Any Advice?!?

[Doryjane]

Their dad requires alot of sleep, and if they get woke up, their cranky. I on the other hand USED to be a morning person I would love getting up early, but 3am is way too early. I would be thrilled if it was 6am! Ive heard that children take after their parents such as sleep, eating, and so on, but Im not sure

[IntoTheMystic]

Ive heard that children take after their parents such as sleep, eating, and so on, but Im not sure

Could be, because I still need at least 9 hours sleep to feel okay. I'm not one of those people who can stay up until 12 pm and then get up at 5. I'd be super cranky!

Oh, one more thing- I saw that you are in college, and stressing trying to fit it all in. I started my masters when DS11 was 1, and finished when DS7 was 2, and I worked FT, too. It was hard, but definitely worth it. (And I wasn't getting any sleep back then, that's for sure.) You will have to force your DH to step up. Go to the library 3 nights per week, and that way he has to do bed time, etc. It is the best thing for the kids, and for him, too. Dads need to know they can do what mom's do. You may also need to pay someone (or swap services) to watch the kids during the day so you can do your school work. Pick a time that works for you, and stick with it. It's all about scheduling a time, and sticking with it.

Good luck!

[3timesoccermom]

Doryjane - good advice from IntoTheMystic. But let me go out on a limb here and be very bold - I am not trying to hurt your feelings but I think I am quite a bit older than you and have seen this many times. If you don't do something about discipline with your kids NOW they will soon be the ones no one wants to watch and their actions will hurt you every single day. Discipline is not just for you it's for your kids and society too.

[Doryjane]

Doryjane - good advice from IntoTheMystic. But let me go out on a limb here and be very bold - I am not trying to hurt your feelings but I think I am quite a bit older than you and have seen this many times. If you don't do something about discipline with your kids NOW they will soon be the ones no one wants to watch and their actions will hurt you every single day. Discipline is not just for you it's for your kids and society too.

No your hurting my feelings :) Yeah Ive noticed that we havnt had a sitter since August, and it was my sister that charged an arm and leg :( I wish I could post a video of how my day goes. Seriously Im sure some would be shocked at how they act towards me. I have found myself alot of times just sitting and crying because it does hurt seeing them misbehave like that, and not getting some alone time with DH. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE LOVE LOVE my kids, and thank God everyday that their in my life, but I know that they CAN act better than they do. It will just take time.

[IntoTheMystic]

Doryjane - good advice from IntoTheMystic. But let me go out on a limb here and be very bold - I am not trying to hurt your feelings but I think I am quite a bit older than you and have seen this many times. If you don't do something about discipline with your kids NOW they will soon be the ones no one wants to watch and their actions will hurt you every single day. Discipline is not just for you it's for your kids and society too.

I agree with SoccerMom. And, discipline (by this I mean rules/limits/structure/routine, not punishment) is very good for kids. They need it, actually, because it makes them feel secure. Kids thrive on predictability, and setting up a new routine-and sticking with it-might help with your daughter's neediness. Kids actually like having limits, because they know someone else will help them control themselves if they can't control themselves. It's never too late to change things, but it does get harder the older they get. If you do it now, they won't remember anything different. Parenting is tough- and it sounds like you're under a lot of stress- so ask for help when you need it, and take a look at what's working, and what's not, and go from there.