ADVICE Needed - 19 year old and movie

[3timesoccermom]

My 19 year old daughter was asked to go to this movie tonight. I just read the review - UGH!!!! This is not the type of stuff I find worth watching and I'm seriously considering telling my daughter no even though she will be very mad. BUT, she is 19 1/2 years old with a year of college, away from home, under her belt so in a way it seems ridiculous to tell her she can't do something!

I told her yesterday it was tacky subject material and she said it was funny. Well after reading the review, I don't think it's so funny. This is not like me to be indecisive but Hubs is not available to discuss this with.

What do you think? She saw the first one.

Latest Hangover takes a dark turn



By AMY BIANCOLLI 2011 Houston Chronicle

May 24, 2011, 5:25PM


WARNER BROS.

Phil (Bradley Cooper), from left, Alan (Zach Galifianakis) and Stu (Ed Helms) find themselves in Bangkok this time around.

Movie details The Hangover Part II
Movie Type Comedy
MPAA Rating R for pervasive language, strong sexual content including graphic nudity, drug use and brief violent images
Running Time 102 minutes
Directed By Todd Phillips
Cast Bradley Cooper, Ed Helms, Jamie Chung, Liam Neeson, Zach Galifianakis
Released May 26, 2011 (Nationwide)
Distributed By Warner Bros. Pictures

The Hangover Part II uncorks smut so outlandish, unapologetic, free-flowing and graphic that you have to wonder, really, how this and The King's Speech both merit an R. You also have to wonder whether it's time to consider a new rating, maybe an R-plus-ultra, to cover mainstream comedies that should cause parents to fling themselves bodily at kids in line for tickets.

This is one of those movies. It features many, many bad words and makes light of many, many bad things: drug overdoses, unprotected sex with prostitutes, severed fingers, monkeys smoking cigarettes. And yet this dark and seedy follow-up to 2009's blockbuster comedy has quite a retro message — suggesting that civilized men carry inside them a monster, a "demon" within, that requires constant taming. Why, no less a theologian than Johnny Cash pleads on the soundtrack: "God help the beast in me."

If The Hangover Part I celebrated the wild thang in every domesticated American male, Part II pushes him to the brink of a howling existential crisis. It keeps the old premise - guys wake with amnesia after a sick night of bachelor-partying - and sticks to the familiar mystery-comedy format, doling out new revelations and riotous shockers every few minutes. It asks not whodunit (we know who done it: dem fools who blacked out) but what the heck happened, period.

The screenwriters have changed (from Jon Lucas and Scott Moore to Scot Armstrong and Craig Mazin), but the director remains the same: Todd Phillips. The guys remain the same: starchy Stu (Ed Helms), jerky Phil (Bradley Cooper) and crazy, infantile Alan (Zach Galifianakis), plus screechy Mr. Chow (Ken Jeong) and mild-mannered Doug (Justin Bartha), who went missing in the last movie and stays behind in this one.

This time, Stu's the one getting married. He wakes with Mike Tyson's face tattoo, not a missing tooth. The chemically fueled partying occurs in Bangkok, not Las Vegas. The tiny primate they acquire is a monkey, not a baby. And the character gone missing - well, all but his finger - is Teddy (Mason Lee, son of director Ang), the bride's innocent teenage brother. Oops.

"It happened again," confesses Phil in the brief flash-forward that opens the movie. And yet, despite all the similarities, despite the same madcap plotting and hysterically unhinged comic filth, The Hangover Part II veers into much darker territory. Bangkok, for one thing, out-depraves Vegas by a long shot; gone is the safe, prefabricated sheen of Sin City, replaced by sweat and smog that hides the missing Teddy. "Bangkok has him now," mutters a cagey tattoo artist played by filmmaker Nick Cassavetes.
Other new additions include tough-talking Paul Giamatti and several Buddhist monks, one of them a smiling old fellow who participates (indirectly) in one of the movie's plentiful penis gags. When in doubt, I guess, just turn the camera on a male sex organ. Or something that looks like one. Or might be mistaken for one by a drug-dealing simian - because, quoth Alan, "When a monkey nibbles on a penis, it's funny in any language."

[kschick96]

I know I don't have teens, but here is my take.

I would let her decide if she wants to see the movie or not. Odds are that if she were away at college this weekend, she would probably be going-and just not mentioning it.

I know from your posts that you have really good girls-so I wouldn't worry.

(I do agree that the movie sounds gross-I hated the original Hangover-so I won't be watching this one.)

[mythreesons]

Umm..19yrs old? I wouldn't even dream of telling my child of that age she/he CAN"T go see a movie of her/his choice! JMHO..

[chitownmelli]

Renee, The hangover movies are bordering on ridiculous in the comedy - the things they pull are so off the wall that I dont think a child of yours would ever take an example from this movie to apply to their life. She will probably think its hilarious and that's about it lol.

[3timesoccermom]

This is so not like me - I am never indecisive about this sort of stuff but by her going while she's living at home I just feel I am condoning this when I spent most of her life making sure there were quality things to view and read in our house. It's garbage. As far as it being "funny" I told her there are tons of funny movies without the filth.

I thought she would go see movies regularly at school but she never had time to go see even 1 while she was there.

Sigh. . . .

[couponmommyof3]

Here's my two cents-I'm 29 with seriously OVER-protective parents and never was able to do what I wanted when I wanted. The entire time in high school my curfew was 10. After high school it was midnight. I can tell you that if she really wants to see it, she very well may see it and not tell you.

BUT she's 19, already in college, seems to have a good head on her shoulders-I bet you raised a good girl and I bet she knows what is right from wrong. Yes, I understand your point, why fill your head with this stupid stuff, but really sometimes it's nice to just sit back and laugh your butt off! I LOVED the first one! It was VERY bad, but I loved it so much I bought it, and watch it when I'm depressed. I will NEVER let my children watch it in their young years nor their teen years, but when they are MUCH older if they want to watch it they can.

Sorry, sounded like a bit of a rant, by point is, I love my parents but they were very overprotective and I hardly experienced anything before I got married and had kids.

Good Luck!!

[chitownmelli]

For what it's worth, sometimes I need to totally off the wall, silly comedy to unwind a little even if they are sometimes a little uh... less quality lol! To me, off the wall humor is better than movies about killing and fighting :)

[sns4063]

It's a movie! Let her make up her own mind-she is an adult.

[homescrapper]

I suppose it all hinges on your relationship with your daughter.

If she strongly values your opinion then tell it to her. If she asked if she could go tell her, No. If she listens to you for spiritual reasons, then tell her, No.

If she suggested it and will do what she wants no matter what you say then let her waste her money and time. She will come to realize with hard earned money later that you have to make better choices.

I personally, feel that there are some things that our kids do because they just don't get how damaging it is to their psychological make ups and some times as parents I really think it is appropriate to step in.

While a 19 year old at college is usually considered an adult, they are still looking to you in some cases to guide them. It's a tough one. I would hope for your sake, that she chooses not to go ... While I have even myself liked some of the actors in this movie, in the past, the content of this movie just seems raunchy. If people don't go to it then they will stop making crap like this, But honestly if it makes money they will keep making them like that... Raunchy!!I like you, don't think it is even remotely funny. It's actually kind of sick.

JMHO

[shelleyf]

I think it sounds like an awful movie but she is an adult. She probably won't listen to you if you tell her no anyways. I never had my Mom tell me what to do when I moved out at 19 and got married. Now when I lived at home at 19 before getting married that was another story, lol
We can try to teach our kids right from wrong and I do but they will do what they want anyways I found out with my 19 year old son that moved out a few months ago. Also my 16 y.o. daughter got rebellious and we had to straighten her out. We live the Bible around here and sometimes it just isn't enough. Everyone makes their own decisions right or wrong. I am not trying to sound mean here at all. I am just shocked that you are thinking of telling her no when she is moved out and an adult and that she even asked your permission. I wish my son would do that sometimes, lol but he is sadly learning from his mistakes his own way. but he is learning fast and coming back around to the way he was raised. He has a way to go but he is coming.