What was the worst advice that you ever got as a mom (or dad)?

[puakinikini]

Oh, these posts are bringing back some bad memories...

Here is my favorite - in very bad taste advice:
So, I delivered my twins 10 weeks too early. They were in the NyICU, my daughter required immediate surgery, which was scheduled on Monday (I delivered on Friday) and I was being discharged on Tuesday. We were not sure if the surgery was going to be successful and at the time I was discharged she was in critical condition. My discharge nurse told me that I should sell all the twins stuff or take it back to the stores because it would be too hard to have all the baby stuff around when I went home and that I may not need 2 of anything anyways. I was speechless at the time - something I am not often - but I chalk it up to feeling the saddest I ever have in my entire life. I was so demoralized I couldn't even tell her to shove it. It took me 3 months to write a letter to the hospital and another 2 to track her down - but we are all clear about how I felt about her unsolicited advice now.

[warcraftbaby]

Originally Posted by puakinikini Oh, these posts are bringing back some bad memories... Here is my favorite - in very bad taste advice: So, I delivered my twins 10 weeks too early. They were in the NyICU, my daughter required immediate surgery, which was scheduled on Monday (I delivered on Friday) and I was being discharged on Tuesday. We were not sure if the surgery was going to be successful and at the time I was discharged she was in critical condition. My discharge nurse told me that I should sell all the twins stuff or take it back to the stores because it would be too hard to have all the baby stuff around when I went home and that I may not need 2 of anything anyways. I was speechless at the time - something I am not often - but I chalk it up to feeling the saddest I ever have in my entire life. I was so demoralized I couldn't even tell her to shove it. It took me 3 months to write a letter to the hospital and another 2 to track her down - but we are all clear about how I felt about her unsolicited advice now.

WOW please tell me that woman was reprimanded or FIRED! That is just awful I am so sorry that happened to you!

Bad advice...mainly people's ignorance about breastfeeding. Yesterday a nice cashier at the evil empire told me she wanted to breastfeed her son to 2 years like the WHO recommends but when he was 18 months she got pregnant and her OB told her to stop breastfeeding immediately or she would harm the new baby. All I could say was "Really?" I know lots of ladies that nursed their toddlers right alongside their newborns. Apparently the newborns survived the dangers of pregnancy and breastfeeding

Attachment parenting is the other one people always want to argue with. The misinformation out there is just amazing. We co-slept with our daughter til she was a lil over 6 months and *gasp* she survived and sleeps on her own in the crib. Which she's doing right now and I should be trying to sleep

[loladooder99]

Originally Posted by regbyandjulie A lot of people who see my wedding ring are surprised to find out I'm pregnant with my first. When I tell people I got married at age 20, they assume it was because I was pregnant, so I couldn't have married so young and am only now having children... Right.

The worst advice I ever got was when i went to the doctor right before I got married for something i can't remember but the nurse practioner asked me if i was on the pill after telling her i was getting married and I said no. She said well you need to be on it because you don't need to be having kids at your age. I was 20 years old. Back in the old days it was okay to have kids at 20 now its just a crime according to some people. Like that was any of her business. I got married at 20 and im 22 now with a 11 month old. My SIL tried to offer advice but I wasn't taken it since she gave her 3 year old mountain dew,doritos,oreos and regular visit to MC donalds.Not to mention she lets her watch Family guy and Futurama

[magpiedpiper]

I try to give my mom the benefit of the doubt as it's been so long since she had a newborn, but since my now 5 week old daughter was a week old she has told me to just put her in her crib and see if she will cry herself to sleep when it's night and she is still awake. Believe me, I'd love for her to stop being awake alllllll night and sleeping all day, but I'm not going to let her cry herself to sleep. Geez!

She also said I would never last doing cloth diapers and gave it "just a few months." Thanks for the vote of confidence, mom.

[slphil]

I was told or should I say my sons grandma put cornstarch on a diaper rash ended up in e.r he wouldnt stop screaming and had crazy rash it turned it into a yeast infection. my first child and had no clue and didnt even know boys could get yeast infections

[magpiedpiper]

Originally Posted by Ruddysgirl My grandmother was insisted that I used home remedies when my children got sick. One of my daughters had a real bad cough and she told me she was gonna fix her up real good. :shrug7: She than asked me if I had Crisco or Lard and Turpentine? I am thinking what the heck do YOU think you are gonna do. I said no. She told me she would run to the store and get it. I asked what are you going to do with it. She said, and I kid you not, You rub the lard over their chest than take a towel and soak it in Turpentine and wrap it around their chest. I t will relieve the congestion. She than informed me that she had done this to me when I was a baby! I am like wth. :hectic1:

It may sound weird, but this actually was what they did before things like Vick's vaporub. In fact, that and other products like it still contain oil of turpentine I believe. That being said, it's still crazy she wanted to do that in this day and age! I think I first read about it years ago in a book...maybe in Christy?

[neverfullprice]

When my DS was young my DH was Pastoring a small church. ANyway, we did not have a nursery during the service so DS was in the pew with me. He learned that he could sneak out the other end since nobody was there to get him. (he wanted to go play with the toys in another room)

After he did this several Sundays I had a Deacon's wife come up to me and offer to SPANK my child. Uhmmmm....NO

[jkelstaten]

Originally Posted by slphil I was told or should I say my sons grandma put cornstarch on a diaper rash ended up in e.r he wouldnt stop screaming and had crazy rash it turned it into a yeast infection. my first child and had no clue and didnt even know boys could get yeast infections

On normal diaper rashes, corn starch can work great, but those little red dots of a yeast rash, not much help there

We used corn starch on all of our girls diaper rashes because it dries up the wetness. Works really great with cloth diapers since the creams kind of mess them up.

[jkelstaten]

Originally Posted by TheWoman When my husband's parents found out we were getting married (he was 21 and I was 19--but was 20 by the time we were actually married) his mother assumed I was pregnant.

Originally Posted by regbyandjulie A lot of people who see my wedding ring are surprised to find out I'm pregnant with my first. When I tell people I got married at age 20, they assume it was because I was pregnant, so I couldn't have married so young and am only now having children... Right.

We also got married when I was 20 and Dh was 21. And when I got pregnant at 21 (had her when I was 22) I could wear my rings after about 8 months because I retained a horrid amount of water (20 pounds in the last month alone) I still got nasty looks from strangers in the grocery store. You could just see them looking for a ring and then at my belly. Some people are just ignorant like that.

I always worry now because I have since developed an allergy to any gold that contains nickel, so I can't wear my rings. I sometimes wonder what people think when they see me alone with all three kids. Dh tells me that I act married though, so people can tell. I'm not sure what that means.:shrug7:

[cpaige]

Oh boy!! I'm reading all of this, and hoping HOPING that I don't get some of this "advice." I am pregnant w/ my first child (I am 34, but look much younger) and not married to the father (by choice on both sides). Can't wait til I start showing and people start looking for that ring. I'm such a smart ass, that I almost want someone to say something. Ah, the joys of life!!