I don't understand people

[ScrappyDoo]

Is it REALLY that difficult to be faithful to your mate? REALLY?! I mean at what point do you say to yourself "Gee, I think I'd like to ruin someone's life today, and while I'm at it I will ruin mine too because after all.......these few minutes of gratification are SOOOOOOOOOO worth it."

SMH

[greenfrog57]

And, it makes your joint friends choose sides, and that's not fair either!

[VivaciousJewelz]

[ScrappyDoo]

Or in this case an entire community of people. I guess maybe I just can't think of ANYTHING that would be worth causing that much pain. I just don't understand. Why would you CHOOSE to make your life and the lives of those you love miserable? Any reasonable person with half a brain would have to know that EVERYONE gets caught eventually. No one is immune. So..............why even go there?

[CW&M Mom]

I literally can't even fathom cheating IT's foreign to me... But I do totally understand the feeling. HUGS my TUG!!!

[ScrappyDoo]

I literally can't even fathom cheating IT's foreign to me... But I do totally understand the feeling. HUGS my TUG!!!

Thanks




Just to clarify: It is not my DH I am talking about (because I would CUT IT OFF) but rather dear friends of ours.

[Blessed617]

Or in this case an entire community of people. I guess maybe I just can't think of ANYTHING that would be worth causing that much pain. I just don't understand. Why would you CHOOSE to make your life and the lives of those you love miserable? Any reasonable person with half a brain would have to know that EVERYONE gets caught eventually. No one is immune. So..............why even go there?

Because they are not reasonable. They are so focused on self and what they want that they forget the we and make it all about me. And at the same time they don't see their own part in their own unhappiness. They don't see their part in the picture and blame everything that is wrong on the other person. At least that is from my experience. I was not the one cheating, BTW.

Now I think back to my younger, more free minded days, and I was the other woman and the guy wanted conversation, attention, affection. He had a pretty trophy to show off and look good, but behind closed doors they were cold as ice to each other.

My husband cheated on me because there was no communication and we just drew apart. He was into stuff I wasn't into any more. There comes a time when childish things are left behind. I'm scared to open my mouth and speak my mind face to face for fear of physical retribution. So I did hinder things. He was not open with communication either until he'd blow up and let it all out. When I did open my mouth I was always wrong and there was never any give, so I eventually kept my mouth shut all the time and he thought he'd found an open communicator. 4 (or more) women later he is still having the same issues. I do think communication is a big reason though. Couples need to be more open with each other and really express what's on their mind in a civil way. We are not mind readers and often lose sight of that, just assuming the other person knows what we are thinking. Just my opinion.

[3timesoccermom]

Unfortunately a lot of jerks DO think those "few minutes of gratification" are worth the risk(s).

[JulieDB]

People who do that sort of thing are only thinking of themelves and their own pleasue.

[434Teresa]

There are about as many women these days that cheat as there are men. Myself I dont even see other men that turn my head much anymore let on my hormones. I think that many people that cheat are looking to do so before they even see/find the person they cheat with. I hope my hubby sees things like I do. we have to much time and effort put into each other to chance the other putting their clothes out in the driveway...

cheat on me one time shame on you, cheat on me two times shame on me for staying around so you can do it.