Man...I used to like that song.

[texwifeinct]

The moral of this story is that maybe OP you should try to be a little more tolerant and a little less judgemental because you never know what her life is like.


Well gosh I thought by not going up to her and asking her if she needed assistance with her child or say "hey kid shut it" I was being tolerant. But I did wish to vent so that negates that huh?

And I stated in my last post that you know he could have had some type of problem and that could have been the cause of the issue and I could understand that with the exception of the fact that the trip was not "quick" and if the child did have an issue the environment he was in obviously caused him undue stress. But go ahead and judge away.. I am abig intolerant meanie guess I should quit all of my volunteer work with special needs children huh. Weirdly enough the teacher I work with always stesses that we should not let the students use their disabilty as an excuse for poor behavior.:shrug7:

Maybe I just need to get some ear plugs.

[CW&M Mom]

The moral of this story is that maybe OP you should try to be a little more tolerant and a little less judgemental because you never know what her life is like.


Well gosh I thought by not going up to her and asking her if she needed assistance with her child or say "hey kid shut it" I was being tolerant. But I did wish to vent so that negates that huh?

And I stated in my last post that you know he could have had some type of problem and that could have been the cause of the issue and I could understand that with the exception of the fact that the trip was not "quick" and if the child did have an issue the environment he was in obviously caused him undue stress. But go ahead and judge away.. I am abig intolerant meanie guess I should quit all of my volunteer work with special needs children huh. Weirdly enough the teacher I work with always stesses that we should not let the students use their disabilty as an excuse for poor behavior.:shrug7:

Maybe I just need to get some ear plugs.

My sister is getting her PH D in spec ed...and she feels exactly the same way.


I also think you can route "almost" all horrible behavior at a grocery store/department store in very young children too:

Hungry
Tired
Sick
Bored out of there mind.
Bad parenting

And in all of those scenarios....the parent should act like a parent and act accordingly. Feed Child, put Child to bed, get child proper medical attention, entertain child or discipline child.

Even when they child is throwing a temper tantrum over a sucker..odds are one of the first 4...is the actual cause of the tantrum.

[ScrappyDoo]

The moral of this story is that maybe OP you should try to be a little more tolerant and a little less judgemental because you never know what her life is like.


Well gosh I thought by not going up to her and asking her if she needed assistance with her child or say "hey kid shut it" I was being tolerant. But I did wish to vent so that negates that huh?

And I stated in my last post that you know he could have had some type of problem and that could have been the cause of the issue and I could understand that with the exception of the fact that the trip was not "quick" and if the child did have an issue the environment he was in obviously caused him undue stress. But go ahead and judge away.. I am abig intolerant meanie guess I should quit all of my volunteer work with special needs children huh. Weirdly enough the teacher I work with always stesses that we should not let the students use their disabilty as an excuse for poor behavior.:shrug7:

Maybe I just need to get some ear plugs.

You're not a meanie, and volunteering with special needs kids is irrelevant to this particular discussion. I also am not advocating poor behavior. All I am saying is that this mother is probably just as embarrassed as you are irritated. I had two instances I can remember when my kids had meltdowns in stores. One was met with helpful people who smiled at me and said things like "bless your heart" as I was trying to hurry out of the store. The other one was met with evil stares as if I was the worst mother in the world for daring to come into that store. After the second instance I sat in my car and cried for 10 minutes along with the kids. We were apparently all having a bad day. It happens.

[crystal12605]

I Don't use my child's inability to understand whats right and wrong as an excuse and I do try to fix the "problem." Let me say first as a teacher/Dr./nurse is all too easy to say parents should not use mental illnesses or anything like as an excuse. But as parents we need a little understanding. I don't care if people volunteer with special needs children, I think it's really nice to do so, You don't understand it until you LIVED it. I LIVE it. I need people to be patient and let me take care of the situation the best I can. I just got a little P.O.ed to hear parents shouldn't make it an excuse. Some don't but we still need you to have patience and understanding. I know I must look like a total moron for sitting in the middle of the isle and say over and over to my son, "calm down, lets just talk about it." While he is freaking out but I'm trying not to embarrass, hurt, or piss him off any further. After all, he is trying to tell me we need toilet paper and I don't understand. I actually got this same crap from his teacher. Her response to everything was I worked, volunteered or read books. Yeah, Well I live it, see it and breathe it all day, everyday. I'm trying. I should as add I have 3 kids. A five year old daughter, a 3 year old son, and a 2 year old daughter. my last two kids are autistic. This hits close to home and I have a tendency to think people are flat out rude!