Training Bra

[MrsPinecone]

<thanking heaven that her dd is only a year old and she doesn't have to deal yet>

[foggierbard9]

I am storing all this information away for future use...we are expecting a girl in April, so I have lots of time before these conversations, but we all know how time flies.

[pebblesminidash]

I started wearing a training bra just before I turned 8, the day I started my cycle...I know, SUPER early. We made a day out of it, my mom, grandma, and my aunt went. Kind of like a "girls" day. Made things seem less awkward, and it was a fun experience. :)

[FunnyFace]

I highly recommend The Lily Series! This series has fiction and non fiction books that would be perfect for your daughter now and for the next few years. The non fiction teaches character and there is also one called The Body Book. Then there is a book by American Girls, The Care and Keeping of You.

Let me just say I was...am very uncomfortable discussing this, but knew it had to be done and didn't want to just throw some health books at my daughter. So I tried to talk casually in the car here and there combined with those books I mentioned. I gave her the option to read those by herself or together and let her know to please ask me any questions that she had. I did follow up with a few of my own for her to make sure. She was older than seven so I think if she was seven I start by reading those together. (warm smile)

As far as bras go, I believe we started with the ones that look like cropped spaghetti strap tanks, wal-mart/target then went from there at Kohl's lightly padded ones. I don't remember the exact age, but like someone else mentioned it depends on the girl.

[renee_anthony]

FunnyFace I will take note of those two books and see if our local library has them. I have a niece who is already 8 and my sister and I were talking today about this. I told her it's good we have each other to support through this and we're not bumping around in the dark alone. I did have a little chat w/ my DD tonight at dinner letting her know that I might have to get her a bra and she sort of panicked asking why. So I explained to her that she is starting to develop and I had her look at herself at bath time so she could relate what I was telling her and see for herself. After talking with her she was more accepting of the bra idea; I think she thought they were only for adult women who had real boobs....LOL. I also told her about periods and how to handle when it comes (since they can start as early as 8 yrs old now). I told her that if she has any questions to please don't be embarrassed and come to me. I think if I can find those books that will help her also b/c she's getting the information from a source that is written in her language and is easily understood. You ladies rock w/ the information. I'm starting to get a grip; still a bit on edge though...LOL.

[nrpeace17]

Thanks for all the responses so far, I hope there will more to come. I am dreading the monthly visitor conversation. I remember getting mine and I was so excited. My DD knows kind of b/c she has made comments when I have had mine. So she's not completely in the dark. Did I mention I'M NOT PREPARED FOR THIS.

It sounds like she is ready. You don't want her to be self conscious about her development, and this will help.
May I suggest making a special day of it when you go shopping for her first bra. Go to lunch, or for an ice cream, just some mother and daughter time. Help her feel special and important about growing up, and open the door to make yourself open and available to her emotionally. If you start now, she will be more likely to talk to you as she gets older.

[FunnyFace]

FunnyFace I will take note of those two books and see if our local library has them.

This is what I did too.

I have a niece who is already 8 and my sister and I were talking today about this. I told her it's good we have each other to support through this and we're not bumping around in the dark alone.

So wonderful that have that support.

I'm starting to get a grip; still a bit on edge though...LOL.

You are doing great!

[Chellebelle7377]

I have a dillema as my step daughter totally needs a bra. She's been getting her bumps for months and months now and her mother and I briefly talked about this and she still doesn't wear one. I don't think her mom is pushing it, but I feel it is to the point of being innapropriate. For sure by this summer. She can't be running around in skimpy little tank tops with her mini boobies. :shrug7:I know it isn't my place, but a little bit it is. I try to talk to her dad (my DH) and he wants to hear none of it LOL. I also asked her mom about what she knows about what. You know...periods, babies, etc. She's 9 and thinks babies come out of your belly button. C'mon. I laughed when I heard this. She told me she doesn't want to wear a bra because people will see it. So I told her maybe a sports bra would be good. I hate to keep bringing up this stuff with her mom when her mom seems not to want to go there with her yet. She said she's waiting until the annual 5th grade talk where they take the girsl in one room and the boys in another. For some reason I feel like by 5th grade I knew about pads and stuff from my mom. I know this is a little off topic, but....I would hate for her to get her period and freak out and not have anyting with her. I don't know. Maybe I'm jumping the gun. Good to read all your views. Thanks.