Second year in a row!

[434Teresa]

He would come and pick her up..if he dont I would not let it worry me about him only my child I would worry about.

I know this hurts her feelings for him at act this way I have to two teen boys that have a dad that is sorry that way and even worse(trust me)..Just talk to your DD and be as honset about all this as you can(without just out right talking bad about him) soon she will make up her own mind as to how she feels about her dad doing this to her.

[3timesoccermom]

Not making excuses for him because there are none but how does he do the other times during the year when he (hopefully!!!) sees her?

If it's only been during the holiday time could he be depressed and just not following through with his responsibilities because of this?

Just another thought, again, not excusing the behavior.

[clevermom2004]

Good advice guys, thanks. I think next time I will have him come here at a set time. If he doesn't show he can't blame me. i just have to put myself in the mindset that if he's not here at that time, I move on with whatever plans I had. Not gonna sit around worrying or waiting on him.

It really doesnt matter what the excuse is. Finding out why is very draining on your well being. I have a husband the same way he says I am mean, but not really just not gonna teach my girl she has to put up with drama to have a man. Not a perfect person or parent either , but decided the only person I have control over is Me. Let me tell ya, that is enough

[RubyRed]

You're not responsible for his seeing your daughter or for his health and safety. He's your ex. So, from now on, tell him where and when you want him to pick her up. If he doesn't do it, it's on him.

[Troop1379]

My ex has to give me 24 hours before he picks up the kids. I have them on Christmas Eve cause santa only comes to one house but mine are 15 and 16 now. My ex also picks them up if he tells me that he will be there at 1pm and he does not get there at that time I can go do with I have planned and he dont get them unless he call and tells me why he is late. and if he tell me they are going to be home at 6pm and they get home after 7pm he dont get the they next visit day. I told the judge I cant wait around for him to show up.

[mom2Isaac]

My advice OP is instead of thinking of it in a negative way, turn it into something positive (though it is probably hard for your DD), such as it is more time for the two of you to spend together.
Sorry this happened though! :(