Were your 20's or 30's better?

[kschick96]

What a fun thread!

While, I am only part way through my 30's, both my 20's and so far my thirties, have been/were awesome, for the different places I was/am in my life.

My 20's were filled with education-college, grad school, work experience. I spent almost the entire decade single and climbing the corporate ladder. I worked all the time and had jobs where I would travel all of time-and (I am not joking) I lived out of hotels. It was a great time because everything was all about me since I was single and had no kiddos-sleeping late, doing what I wanted, when I wanted.

I met and married DH when I was 29 and life changed for me, but again, in a good way for the time in my life. We spent several years, just enjoying being a married couple and then we decided to have DS. Again, my life has changed, but in a wonderful way. My career has been back burnered so I can stay home with DS. I do wish I had the ablility to go off less sleep like I did when I was in my 20's-it's much harder now! But I wouldn't change a thing!

[Troop1379]

434Teresa good like I dont know how you do it with teens and twins that are 4. I spend all day at work with 8 two year olds and they run me to death but I do love them like they are my own. Some days I just want to cut my knees off (like today)

[3timesoccermom]

I had a BLAST in my 20's but my 30's were great for other reasons.

When I turned 40 my attitude changed and people were not allowed to "poop" on me any more but there were unwelcome changes too - like eyesight and hearing worsening seemingly overnight and some personal issues I have yet to completely recover from.

Each age seems to have its merits and maybe a few drawbacks but for pure fun I'd have to say early 20's.

[$Saving!]

It gets better with time for me. 20's were kind of rough, 30's were ok, I started becoming more secure and mature, 40's have been great in terms of emotional stability and security, and I expect 50's to be fabulous. I can relate to not having reached some of the goals I set for myself, but I am in total control and totally own my future, and my goals are realistic and attainable. I am a much happier 40something than I ever was a 20 or 30something. A friend told me when I turned 40 welcome to the don't give a crap decade, and she was pretty much right.

So very true! When I turned 40, my Mom called to wish me happy birthday and I told her I loved turning 40 and she laughed gently and asked why and I told her "I've been around every block at least twice, have opinions about everything, the love of family and friends and I don't need everyone to like me!" It's called being comfortable in my own skin I guess.

I am who I am, am happy with who I am, and life doesn't get any better than that

[$Saving!]

Ok, time for a little levity for those worried about getting older I myself am 58, so 'been there, done that' applies to a lot of your feelings about each decade and either my memory is horribly lacking or I concentrate on the highlights (as opposed to the lowlights) of each, but I've had fun and each decade has brought new joy for many reasons.

But, if you have never read this before, enjoy it, it's true, I know, I'm there!

In case you missed it on 60 Minutes, this is what Andy Rooney thinks about women over 50.

As I grow in age, I value women over 50 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why: A woman over 50 will never wake you in the middle of the night & ask, 'What are you thinking?' She doesn't care what you think. If a woman over 50 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She goes and does something, she wants to do, & it's usually more interesting. Women over 50 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it. Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 50. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 50 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest.. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk or if you are acting like one. You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her. Yes, we praise women over 50 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 50, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!

There, that ought to add some perspective

[JulieDB]

My 20's were really rough. The car I was driving then broke down about every 2 to 3 weeks so had to go to the shop. It also had bad brakes. I had the brakes worked on constantly. Now keep in mind this was a 1970 Maverick with drum brakes. There was no way they could be fixed any better than they were. Or so I was told. So I hit several cars because it wouldn't stop. All of my money (and I wasn't making a lot) went to keeping that car working. And I needed the car to get to work. Bus service in this area is really pretty bad.

I can't remember exactly how old I was when I got braces on my teeth. Late 20's to early 30's. They sucked. I finally got a decent car around that time. A Dodge Lancer. I think it was an '82. Prior to that I had bought another lemon. It was a Dodge Dart that threw a rod a mere week after I took it into my possesion. I was financing it and had only just made the first payment. I had to finance the Lancer as well. But it rarely broke down and I kept it for many years. Sold it for almost what I paid for it. So it was a good car.


I did have a lot of fun in my 20's. Went to a lot of parties, went out dancing some. Took a lot of road trips with my male friend who was wealthy. Had one boyfriend that I think might have been crazy. Had a lot of roommates and went through periods of time where I had to scrape things together to get enough food to eat. So some tough times too.

My 30's were a mixed bag. Got my own apartment probably in my late 20's. Finally got a better job. Same company, but better job and better pay. I was livnig above a dance studio. Weird old apartment but super cheap rent. And I wasn't home much. If I wasn't working, I was going out to eat, going out dancing or going on vacation. Met my husband.

Got married at 35. Moved to Cape Cod. Hated living there. Worked for less than minimum wage at a golf course. It was a boring job but it gave me something to do because there isn't much to do there. And nobody my age. They were all younger or senior citizens. So a very lonely time for me. I took up writing. Husband is in the military and was away most of the time.

Had my daughter at age 39. So that was good but then I got very, very sick with a whole lot of stuff. So my 40's were super rough. I'm 52 now.

[momof2inohio]

As far as feeling good..I actually feel better now in my 30's than I did in my 20's. I eat healthier and exercise more so I am taking better care of my body now than I used to.

I do not have any wrinkles yet but I take good care of my skin and do not go tanning. I did notice a few gray hairs a few months ago.

I remember when I was in my early 20's and got so annoyed when someone carded me for buying alcohol. Now I get excited when I get carded. It makes my day!

[Queenkim98]

I hated turning 30........just the idea of it made me want to curl up and die. Turning 40 wasn't so bad at all.

Things were a lot different in my 20's than in my 30's and then in my 40's.....but I just keep getting wiser with age.

Kim