Do you feel a special bond with your OB?

[Macaela25]

Do you feel a special bond with your OB? Why or why not?

The perinatologist who delivered both my boys died yesterday at 59 of pancreatic cancer...he was diagnosed not long before my second was born. I was crushed when I originally learned of his cancer, and I have cried on and off all evening and ordered flowers sent to the funeral home. This may seem a little much, but he was the ultimate in sweetness and care and treated all his patients as if they were his own daughters. I adored him and saw his as one of the few fatherly influences I have been blessed to have.

I am seeing a new OB now (sigh ) and feel pretty meh about him :/. He's fine...thorough and attentive, but it's not the same...not even in the same ballpark.

Every other doctor, even the primary I saw for 20 years that was great and wonderful just doesn't evoke the same feeling. I'm not sentimental and don't attach easily to people, so I'm assuming it must be an OB thing...or else he was just a phenomenal guy .

[3timesoccermom]

I have read about this and it is not uncommon.

He must have been a phenomenal guy to make such an impact and I am sure there are many others who feel the same sadness over his death.

[CW&M Mom]

I've loved my certified nurse midwives. Meh on the OB we first tried.

[CouponQueen23]

Well I am not sure to call her an ob or a mid wife, She made me feel so welcome she was a motherly type of Women. She sits down like a mother with her teen daughter talking about what ever. She is not judgemental and my concerens were always her concerns. No question was ever a dumg question. She would talk to me about he children and tell me the about the things she is planning on doing with her family on her weekends off. Then she would be on long weekends too. Her and I had a lot in common during my precgancies I was working 36- 48 hr weeks rotating every other week some week would bee fri sat and sun 12 hr shifts so we knew what each other was going through. Although we were in different kinds of work we knew how important it was to make family time count. The final thing that makes her so special to me is she was on duty for each of my kids births she just happened to be the one on duty everytime I went into labor. I was not thrilled my last one was late and they scheduled a c- section for him on a monday, Thank goodness he wanted to be born on a Friday. When I went in to deliver I have no idea who was on. She was woke up she came out and we seen each other and were like wow! She said to me how ready are youI said ready! They checked and sure enough!...lol Poor woman wiped the sleep from her eyes and boom the baby was in her hand lol She said she likes delivering my babies I don't mess around! LOL!! I think that one was a little to close Dh could have been catching that one on our ride to the hospital lol!!

I love my Catherine though she is a real sweetheart. I will be heart broken when that time comes.

[amylynne01]

I like my OB because she's a good doctor. I don't feel a huge attachment to her, although if we have another baby, I will use her again even though her office is an hr from my house. She delivered DD1 but was not on call for DD2. She did not guilt me into being induced when I went a week past my due date with DD2, but she let me keep going as long baby and I were healthy. However, my choice to use her is more a choice to use the hospital she has privileges at. We really loved our experiences there.

OP, if I were in your situation with my OB, I would be sad but my feelings would not be the same as yours.

[Macaela25]

bump!

[queenofthehivemomof5]

My OB that I used when my twins were born was great, and I really liked her a lot. However she quit her practice shortly after I delivered because a baby here died and the nurse tried calling the death and my doctor got snippy and pissed off that the nurse called it while she was still trying to save the baby. Needless to say it was not a good show on either parties in front of the parents. The baby died and my OB quit a few weeks later due to the stress. It's a small town and I see her around all the time and we chit chat. She changed specialties and now does dermatology. She is about my age maybe a few years older so I don't think of her as a mother figure but she is nice.

[foggierbard9]

The OB office that I used for my DD has you see all the doctors in the practice. The doctor I wanted to deliver with(was scheduled induction) was not there when I went in because my induction was going faster than planned. I ended up seeing a doctor that I had never seen at the practice, but she was amazing and if we have another I will want her to do the delivery.

[Macaela25]

I was lucky in that my dr was a high risk perinatologist, so no rotation. I saw him each and every time unless he was out of town (happened twice in two pregnancies, I think), so that might be part of it.

QOTH - how awful My mom's OB had a baby he delivered die of a cord wrap soon after my sister was born emergency c-section in fetal distress with a quad cord wrap around her neck. He had to take a year or so off to recover. I would think the death of a baby would be devastating to an OB.

[queenofthehivemomof5]

Yes I am sure babies dying would be the worse part of being an OB. I don't think I could bear it.