Mother of the Groom question

[Lori63]

My son is getting married in October. Is there a 'protocol' or whatever as to what I wear? Their colors are royal (or navy?) blue and gold. He is in the Air Force and wearing his dress blues.
I was wondering if a burgundy dress is ok? I haven't even shopped yet (I know; I need to get on the ball!) but any suggestions are appreciated

[taylordvd]

I was told the mother of the groom should ask the mother of the bride what she is wearing. But, today I think alot of people don't wear the right thing to weddings. My advice is to find the outfit that makes you look absolutely fabulous!! You want to look fantastic in those pictures because they are going to be around for a long time! Don't worry as much about coordinating because then you will not pick what is best for you. My mother-in-law was told by one of my sister-in-laws that she needed to wear a long dress to the wedding. Well my MIL is short and she picked something to please the SIL but she did not look very good in any of the pictures. That was a big shame, IMO.

[CW&M Mom]

I'd ask the bride what she wants you to wear.

[Spanelli8706]

I'd ask the bride what she wants you to wear.

I second this. My MIL didn't ask me and she wore a lavendar dress. I hate lavendar! And MIL & FIL were our only guests, as we got married on a beach in Australia. So in all of my pics, MIL is standing out in her lavendar dress. Ugh.

[atcwag]

I just got married in July. My mother-in-law asked me my opinion. We had a low-key outdoor ceremony. I wasn't picky at all. She wore a royal blue knee-length dress with a black short sleeve jacket.

Technically, the mother of the groom shouldn't wear something close to what the mother of the bride is wearing, but this thought process is much outdated.

I would talk to your son and future daughter-in-law and see if they have an opinion.

[momof2inohio]

I didn't care what my Mom or MIL wore. They both actually picked out the same dress but in different colors so that is what they wore and they both looked great!

[Macaela25]

My MIL, aunt, and mom wore variations of the same dress in the same color. Different lengths, one had a jacket, different collars, sleeve lengths...looked very nice and coordinated.

I realize that doesn't work for everyone, but we are super close as an extended family, including my ILs.

[bessiemae]

My son just got married last weekend. The dress was a big decision, but everything worked out beautifully. The ettiquette says take your cues from the brides mother.
In our case, we both wore long dresses and wore colors in the same color family. The bride didn't want us to wear the colors of the wedding party or us to wear the same color. I let her pick if she liked what I was looking at. In the end, I had two dresses that I could not make a decision on and asked my son to make the final selection.