When to get pregnant?

[kimandkathess]

I was talking to dh today. We decided that we would both in fact want another child. What I am trying to figure out is when to try to start conceiving. There are a few dilemas.

1. I am about 55lbs overweight. I am about 7 lbs away from being considered obese...even though that would only put me at 193 lbs (I am 5'7")

2. My family and I are going to disney world in August 2011

So here three scenerios and posible outcomes.

1. I get pregnant now and not worry about my weight and have to take a newborn to disneyworld.

2. I get pregnant in february or after (leaving me to lose 2.5 lbs a week and having to go to disney world about 6 months pregnant and not being able to ride many rides and be hot and miserable)

3. Wait untill August 2011 after getting back from disney world that way I would have 1 year to lose 55 lbs and I would be able to enjoy disneyworld.

What would you all do. Just curious. By the way I just turned 27 years old and have an 8 yr old and 3 1/2 year old twins.

To some this answer might be obvious but i am just curous what all you would do.

[queenofthehivemomof5]

I am the wrong person to ask...but I would say option number 3

Plus your twins will be almost 5 and maybe in kindergarten or closer to it and you may have a little more time to spend one on one with the new baby. I had an 18 month old and twins and having three little ones at home was/is CRAZY!

[disabledvetswife]

I'd start NOW, but then again, it took my DH and I over 9 years of trying WITH fertility treatments in order to have DD#1. Luckily, it only took around 5 months of fertility treatments for DD#2.

I wouldn't put the added pressure on yourself about the weight. Of course, it's ideal to be less weight, but it's also added stress you don't need while TTC.

I went to Disney in August while 3 months pregnant. I was uncomfortable, but not miserable. Then again, I live in SW FL and am used to the heat & humidity. My feet & ankles swelled up like giant water balloons though!

[anaj06]

We have kinda the same thing going on. We are going to Disney World Thanksgiving 2011 and plan on getting pregnant in 2011 as well with #3. I decided to wait to start trying until I wouldn't be in my 3rd trimester for DW. I had a wonderful 2nd trimester with both my children and would enjoy DW in the 2nd (or even 1st trimester for that matter). I would not consider going to DW (esp in Aug) in my 3rd trimester or with a newborn; why pay all that money to be miserable!!!

I think the weight thing is a non issue because you can have a healthy child either way and if you lose it now; you will have to lose it again after the child anyway. JMO

[thecooperhouse]

I wouldn't worry too much about the weight. However just getting back from Disneyland my self - I am so glad I was not pregnant or had a newborn during the trip. I had an AWESOME time and its just such a great experience to have a wonderful family vacation!

[anothershopper2]

I'm probably the wrong person too - as in the only qualification I have is that I'm a mom too and we are waiting before going to DW. Looking at the ages of your kids, I think option 3 is the best too. Only because I think you probably want to be able to fully enjoy DW with the kids that you already have (3 of them) and they with you. DW isn't cheap (at least for our family) so making the most of it does make sense. And that would be much harder with either a newborn or being preggo cause you are much more limited. Doesn't sound like you've had any fertility issues and you are only 27 - so that's why I would pick that. While weight is a non-issue in terms of pregnancy, if you personally would like to lose some weight before getting preggo again, then I'd say, Great go for it!! :)

[amylynne01]

Option 3! I would not want to take a newborn to DW, even though I've read on other boards of people doing and I think that's just crazy . I went to DW when I was about 20 wks preggo with #2, and I actually had a great time. However, I was with my mom and sister and no kiddos to chase after. So yeah, option 3. Good luck, and how exciting!

[shelleyf]

I pick option 3. It will be so much more fun for you not being pregnant or having a newborn. I am like a kid and love rides so that is what I would do. I can't afford to go but are happy you get to. It is also good to loose the weight before getting pregnant because if you don't you might get depressed. Having to loose 100 lbs. is a lot harder and more depressing and it is also bad for you because you might have blood pressure problems. With my last child I was mad (not at getting pregnant, lol) because I had just lost 25 lbs. and was feeling better and wham I got pregnant. I only gained 14 lbs. with her though so I was happy about that. I did eat healthy and watched what I ate which is hard, lol I pray you make the right decision for you and your family.

[loaslaen]

Originally Posted by kimandkathess I was talking to dh today. We decided that we would both in fact want another child. What I am trying to figure out is when to try to start conceiving. There are a few dilemas. 1. I am about 55lbs overweight. I am about 7 lbs away from being considered obese...even though that would only put me at 193 lbs (I am 5'7") 2. My family and I are going to disney world in August 2011 So here three scenerios and posible outcomes. 1. I get pregnant now and not worry about my weight and have to take a newborn to disneyworld. 2. I get pregnant in february or after (leaving me to lose 2.5 lbs a week and having to go to disney world about 6 months pregnant and not being able to ride many rides and be hot and miserable) 3. Wait untill August 2011 after getting back from disney world that way I would have 1 year to lose 55 lbs and I would be able to enjoy disneyworld. What would you all do. Just curious. By the way I just turned 27 years old and have an 8 yr old and 3 1/2 year old twins. To some this answer might be obvious but i am just curous what all you would do.

You can plan for a vacation and you can plan a weight loss program, but you can't plan a baby. It sounds like the baby isn't the top of your list, that losing weight and enjoying Disneyland is. It seems like your priorities are Disneyland, weight, then baby. All of your choices revolve around enjoying Disneyland. Being overweight can complicate pregnancies, and nothing was mentioned about losing weight to have a healthy pregnancy.

You can always lose weight, and always plan a vacation, but having a baby isn't always in your control. There are probably bigger dilemmas with a baby than whether you will enjoy Disneyland as well. Having a baby requires self-sacrifice, so your decision depends on what and whether you're willing to sacrifice.

[kschick96]

#3. I would try to lose some of the weight (if you don't lose it all, that is ok, but even ten lbs will make a big difference). I was trying to lose 25 lbs when I got pregnant, now that I have lost my weight that I gained during my pregnancy-I still have those extra 25 lbs starring me down.

Also, your kids will be a little older and you'll have a lot more fun going and being able to ride the rides and not be feeling yucky due to being pregnant. Plus, we all know how hard it is to travel anywhere with a small baby. Go and have fun-you still have plenty of time to have that baby!