Torn!

[jluper7297]

I don't think... I KNOW you have made the right choice. I lost my mom when I was 30. We live in AZ and my parents lived in California. The day my mom passed away I had called that day to ask my dad some random computer question. I was in a hurry. My mom answered Janice! HI!!! I said "Hey, is dad there?" I didn't even say Hi... I said 'Hey' I talked to my dad, hung up and went to work. Three hours later I got the call that she passed away during her evening nap. She was only 52. It took me a long time to get over that guilt. It ate away at me for a long time. I still live with regret that I didn't take a few moments to chat with her that day, even though I usually talked to her everyday. Cherish every moment you get. My dad is in advanced stage 4 cancer right now in his colon, liver, lymph system and 2 spots on his bone. I am literally BEGGING him to move to AZ in January when his medical insurance runs out and he switches to LTD and Medicare. There is nothing else tying him to California anymore and MD Anderson just opened a state of the art Cancer Center on the campus of the Hospital I work at. I know he will get the best care possible, by people that I work with everyday. He will also be living with us where I can take care of him.

[Doglover8180]

I don't think... I KNOW you have made the right choice. I lost my mom when I was 30. We live in AZ and my parents lived in California. The day my mom passed away I had called that day to ask my dad some random computer question. I was in a hurry. My mom answered Janice! HI!!! I said "Hey, is dad there?" I didn't even say Hi... I said 'Hey' I talked to my dad, hung up and went to work. Three hours later I got the call that she passed away during her evening nap. She was only 52. It took me a long time to get over that guilt. It ate away at me for a long time. I still live with regret that I didn't take a few moments to chat with her that day, even though I usually talked to her everyday. Cherish every moment you get. My dad is in advanced stage 4 cancer right now in his colon, liver, lymph system and 2 spots on his bone. I am literally BEGGING him to move to AZ in January when his medical insurance runs out and he switches to LTD and Medicare. There is nothing else tying him to California anymore and MD Anderson just opened a state of the art Cancer Center on the campus of the Hospital I work at. I know he will get the best care possible, by people that I work with everyday. He will also be living with us where I can take care of him.

I am so sorry for your loss of your mother. Mind me asking what she died of. Seems so young, 52, and to just go during a nap. What had happened?

[sandratesch]

Good choice!! Money comes and goes and a Mother doesn't. Enjoy spending time with her. I will be be praying for you and your family. It is hard to see a loved one going through something that you have no control over. (((hugs)))

[jluper7297]

My mom had a heart attack at 42. She also had diabetes, polycythemia, sarcoidosis and CHF. All but the diabetes developed after her heart attack. When she was in her early twenties she got pneumonia and slipped into a coma. She was at UCLA Medical Center and the Dr's put her on 100% oxygen for roughly 2 weeks. Now they know that you really can't do that for more than 24 hours. It ruined her lung capacity. She had been on oxygen and also had to sleep with a by-pap machine on for 10 years before she passed.