How did you get your husband (or wife) on board?

[toppincl]

Many of these posts just highlight for me exactly how lucky I am :D. Not only is hubby on board, HE is the more 'aggressive' couponer of the two of us. If I'm tired or frustrated, I will let things go--He has no problems with a line of people behind him and a cranky cashier politely informing her that the reason the $4/$20 (or $10/$50 or whatever) isn't working is because she rang up the manufacturer's Q's first, even though he handed her the $/$$ first, and that she's probably going to need to void the transaction and start over to make it work right. And that he will wait while she does it. He will argue with the cashier that 'any' size means 'any', including trial. And he will unashamedly return items that either rang up wrong or the cashier refused the coupons for, and politely explain to the CS people why he is returning it. He happily fought with the common sense challenged cashiers at our local K-mart for the duracell deal. And he will happily clip or pick up coupons for tampons that are on sale, and use them without blinking. He gets annoyed when there is a coupon 'out there' for a product he wants but he can't find the coupon.

We coupon by necessity, but we chose it--we both want me to be able to stay home with our three little boys, but that's tough to do on a teacher's salary. Couponing, breastfeeding (formula is EXPENSIVE!!) other cost cutting measures, and not having to pay for day care financially makes it feasible for me to stay home without having to really change our style of living. Hubby is the one who points out to me how much we are saving, in many cases how much higher quality items we are purchasing (name brands instead of generics), and how much closer we are to our financial goals at the end of each month. Now if only I could convince him to stop shopping at convenience stores for 'just a snack' . . . :D

[couponfanatic]

If you can't get him to go alone (preferable), make himm go with you.
Wait until you find some amazing deal on something he wants. Food, HBA for him, etc. You won't get him all excited over Mr. Clean and tampax. Make sure you do a trans. w/ just the deal stuff and let him see your few cents OOP, or dare I say overage on it.
"See, you just paid $0.17 for 10 deodorants, 4 soda and 2 candy bars" etc. etc.

[shoppinqueen]

I need help with my husband.He usually does the bills,the bulk of food shopping and cooking.We recently moved into a new place,much nicer than where we were living but we'll need to be frugal where we can in order to afford increased rent and heating oil.

At any rate Stop and Shop is having a unilever deal..spend $15 on qualifying products get a coupon back for $5 oyno..well the cat machine has been spitting back 2 coupons per order.

The man stood there with me,watched the cashier total the bill,watched me give a $5 coupon and pay less than $5 in cash for the balance,watched the catalina machine spit out another $10...and still stood there complaining "what are we going to do with all this peanut butter?" Ï can buy generic when we need it"

I was soo mad!!! I asked him if he even watched the transaction !! they basically paid me to take the product out of the store!

We have a walk in pantry,huge closets, extra storage in the garage and basement.

What will it take to get him onboard? he says it's "embarrassing" I'm the sole breadwinner here,I say it's embarrassing to not stretch every penny out of our food dollars.I did not buy one single product that we don't use regularly.

Heck, we use olive oil daily for grilling and cooking,it's expensive so he usually buys small bottles of the generic and even then complains about it's cost.

today I got

20-lipton rice and sides
9- skippy peanut butter
4 -bertolli olive oils 25 ounce size--these usually go for $12.99 each
ICBINB-2 LARGE TUBS
Dove beauty soaps-2 packages

pork loin roast
soft cream cheese
silk soy milk

under $40 total in cash... I have $20 left over in coupons good off my next grocery order. He can't see the savings???

[Clipper]

And he will happily clip or pick up coupons for tampons that are on sale, and use them without blinking.

Now, that's a feat!... Oh wait, she meant the coupons. Nevermind.

[meems]

My husband just says "are you having fun? If so that's all that matters!" He has plenty of his own hobbies that border on obssesive compulsive too, LOL!

I have sent him with coupons & he'll use them, but not often & he doesn't grocery shop with me..the rare occassion he does, he's nowhere to be found upon coupon presentation! Now he will excitedly do script or Target, Macy's, Restaurant, Best Buy etc. coupons.

[shoppinqueen]

I was really troubled by my husband's reaction to the idea of couponing so I've decided to maybe write him a letter.

The deal is this,we moved out of a bad situation to a much better one but this upgrade has basically doubled our costs for rent and utilities.My husband is accustomed to a budget of $400 every 2 weeks..this budget is to cover,food.cleaning products and his personal spending. I pay the rent,lights,heating oil,gas for cooking,cable tv/internet.

We've moved,our expenses have increased but the one taking the hit and making personal sacrifices to make this happen is me...after I've paid all the bills there's nothing left for any personal spending at all for me. Now one of 5 things is going to have to happen here.

1. his household budget gets looked at and we cut back on food,his personal spending.

2. We cut out a lot of the cable services that he and DS love so much

3.I work more hours/take a second job-the last option IMHO

4. he gives up SAH husband status and gets a job.

5.We get smart,he takes a deep breath and trusts me on couponing/rebating and works with me to maximize our lifestyle on our existing income.


I would prefer that we choose option number 5 but we will need to be making hard choices and soon. Payday coming and going And me not having even enough left over to upkeep my hair every couple of months is total BS.

[The Bead Lady]

I'm lucky I guess! My dh saw how much I used to save so he's all for me doing it again!! He was skeptical at first when I used to do this, just like my making beads, but now he sees how I'm making money so he's just fine with that!

[candleangie]

I'm a SAHM, so when DH got all wierd about it I told him, "You work really hard for the money you earn. I see it as MY job to honor your hard work by using it wisely."

That seemed to settle his inner caveman. lol

[Clipper]

I'm a SAHM, so when DH got all wierd about it I told him, "You work really hard for the money you earn. I see it as MY job to honor your hard work by using it wisely." That seemed to settle his inner caveman. lol

That's very well said. Who could argue with that?


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[skyyblonde]

He just married into it. I dont think it was ever a discussion.