How do you feel about baby showers for 2nd, 3rd, more

[hbaqueen]

So My mom gets a invite in the mail today with hers, mine, and all my sisters names on it.
It is for the granddaughter of my moms friend--Id say she is my moms best friend just b/c my mom has like no friends not because they are ike super dooper close. She had a big family and her sisters were really the only people she was ever close with. But shes known this lady 20+ years and went to church together and once in a blue moon talk on the phone or visit. And she DID come to my shower last year.
The girl the shower is for also went to school with me a few years younger so I was sort of friends with her. And her DH worked at the same place as me.
So we know these people very well but are in no way close if that makes sense. I havent seen the girl in 10 years or better.

Sooooooo after all that here is the deal. This is the THIRD child for this couple. They have a girl and boy.
If we were invited to the 1st two showers I certinly dont recall.

My mom thinks its VERY WEIRD that they are having a shower for the 3rd one and you shouldnt do that yadda yadda

I say "Well I see what ya mean but maybe they figure ALL babies deserve to be welcomed into the world with a party"
But she goes on and on..

So..I also said that I did agree that most people dont have one and maybe its a lil tacky. That personally I wouldnt feel comfortable doing it unless several years went by and then I got pregnant with a different sex child so had no girl stuff and no longer had any baby stuff ect. Or was having multiples. Something like that then maybe.

I also feel like if *I* did it Id have a party to celebrate the baby with close friends and family and put like no need to bring a gift.
I dont think I would invite people I had not seen in 10 + years.

OKay that was long winded but Im jus curious to how others feel..

ETA :
I am sending a gift but I have no desire to go to the shower so I will leave it with her grandma.
Mom says she will also that its not that she cares to buy for anyone she just thinks its tacky but she will still buy for the baby

I think if theres a huge age gap or something like that its ok but stick to close fam and friends.

[buddysmom]

I agree with bugface - only if there is a big age gap.
How bout another bridal shower after 20 yrs? I could really use some new stuff!!

[SammysMom]

I feel all baby's should be showered If later in life Im looking at my baby book and ask my mom "did you have a baby shower for me?" and she said "no dear" I would feel like what the other's were good enough to have a shower but I wasnt. That is me.
I also love love love to buy things for baby's. Something that is their own not a hand me down. So I personally dont have a problem at all being invited to a shower even if it is the 6th child. Nothing like celebrating the coming of a new baby

[SammysMom]

Originally Posted by buddysmom

I agree with bugface - only if there is a big age gap.
How bout another bridal shower after 20 yrs? I could really use some new stuff!!

I would come to your bridal shower Buddy
Its all a new beginning and you gotta celebrate

[kdownie]

I think all babies deserve to be "welcomed with a party", so I voted for the last option. But, maybe the second to last one would have been a better choice, because I would limit it to close family/friends.

[Deja Vu]

I agree with the previous posters for sure. I like the idea of welcoming all babies, that sounds sweet, but it shouldn't in that case be a shower. It being 10 years since you have seen this person, a nice card at birth would be appropriate, but certainly nice of you to consider a gift.

[lmcconne]

Let's face it, the baby shower is for the adults. The baby (while all should be considered a blessing from you know where) has no clue whatsoever.

This is coming from a child-free point of view. I appreciate the concept behind baby showers for the first child. After that, you're on your own.

[hbaqueen]

Yea maybe I should have added another option like
All babies deserve to be welcomed but not with gifts?

Pre Baby I wouldve been like No its pretty tacky..
After baby Im more like every baby should be welcomed with gifts and a party. I guess I feel like SammysMom its like when you take the time to fill out the baby book for DC 1 but dont take the time for the others they will feel less special maybe?

IDK..Im the baby and a late in life child so I guess I kinda get that feeling about some things. Though it never occured to me to ask if they had a shower for me. So I doubt that kid will even know.
And as a PP said showers are really for the adults not for the baby so they dont have to buy things more than for the baby...afterall, How many showers have you been to and then never saw the baby?

I guess since its very doubtful that I will be able to have more that if I were going to I would want to shout it from the rooftops and get lil baby things and celebrate with my fam and friends. But I dont think Id invite people Im not really friends with.

Ive also softened up on a lot things and really dont like to gossip like my mom, sister and DH Do. I mean Ill give them some of my free/cheap baby stockpile wish em well and there ya go. Im not gonna go hang out for 2 hours with people I dont really know though.

Like I told mom there are much worst things they could do so could she drop it

But she wanted to know if it was just her or how people felt about it. I said well Ive got just the place to find out for you. LOL

Interesting to hear everyones views. Id have to check all the boxes and then some I just see all sides. LOL

[buddysmom]

Originally Posted by SammysMom

I would come to your bridal shower Buddy
Its all a new beginning and you gotta celebrate

I meant I've been married 20+ years. When I re-read it sounded like I was getting married after 20 yrs. LOL!