Torn!

[ilove2$hop]

I am in a dilemma. My mom has cancer and my fiance and I were offered a job but it is 1500 miles away. We really need the job but then we would be leaving my mom. We have bills to pay and the opportunity is there. I don't know what to do!!!!!

[shelleyf]

I am so sorry about your Mom and I will be praying for her. I understand you need the job and want to be with your Mom. I will pray you make the right decision. I know you want and need to be there with her through this hard time but you need the money too. If you stay where you live will you be able to survive? If so then I think you should stay with her.

[CW&M Mom]

Is your mom's cancer terminal?

[ilove2$hop]

Is your mom's cancer terminal?

yes it is. she is at stage IV but from reading about it, some people can live quite long with that diagnosis.

[ilove2$hop]

I am so sorry about your Mom and I will be praying for her. I understand you need the job and want to be with your Mom. I will pray you make the right decision. I know you want and need to be there with her through this hard time but you need the money too. If you stay where you live will you be able to survive? If so then I think you should stay with her.

yes, we can survive but if we go, our income will double...so thats why I am torn. I will think and pray about it for awhile...

[CW&M Mom]

I wouldn't leave with someone I hadn't married. IMO fiancee and husband is not the same.

My mother lives 2 states away...it takes 2 days to visit her unless I fly. Luckily my father is with her..but it seriously sucks to be that far away from her...she has terminal breast cancer.

My mother is stable right now..but at some point I will probably have to temporarily move me and possibly my kids down to stay with them. I will not let my mother die without me there.

[ilove2$hop]

I wouldn't leave with someone I hadn't married. IMO fiancee and husband is not the same.

My mother lives 2 states away...it takes 2 days to visit her unless I fly. Luckily my father is with her..but it seriously sucks to be that far away from her...she has terminal breast cancer.

My mother is stable right now..but at some point I will probably have to temporarily move me and possibly my kids down to stay with them. I will not let my mother die without me there.

good points and more to think about.....

[JulieDB]

Let him go there for now and if possible you could move into a cheaper place or even just rent a room.

My husband is in the miltary and when he got transferred for one last time (he will retire next year) we just told him to go. My parents are elderly and we need to stay here.

[Mama Stu]

When you look back on this time in your life, will you say " I wish I would have gone to where there was more money, or I wish I would have spent the time with my Mom while I had the chance". You only have one Mom, there will always be opportunities for jobs and careers. Just my humble opinion.

I know which choice I would make. I know that right now it seems like a difficult decision to make. I just think the older we get the more we realize how short life is and how precious family is.

[Doglover8180]

When you look back on this time in your life, will you say " I wish I would have gone to where there was more money, or I wish I would have spent the time with my Mom while I had the chance". You only have one Mom, there will always be opportunities for jobs and careers. Just my humble opinion.

I know which choice I would make. I know that right now it seems like a difficult decision to make. I just think the older we get the more we realize how short life is and how precious family is.

I agree with Mama Stu. Years down the road will you say to yourself, "I am so glad I went and took that job" or will you say to yourself, "I am so glad that I spent what time I had left with my Mom." You only got one Mom but there are other jobs. I'd let the fiance go and meet up with him later and I would stay back and spend that time with my mom. Time is precious and we all only get so much of it.