Thank You Cards from Baby Showers, Weddings etc What do you think?

[kbullsexy07]

I have been to 2 weddings and 2 baby showers in the past year. I never recieved a thank you card from either of the wedding and only one of the baby showers.

The most recent baby shower kind of ticked me off the most. My very good friend at work (male) and his fiance were expecting a baby. I had actually never met her but he invited me to the baby shower. I bought a really nice gift spending at least $45 plus. That is a lot of money for me.

The mother to be opened up gifts at the end of the party and she asked me to write down who all the gifts were from. I assumed this was to send out Thank You cards.

I did recieve a text from my friend thanking me for coming but never heard anything from her. I would love to use the excuse she was to busy but she had been on bed rest for the past 4 months and was not working. She did not have the baby until 6 weeks later.


I almost feel like my gift was unappreciated. What do you all think? Am I overreacting?

[JulieDB]

I think people just don't think they have to send out Thank You cards any more. We rarely get them.

I got a really good idea from a neighbor when my daughter went to her son's birthday party. She gave out treat bags with a Thank You card inside. So we always do that now for birthday parties. Sure, they're not personal but at least everyone gets one. Might work for a baby shower but probably not for a wedding.

What I hate is that I ship gifts to my husband's relatives on the East coast. Some do send Thank Yous but often they do not. Heck, I'd even be okay with an e-mail telling me that it arrived.

[kbullsexy07]

What I hate is that I ship gifts to my husband's relatives on the East coast. Some do send Thank Yous but often they do not. Heck, I'd even be okay with an e-mail telling me that it arrived.

Yup I agree! A text, phone call, e-mail something. A few years Back one of cousins got married and I knew I wasn't going to be able to attend so I mailed a check and a card apologizing that I wasn't able to make it weeks before the wedding and I hopes she could use the money towards items on the registry. A month or two after the wedding I texted her confirming it was received and she responded- yeah I think so..thanks! I actually saw the check cashed 5 days after I mailed out..but hey what can you do!

[MizMoneyPenny]

but hey what can you do!

You can assume, as Miss Manners often says, that when a gift is unacknowleged, and unthanked, it is also unappreciated, and you should discontinue bothering people with your offerings.

[keylimepie]

I totally agree with previous poster, except I don't say it as nicely as Miss Manners
My motto is: No Thanks? No more gifts!!! (Saves a lot of money, since more and more people don't bother with a simple Thank you)!
It makes me sad

[jamking75]

Rude, just plain rude and lazy.
I am still mortified that my DSD did not send out thank-yous for her graduation gifts this past year. I even went as far as to buy the cards and provide the postage for her! It's crazy becuz I send out thank-us for everything....
Anyway, I just think it is today's society's way of thinking: "I deserve it, so why should I thank you?!"
I hope this isn't the norm.

[chitownmelli]

It is always appropriate to send a Thank You card after receiving gifts at a party/ shower type thing - and in a timely manner. I guess a lot of people just don't do that any more. My family does, well my husband's family, to be exact. My mother has never so much as sent a thank you in her life, so I learned all about thank you cards when I met my MIL :)

[CouponQueen23]

I actually am working on my Baby Shower thank you cards today. ) My mom had a really nice Baby shower for me last Saturday.


I do agree a lot of people are seeming to to it much less... though I send thank yous to everyone for everything.. I know at this point the baby could come at anytime I want to get right on them, I thought about waiting until she is born to send them her due date is March 7 and sending thank you cards along with say a first photo of her but is seems like it would be not so much of a timely matter.. My reason of thinking this is pretty much thinking of the stamp prices and If I sent a thank you and a phot I could save postage and make sure everyone got both he thank you along with a photo.. I just don't do well when it comes to passing out photos I really do mean well but seem to forget to pass them out and mailing them is just well so much money to just mail and visiting everyone is just not going to happen :/

[peggy47]

I agree with op....I am retired now so I have to find things to keep me busy.(wanted to insert a smiley face but can't figure out how to do...something for me to do later on I guess). I sat down and made a list of people I have sent gifts to in the past 10 years for various events and I found that only one person sent a thank you....Everyone else just takes gifts and I never hear from them again....

My ex friend...his daughter graduated from college= a gift; wedding shower =a gift; the wedding = a gift; had 3 babies over the years = 3 gifts; his son SO had a baby = a gift
Never a thank you for any of the gifts. And yet, the other son was serving overseas and I sent him a funny card and he sent me a letter back! Go figure...all three kids from same family....I send a card which probably cost $2 plus a .42 cent stamps to mail and he thanks me....the other two I spend at least $50 each time and I get nothing....

My step grandson's family lives across the country. I packed a box of Christmas gifts in 2010...never heard a word....in Feb. I sent an outfit for their little girl...never a word... They had a new baby in Oct. 2011 and I did not send a gift then or for Christmas...

My nephew got married in August...sent a check...check cashed and never a word...

My neice finally had a baby (at 42) sent two darling outfits....never a word....

Ane the list goes on........

What is wrong with people??? With all the technology, you can send a quick email or FB them to let you know you got the gifts...

My solution: I am saving my money now and spending it on ME!!!

[keylimepie]

Way to go, Peggy47! I like your solution!
I really love to give, and I try very hard to get somthing nice, and to not hear anything, not even a quick email, is just too sad.
So there is a solution to all of this, still sad, though