DH is thinking of joining the Marines

[christina1286]

DH came home the other day with a brochure from the Marines and has been talking to a recruiter about joining, so they told him to practice ASVAB and get an ASVAB book from the library. On the other hand I've been talking to him about me joining the Navy (this is before he told me about the Marines). If he does join the Marines, we agreed that I will not join the Navy and watch the house and go to college. I haven't told him, but I'm very worried because I know that training is not going to be a walk in the park, and I'm not sure how I will be able to deal with him being gone for so long as well:sad:. Do any Military Wives got any advice for what I'm about to be going through and how to deal with it?:shrug7: TIA!:smile77:

[christina1286]

That was my first reaction, to tell him NO, but this is something he has really been interested in since I first started dating him. I don't want to stop him from doing what he really wants to do, I'm going to support him 100% since he always supports me in things I want to do, but sometimes I find myself not being able to even think about being apart from him for who knows how long:sad:, and I'm just trying to be as supportive as I can, but I find it kind of tough at times, but I don't want to hold him back. I'm definitely ok with him wanting to join, but I just want to know how to deal with all the different emotions that I am going through now, and all the different emotions that I will be going through once he's gone.I'm trying my best to stay strong in front of him.

[mama22qts]

You should PM hotcouponmama. She might be able to help you out.

[loladooder99]

my husband was in the army when we were dating and then he contract worked after he got out for 8 months. So i had to wait about a year for him to come see me. It drove me nuts. The best thing to do is keep yourself busy. Thinking about it will make you sad. Having friends and support group. I know there are plenty of wives support groups for military.

[amy s]

First of all... CONGRATULATIONS to your and your husband!
Being a Marine is a very very very important thing that will change both your lives tremendously...for the better!!!!!
You can PM me for more info.....
AMY

[$dontleaveme]

I don't see the problem, if you were thinking of joining the Navy you wouldn't be seeing him either. And, if you both joined in different branches, well it might be a miracle to see each other! But, i don't know much on that.

Have you thought of both joining the Marines? or Navy? I met one husband wife team that were both recruiters even. I don't know how they swung that in the same city at same time.

I sent you private PM too.

[$dontleaveme]

oh, forgot:
get all the RIGHT KIND of exercise you can before boot camp.
It might prevent you from injuries, make you less noticeble to the Drill Sergent, take less time to come up to par in ability.
My high school son did workouts with his Marine recruiter and other poolies (what they are called before boot camp). I was very greatful they did.

[nmeadows0101]

I don't know what to say, but my son is going on 17 and wants to sign up his birthday for the Navy.
Now he is in the sea cadet program in Charlotte NC ( www.seacadetcharlotte.org)
I picked him yesterday from the shootout ( were they learn how to make bridges, use guns the right/ safe way and much more) , he goes once a mo. for training . This mo. he will be a parade in Taylorsville, NC ( or fun) the only one in NC on the 25Th .
OH yeah, the 1st week of June there is a 5K they can go to also to help get ready for boot camp.
Last mo. they trained at the fire-station.
I think the 1st weekend in June it is going to be learning the 2 main swimming strokes for the Navy.
My son is driven for this and wants it so bad. He joined this group in DEC. and just the past few mos.
I have had no calls from school about fights or behavior, no failing grades, nothing but good stuff!
I am very proud of him.
I have not decided yet to sign him up or not but I am wavering on waiting until his 18Th birthday. With this program they train with the Marines and Navy together so he and the others will go in at a higher rank than someone walking in( which is good) .
He also has boot-camp in GA , camp Penning June 14Th for 2 weeks( 14 days) that we are trying to get everything together for now.

Sorry ,I am not much help.
If he is driven and has a passion for it ,I would say to spend time in prayer about it and ask the Lord to close the doors if it is not in his prefect will for him.

[Jenna26]

My husband has been in the Army for 5.5 years now. He spent a year in Korea (alone) when our daughter was 1-2 years old, and he's about to go back there for another year (after 4 months of additional school to change his job). =( We have 3 children now, and I know it's going to be hard, but they will surely keep me busy! Keeping occupied is the key. Do fun things with your daughter, learn a new hobby, visit family and friends more often, etc. Write him often in training - you may not hear back as much, since he'll be so busy, but he will really appreciate hearing about home. My relationship with my husband grew closer during the separation.

Good luck! PM me if you'd like to talk more. =)

[christina1286]

I know this is something that will definitely benefit us both, and we decided that I will not join the Navy if he does indeed go to the Marines, its just that it's going to be tough being separated from him for so long. I'm going to try and keep busy, hopefully the job market will look better by the time he leaves and I will be starting college by that time, but the good-bye part is whats getting at me the most.