the game Dh watched Dh watched ds sit most of the game.

[allison1887]

I know how you feel. Please don't let your son quit- It will teach him much more in the long run to tough it out. I would maybe try and find another team in another area. I too know how it feels for your son to sit and a helper's son stay in the whole game. We have battled this all year and my son is going to a different team next year. Little league has always been this way even when I played. My parents didn't kiss arse and I don't and well......you know what happens. I feel for you son because yes it does SUCK!

[CouponQueen23]

Basically right after I posted here I got a call from his coach asking if my son wanted to play because he wasn't at practice tonight. The first time he missed practice it is a big deal. Apparntly he talked to the president of the league well I'd like to get my hands on that number I have some things to talk about.
Anyway he went on to tell me this and that about why he did the things the way he did. In a round about way telling me my son was of no use to the team. Which pretty much pushed my last button. I basically told him they never gave my son a chance. I and went on to how my dh wouldn't go because of them not playing our son. Then tells me if my son plays the last 3 games he will get him in the game atleast 3 innings. I said you know what. I told Ds I didn't want him to quit but you know what I think were done. Let it be me to call the shots here! I walked in the other room to see ds listening in on the phone call he looked like he was so proud of me. The look on his face was priceless. I wish he didn't have to hear some of the crap that his coach was saying the coach had no idea that ds was listening in but then after coach got done running his mouth I asked ds if there was anything he wanted to say. Ds shook his head. I wanted him to call his coach on some of the bs. I hope coach feels like a real champ having ds hear how he felt about him. Alot of what coach was saying was bs about why he played him the way he did but what ever. I feel better now than I did a couple hours ago. I will be relieved after I talk to the president.

I just can't understand why games need to be so judgemental of kids they are kids, fragile, they want to learn and have fun then the coaches need to get all serious.

I will be checking about ds playing for another team next year. He likes baseball.

[missmichelle01]

The same thing happened when my son (who is now 22) was in little league. I told him he had to finish what he started (a character building skill) then he wouldn't have to play again. It did suck and I told him why he had to stay: Finish what you start.

[momof2inohio]

I'm sorry that your son is having a rough season. I understand. 2 years ago my DS had a really bad football coach. He didn't have fun that year or want to go to practice and he loves football. He stuck it out though and last year he was put on a much better team with a great coach.

[shashabell]

My younger brother played Little League when he was growing up. Yep, I've seen favoritism as well. All the coaches kids and their friends kids all made the all stars (which the coaches had to vote the kids in.)
I do believe that Little League has rules on kids playing. They're all supossed to get a certain amount of innings in each game.
If you have a complaint about the coach, you should definetly contact Williamsport and report the problem.

[Prithee]

Oh yes, I have kids that come into my clinic and cry because their coaches are jerks. Normally the kids have no parents to deal with these jerks so I make it my business and talk to the coaches.
You have to be your child's number one ADVOCATE. Go over the coach's head if you have to and make it plain you will not be quiet while you son is being excluded.
Once the coach sees you will not be bullied, he will more then likely do the right thing.

If not, make sure everyone knows what a jerk he is and demand your son play on another team next season.

[leqet]

So sorry you DS had that experience. Have you ever heard of Upward sports? Providing the best sports experience for every child They are mainly run by church groups, but you don't have to be a member of the church (or even a Christian) to sign up. The focus is on encouraging healthy competition without focusing on "winning at all costs". They try to build up every kid and give each kid fair game play time and encouragement to do their best. It sounds like that coach was more interested in winning as many games as possible than he was in making every kid feel like a part of the team. I hope your DS can find a team to belong to that builds him up instead of tearing him down.

[CouponQueen23]

Thanks everyone this seems to be a very common issue. I am curious what williamsport. I know during my phone conversation tonight with the coach he went on to tell me he's good friends with the president of the league so I kind of think this may go no where. I will voice my opinion though it is important to me. I hope me telling the coach ds is done won't effect his chance of playing next year. That was my choice not ds. I just heard enough to end it right there. I totally think it is wrong to put my son down when he hardly play what do they expect of him. I finally had a chance to talk to dh tonight and he is fumming mad he said he is glad he wasn't here we probly would have made a trip to the ball field tonight. I am thinking it wouldn't have been good. I did stop and return ds jersy and pants tonight. Just smiled and said ds sure does love baseball though, and walked away.