For all the Single Ladies.....

[Doglover8180]

Okay. Let me start by saying I know that this post resembles some very old posts about single women and dating in 2012, etc.. etc.. - I know because I was probably the poster on those posts too Lots of married women replied to those posts and I don't think a woman who was single 15 years ago can relate to what it is like to be single & no kids, never married in 2012. Is it just me or is the game very different? I am of the mindset now that I am too "picky" - probably because I am to independent or have standards that are too that I refuse to lower - even though I don't think I do - but whatever it is. Is it just me or does it seem like we have a better chance of being struck by lightening then meeting a great guy in 2012?

Thoughts?

[JulieDB]

Well I am married and have been married for 17 years. People always told me that I was too picky. Looking back now I think picky is a good thing. When I compare my single life to my married one, the single one was better in sooo many ways! Yes, I have a daughter. And I wouldn't have had her had I not been married. I wouldn't do that part over. But the husband? Not so much a good thing and it would appear that the feeling is mutual.

I think some people are meant to be married. I think I am not one of them. I don't really believe in divorce, with some exceptions of course. I am not a religious person. It's not that. I just believe marriage is not something to be taken lightly. I didn't marry until I was 35. But if I were to divorce? I think seeking out a man would be one of the last things on my to do list.

[abond0017]

I wish I could help ya on this. I am married...never even really dated...got married right after high school. BUT the few single ladies I know now have not been doing so well, so I can tell it is difficult now to find a good guy.

I don't think you have too high of standards. Unless they are truly unreasonable, lowering your standards will only cause you to be unhappy if you settle for something less than you really want. I think good men have always been hard to find, but now with the way (IMO) society is becoming more and more selfish and apathetic...it will continue to get harder if you have any kind of standards.

Just hang in there.

[Jen1]

Hey dog! Sometimes love happens when you are least expecting it. May be someone you even already know. :) I know it seems like it's slow to happen, but it will happen.

[enginerd]

Don't settle - there are good men out there. If my MIL in her 80's and my mom in her 70's can find good men (MIL has TWO boyfriends) I figure there is hope for everyone.

[momof2inohio]

They are out there it just takes a while to find them. My cousin finally found one. I think he is "the one". My other cousins didn't get married until they were 30 or older and they are just now having children. My SIL got married at 29 and had her first child when she was 31. Nothing wrong with waiting!! :)

[snafu4me]

divorced 20 years ago ~ last relationship ended 3 years ago when he died ~ single mom of 3 with just one left at home ~ totally NOT INTERESTED in dating at this time LOL

[Doglover8180]

[collectorofbells]

the last "date" I went on (a blind date no less).....he proceeded to tell me he loved me!

WE HAD JUST MET!!!

for the foreseeable future the only male in my life has four feet and fur (ok..yea..he drools a bit....good thing he's cute!)

[fungirl2727]

Well my mom is 55 single and loves it! She goes on dates almost every night or goes out with friends. She is in crowd where she lives. Hangs out with all the rich men that bends over backwards for her. She always tells me to date someone that makes more then you. My mom looks so good for her age she dates guys 10 yrs younger. Where are you going to meet men? Have you ever tried a dating site online? My mom meets all hers in her group of people she hangs with.she gets a lot of guys that get her number when he goes out. Have you ever tried single meetup.com. you need to get yourself out there. My mom really didn't have tons of friends 5 yrs agon after long relationship. Now she has ton and tons of friends to hang out with. My mom has a bigger social life then most 20yr old. She workout 2 hrs a day and gets hair done every 4 wks.