when you feel like your growing out of love.

[snowluvntime]

I totally agree with (no trust, there's nothing) To explain the keylogger idea. I only did it for the 2 wks. As Billig said I nipped it in the bud was right on. I Have not had to use it again. You see I was being lied to and I knew it, I just needed the proof to back me up when I had this conversation with my dh. My situation is really bad to begin with, and no it's no way for anyone to live. The keylogger can bring out alot more problems,and boy did it. I choose to take that chance because without trust what do you have? (nothing) but I surly didn't want to live a lie either. From what I've read everyones had really great input with awesome support for this woman. I whole hearted wish her nothing but the best.

[billig]

5 to 6 days a week

:hectic1:

So that one or two days that you are off work, is he home at the same time?
What are your activities on any days that both of you are home?

And BTW, how are you doing?

[abond0017]

I havent read all of the posts but here are the top 10 things that I could think of that might help if you keep them in mind. :)

1. Porn doesnt always equal a sick and twisted person or a failed marraige.
2. He may have legitimate reasons for some of the things he does that bother you.
3. For the other things he does that bother you and doesnt have a good reason for, he just may not know it bothers you that much or is so unhappy himself that its hard to think about making anyone else happy. Not saying that this is right, but it helps to undertand where each other is coming from.
4. Men have to have everything spelled out for them. "Honey will you take a different shift?" doesnt translate "Honey I feel neglected and need you to take another shift or our marraige is in deep poo poo." Make him understand where you are coming from but dont attack, men are babies and cant handle that.
5. Counselling is great.
6. Resentment leads a mairrage to a slow and horrible death if it isnt handled properly.
7. Approaching a man with "YOU are doing this" "I dont like YOU doing that" or "Its because YOU..." sends them into defense mode and you wont get anything accomplished. Choose the way you phrase things wisely.
8. Being overly emotional when bringing up the problems may make it harder to get through to him.
9. Compromise is key.
10. If you dont admit that you have done some things wrong too (even if you havent ;) it will also make him feel like its a one-sided thing and send him into defensinve mode.Most of the time they cant accept up front that its mostly their fault. You have to let them find that out gradually.

Ok Im adding an 11th one :)
11. Hang in there.

Hope maybe something here hasnt been said before and can help out a bit more. Good luck to you and I hope eveything turns out well.