Why does all logical thought leave when you enter middle school?

[dalton&riley]

My son tried to log on to his facebook account yesterday and could not get on due to an incorrect password. We were not sure what happened and did not have time to find out yesterday. I just got a call from DS after school today. Turns out he thinks that his friend had watched him type in his password and logged in under his account. He wrote all sorts of stuff on his page like "I'm gay" and "I have a boyfriend". There was a lot of stuff to this nature on there. His friend also changed DS password so that he could not access. The friend was going around today at school telling everyone what he had done and the new password so that they too could access his page. DS was really upset when I talked to him because all of our family was able to see this, but luckily had another friend help him change it back and reset password. ARGH. What is the matter with middle schoolers? Why do they have to be so mean?

[kimandkathess]

I don't know why they are so mean but do have fears of this when my kids enter middle school. Kids are so brutal these days and no adults within the educational institutes seem to care these days. Just look at what happened to that poor girl who was bullied to the point of suicide.
If it gets any worse I will be homeschooling my children. I have already looked into what I need to do.

[brandee]

I work with middle schoolers and I wonder this same thing everyday!

[Macaela25]

Have you contacted the school? This is a form of bullying, and it does apply to the school since the kid bragged about it and told everyone the password. Middle schoolers pull this crap to bolster their own self-esteem and try to impress their friends.

[dalton&riley]

So, I got a call from my mother yesterday asking if DS was on his facebook account. I called him right away and he was not on there. After talking with my mom again, someone had accessed his page again and was cussing to my mom through private chat. My husband and I were just going to ignore it the first time, but this set us over the edge. DH called both of the other kids parents last night. He was so mad that he also called the police to see if there was anything that we could do. Unfortunately, there isn't, but we can contact facebook and have their accounts shut down. They did say that facebook may be able to take some recourse on the situation.

I think we are going to wait it out and see if it happens again since the parents have been contacted. DS changed password again and he has been instructed to only log on from our personal computer or my blackberry. I know both sets of parents and I think that it will be stopped, but it's sad that it ever started to begin with.

[3timesoccermom]

I think hormones have a lot to do with the things kids do at that age though that wouldn't really explain the garbage done to your son.

If he were my son I would tell him that obviously the "friend??" is envious of him for some reason and feels the need to humiliate him to try to make himself look "cool" or something.

[cupunlvr]

That is so not cool! I think you did the right thing in contacting the school when the profane chat started, clearly it was not going to stop at that point.

I dealt with a similar situation when my daughter was in middle school when 2 "friends" were bullying her thru chat. I contacted the girls personally and told them I had read that chats, was deeply disappointed in their behavior (these girls had been in my home so I knew them on a personal level) and if it continued I would contact their parents and the school. It stopped.

I do, however, think your situation is more severe and you were right to get the school involved early on. If there is so much as a peep out of the offenders again I would call the parents personally or maybe visit them face to face. Good luck.

[~~Who,Me?~~]

I would still contact the school. Not necessarily in hopes of seeing the kids punished, but to let them know what is going on. This is bullying and shouldn't be tolerated, and needs to be documented. Chances are if they've bullied your son this time, they will do it again, and you need to have documentation.

I also can't believe they can log into fb from school--it's blocked at our school.

[shetlandponyluvr]

Good for you for contacting the parents! Serves the little brats right.

[CW&M Mom]

You also need to contact FB and let them know what happened...they literally can kick the other kid off of FB if needed.