Question - Revenge - What do you think?

[3timesoccermom]

I'm a nice person. But when I see things like the following, I am shocked and alarmed at where my mind goes in wishing harm upon the perpetrator.

Then I realize thinking that way makes me almost as bad as them!

What do you think?

Body of NJ Infant ara Malani-Lin Abdur-Raheem Thrown From Bridge Believed Found - AOL News

[meems]

I personally believe in Karma, reincarnation...not necessarily in the soul coming back to earth, but the soul having the option of coming to earth to continue to grow spiritually, etc..I could add lots of details, but you get my drift...that said, I believe that way I do because it balances out the injustices in the world, it's the only thing that makes me sane.

So..that baby, while it's current life has ended, it hasn't "ended" the person who did the horrible action, it's not just erased, it's imprinted & does work itself out. Maybe it's just my way of putting blinders on a bit..cushioning the blow to make it more palitable..I don't know, it's hard for me to put my thoughts into words..so I probably confuggled this one up...

[$Saving!]

I so very well understand your anger and ill wishes when you see things like that :sad:

I went through 4 years of fertility work and during that time cried every month when I wasn't pregnant. All the while reading stories or seeing on the news babies left in dumpsters or killed intentionally in some horrific fashion and I would scream out to God to answer why!

I still struggle with my anger over things like the story you linked. But as I have aged, I've come to see enough of the karma bus making it's deliveries to know that what goes around, truly does come around. It has helped take the edge off.

And even though I was always told not to question God, I do have a short list of questions when I make my appearance at the pearly gates (before I'm sent away no doubt!) that have festered in my mind for so long, this being one.

[faeryedark]

I used to be a highly vengeful person. If you crossed me or hurt people I care about, I would get you. I didn't care how long it took.
But older and wiser I see it can be a never ending cycle. I go after X even if I feel completely justified and then so and so or their loved ones comes after me and mine...around and around it goes.
Like a previous poster, I find that Karma eventually "gets them"
I'm seeing this in my life right now. Someone who was extremely hurtful to us (friends and familY) even going so far at one point, as making death threats against one of my best-friends is getting trampled by Karma in a way, that we never could have dreamed of. You'd think we'd be elated...we're merely saddened.

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This baby's killler will mostly likely get 'his".

[CocoB]

I think that thing (he doesn't deserve to be called a man) that killed his baby should die a very slow and painful death and I don't feel terrible at all for thinking that.

[couponsmakecents]

I would not call it revenge but rather your sense of justice rising to the surface and demanding to be heard. I don't sit around and wish ill on those who hurt, kill, mane, etc. others but rather want what is just to come to them for their actions.

[3timesoccermom]

I do. That's what concerns me. It doesn't consume my day but when I come across incidents like the one described I do wish revenge on the person that did it. Doesn't that make me just as bad??

If I knew for sure karma got them I wouldn't stress but I highly doubt that's true.

I would not call it revenge but rather your sense of justice rising to the surface and demanding to be heard. I don't sit around and wish ill on those who hurt, kill, maim, etc. others but rather want what is just to come to them for their actions.

[NIGHTB1022]

I do. That's what concerns me. It doesn't consume my day but when I come across incidents like the one described I do wish revenge on the person that did it. Doesn't that make me just as bad??

If I knew for sure karma got them I wouldn't stress but I highly doubt that's true.

Well I think if you didn't feel anything you wouldn't be human. Honestly I didn't read the article because I would be wanting to kill the person that did that to a child, so I thought it better not to read it, just the headline was enough to infuriate me.

What I think you are feeling isn't so much revenge, but the intense feelings you have for something that mentally hurts you, KWIM? It's something hard to describe but I know what you feel, I feel it too when I see things like this in the headlines, it's because our souls have no tolerance for pain cast upon children is what I think it is. I dunno did I explain it right? It's kinda like hurt them you hurt me just as bad.

But I totally believe in karma and I have seen it's effects and sometimes it is not pretty. And usually karma gets the best of a bad "perp" as the cops call them. Kinda like the black souls at the end of the movie ghost that came and consumed Sam's best friend Carl at the end.

I think you are normal to feel such strong emotions for something that enrages you, and everyone has a trigger for something that trips the cortisol hormone when something stresses us out.

[3timesoccermom]

NightB, many times I do just as you described, just avoid it altogether. However, I thought this article was about a different baby - the one that was taken by his mom and supposedly given away some time back and I was hoping there had been a happy resolution. Maybe that case has been closed, I don't know.

Anyway, I clicked on this thinking it was that case; I had never heard of this guy doing this.

It might be like you said here:" ...isn't so much revenge, but the intense feelings you have for something that mentally hurts you" and the rest of your explanation is logical. But I know there are others who hear about these things, and sure, they are very upset for the child/family, etc., but they don't start thinking of horrible things want to happen to the person that committed the crime.

I'm 100% in agreement with Coco', and then THAT'S still too good for the freak.

[bali1228]

I wish I could believe in karma, unfortunately it seems more like the opposite. The nastiest people always seem to have the most, they always "get over" on everyone else. Guess that's why only the good die young{ that's one I've also found to be true, sadly}

As far as the article, I couldn't bring myself to read it, as I also seem to have an inordinate need for vengeance.