How do you feel about baby showers for 2nd, 3rd, more - Page 2

hbaqueen · 02-08-2008, 12:55:36 AM

Originally Posted by buddysmom

I meant I've been married 20+ years. When I re-read it sounded like I was getting married after 20 yrs. LOL!

heehee I knew you meant after being married that long but after I re-read it it did kinda sound like getting remarried.

I'll come to your if you come to mine. I could use some new stuff and I havent been married nearly that long :)

Also can I have another shower for DS he sorta outgrew all that stuff I got at my shower What do I do now?

CheyFaith · 02-08-2008, 12:55:53 AM

I think it's okay to have a 2nd shower with just close family/friends. And I think the gifts would be smaller...like a pack of diapers/wipes/an outfit...something like that. More just to have a samll celebration than anything else.

MrsPinecone · 02-08-2008, 01:05:30 AM

All babies deserve a party, IMO.

Baby REGISTRIES for the big stuff should be a one-shot deal. It's not my problem if you didn't save/broke the stuff from the first kid.

pennywatcher · 02-08-2008, 01:15:12 AM

I have a friend who refers to 2nd, etc. showers as "sprinkles".

sns4063 · 02-08-2008, 02:13:40 AM

I have to admit, I had a shower for my second baby, but that's only because I didn't get one with my first. I had my first baby about 6 months after I got married (oops!), and right before I had him, we bought a house and moved. I also worked nights and weekends, and we just didn't have time for a shower. DH and I bought EVERYTHING for ourselves, I mean because honestly, it's my child to take care of and buy for. People gave small gifts of clothes or money-which we put into our son's bank account. For my second, I didn't really want a shower, since I think it's so tacky to have a shower for subsequent children-especially since #2 was also a boy and was only born 18 months after #1. My sister thought I got screwed on my first child (since my mom bought everyone else's kids big nice gifts for all their children), so she threw me a shower. I got small gifts mostly, but did ask for one large item, a double stroller that I knew I wouldn't be able to buy on my own. Otherwise, again, I had bought everything I needed to care for my own child. Nobody should just throw parties to have their family and friends stock their closets for subsequent children, because let's be honest, that's what it is all about.

BTW, my mom had her #3 19 YEARS after her first, and 13 years after #2, and she REFUSED a shower. She kept the crib, some bedsheets, blankets, etc from my sister and I. She also stocked up prior to the birth on essentials. She wasn't about to be tacky like that!

loaslaen · 02-08-2008, 02:29:48 AM

I chose all babies should be showered. I see a shower as celebrating the birth of a baby. Literally, their first Birthday party. When they are a year old, you're celebrating the one year anniversary of their birth, and so on with each additional birthday, so why not celebrate their very birth as well. I disagree with those that say the shower is for the adults. Adults don't get personal use from baby clothes, diapers, baby blankets, etc. Those items are for the baby. Just like the toys, clothes, etc that children receive at their birthday parties aren't personally used by adults either. A bridal shower is for the BRIDE, and a baby shower is for the BABY. Now if you want something for the mothers, then call it a Maternity Shower and buy gifts of maternity clothes, nursing bras, breast pumps, etc...

taxchyk · 02-08-2008, 03:21:37 AM

My cousin should have had a shower for baby 2, but didn't. Baby one was 30 at that point, and had a 10 year old. No, no kids in between. For that kind of surprise I think a shower is fine. I could understand "sprinkles" if stated that way too I guess.

ashleydawnsanford · 02-08-2008, 03:38:00 AM

my opinion, new baby new shower, and just because you got invited DOES NOT mean you have to go or send a gift, I would only go or send gift if i was friends with them, went to church with them, or knew them for sometime through mutual people.... but that is just me!

I am expecting my second, they will only be 18 months apart, and it makes me want to cry to think people wouldn't want to shower my second baby girl! But I do not expect to get gifts by any means! Just welcome baby #2!

TheyCallMeMom · 02-08-2008, 04:02:56 AM

I didnt read the aboe posts

I dont like "gimmie" parties...

that being said.. if they want to hae a party to welcome the baby.. that could happen after the baby is born

if they want to pamper mom,. then thats cool too

if one wants to buy a gift, as a nice gesture, great..

but I dont like the expectation of gifts.. I dont do it and I dont feel comfortable when others do it..

filling out a "supply" list in hope's of family and friends getting you everything you need for baby just isnt my style

I had two showers.. both were surprises.. the second more so... I was SHOCKED actually.. and I appreciated the baby gifts.. but It was somethign people wanted to do.. not that they were expected to

anyhow, I rambled.. thats my 2 cents :D

hbaqueen · 02-08-2008, 02:00:40 PM

Thanks everyone for your thoughts, it is very interesting. And I think when I call my mom to give her the results that I am just going to have to say everyone has different opinions. :)

I see all sides of this coin for some reason.
I guess I feel like its a personal decision. some people will love and embrace the idea and some might find it tacky.

And I know I dont have to send a gift but I really dont mind I love making up baby baskets.