My DH is married to WOW and here I was thinking he was married to me;(

[anaj06]

I need to rant:

DH drives me nuts with WOW...he is on it all the time. I don't understand how he can throw so much time into a black hole and have nothing to show for it! Even when he is supposed to be watching the kids, they are playing (or climbing the walls) and he is on the computer.

He has gone the the extreme lately though and we are actually partially scheduling our evenings around when his group has "raid events" and when they don't. It is absolutely ridiculous!

Does anyone else have a WOW husband; if so what are some of the strategies that you use to deal with his addiction...yes I think its an addiction...

[gingersunshine]

silly question, but what is WOW?

[anaj06]

World of Warcraft....the most addictive online computer game my husband has ever played....and he has played computer games the entire 11 years we have been together.

[rebate_queen]

Oh I can relate....I don't know how long it's been now (maybe about a year) but it got so bad I basically said stop playing or we're done. He was on there until all hours of the night and also started to "schedule" things around when he had to be on there for stuff.

We are still married.....so he quit playing....BUT now he just substituted playing disc golf (or frisbee golf) and when he's not playing he's researching it or reading about it online....so still on the computer ALL the time. I have decided recently that I am giving up, he is NEVER going to be the kind of husband that does stuff around the house. He does do the dishes and hangs his clothes up after I do the laundry though, but nothing along the lines of "fixing" things or anything.

He does bring in the majority of our income though, so that's why I've just decided to be thankful that he goes to work everyday and doesn't go to bars and stuff. But I feel your pain.......

[gettinrevvin2007]

Ditto what rebate queen said. I'm also a WoW widow. I keep telling myself, 'well, at least I know where my husband is at.'

I wish if mine was going to play an online game, that it was one like MyPoints or Winster where he could at least earn some gift cards, like I do-you know-some REAL 'gold'.

Maybe we should start our own support group or HCW group.

[brandasa]

I feel your pain. My husband played four upwards of 5 years. He would play all evening sometimes, especially in college. Once we got married he was much better about it, though I realized he was playing with friends. We had many discussions (arguments) about WOW. Finally, he has moved onto other games that are my conducive to family life - games that allow him to play for little segments of time and not always during "prime time" like wow requires. Plus, in his humble opinion, wow has really gone down hill the last several years.

[deallover]

OMG I can so relate. Mine used to play WOW and I told him he had to stop because of the expense. Well now he has found Evony which supposedly is free until I found out he took 200.00 out of my daughters checking account for that stupid game. He is a truck driver and only home on weekends and he spends his home time playing these stupid games instead of seeing his five kids. I am so tired of the games that I have threatened to to turn off the internet but that punishes me. I cannot teel you the number of arguments that had been as a result of this. I have to have my computer time around the games or get up in the middle of the night.

[rachellepeters]

Be thankful he is at home :))))))

[anaj06]

We only argue about 3 things in our marriage....his Dad, money and WOW. We don't argue that often but when we do they can be some very "heated debates." As a result of our last heated debate he moved to a new group who are mostly on the West coast so they start their raids at 10pm our time (which I usually am in bed by then)....so I don't have to see as much of it anymore.

He is still on and off all the time "bumping auctions" and whatever else it is he does.

My biggest complaint is what happened to the days of pausing the game. I'll need to tell him something before bedtime...you know a quick conversation but one that needs to be had for tomorrow and he says, can you wait about 10 minutes until I finish this __________. I say, just stop for a minute and he can't "disappoint" his raid buddies by messing up the goal/mission.

I want to pull my hair out sometimes because he is messing up my goal/mission by not listening to me! I know I should time it better but if I forget to tell him anything before he starts playing, we are in this boat....

The term WOW widow works.....

[kval07]

I too am a WoW widow. My coping strategy? After 3 years of hatred, bitterness, fights, tears and high blood pressure, I called off the engagement and gave the ring back. Went to counseling and that worked for about two seconds until we quit going. (FYI: counseling was his idea.) Next step? Calling it quits at the end of the lease since he won't go back to his parents' willingly.

I feel for you. I really do. It sucks and you will never change your husband. NEVER.