Newly unemployed husband rant!

[KristinesShower]

Ok, maybe I am flying off the handle early - I'll give ya that, but what is it with some people that don't have the "urgency" that others have?

My husband lost his job on Tuesday and I'm sorry, if it was me I would have already had another job.

As soon as he lost his job, I took all of my coupons and ecb's and planned out some pretty good scenarios to get us milk, eggs, diapers and some other necessities that we would need in the coming weeks to get by. I also took inventory of all our "luxuries" like extra tv's, DVD player, exercise equiptment, furniture, etc and listed most of them on sale lists. Face it, they were just sitting around anyway and we don't even use half of them.

I am trying to make some extra money by having a really nice sale on my website for my wholesale customers and this week, I've already paid all of our bills for the next month and it is ONLY SATURDAY.

I guess I just need to rant because the only thing he's done was pissed and moaned about how he was wrongfully terminated, doesn't want to do this and that around the house (I give him a list of stuff every day to do) oh! and he's also filled out 4 applications for jobs this week.

I just get so sick of doing EVERYTHING all the time in my family - I don't mind being a mommy to my little boy and my doggies, but when it comes to my husband is it so wrong for me to want him to "man up" ???

Short of what I've already did - do any of you have any advice for me? I think we should be ok for the next month on mortgage, auto payment, insurance, phone and cc's (I've long since cut these up, so using them is not an option while he is unemployed) - I think we will be ok on groceries for at least 3 weeks because of my excellent stockpiling skills - but what else am I missing? I feel like there is something else I should be doing, but can't think of it right now...

Oh! I've also called all the places that we owe money to so they know our situation and it is very surprising and pleasing to see how many of them are going to be patient and work with us.

[Clipper]

Give the guy a break. Getting fired sucks. BIG TIME! It's humiliating and depressing. It's hasn't even been a week. Give him a chance to process. That he's filled out four applications already is pretty darn good, in my opinion. He's lucky he has somebody as put together as you to make sure things don't fall apart. That's why we form partnerships, to have somebody get us through the rough times. Chill out and go give your guy a hug and listen to him vent for a bit, then go do something fun together. Life is too short.

[druidessemily]

I agree with Clipper; losing a job, especially if you feel that it was wrong, is very hard to process. Especially if it was a long term job. Let him process it for awhile. You seem to have a very good handle on taking care of your family's financial needs.

It's getting warmer, have you thought about planting a garden to supplement your produce costs? I live in an apartment and am still able to grow a decent amount of tomatoes, peppers, and herbs on my porch. This year I am also going to try okra and maybe some beans/peas again (last year the heat killed 'em).

I am sorry that you and your family are going through a tough time. Just realize your husband might be going through a very difficult time right now and may need your emotional support.

[lmcconne]

May I say Kudos! to you. You sound like a take-the-bull-by-the-horns kind of gal.

[faeryedark]

Is he eligible for unemployment? My husband lost a job (this was years ago) and it WAS a wrongful termination. We fought (or I should say I fought) for his unemployment and we won. Hubby was employed 3 months later. I let him take a break, after all the years he'd work 30 days straight and then would only get one day off. Our then landlord's wife helped him get the job he has now. I'd say he filled out about 3 apps. a week after the first month...so, I'd say your hubby's doin' good.

[1daygourmet]

I agree I know it's a worry when your husband doesn't know when he's going back to work. Believe me! My husband is a construction sub-contractor in Fl and in Jan. one of his jobs was pushed back, every week I said why don't you get something until this job is ready, he'd say we're ok for another week, this went on and on week after week. He just started the job that was schedulaled for Jan. THIS WEEK. I don't know how we made it. Now all of our savings is gone and I'm praying jobs don't slow down again. But I have a feeling construction in Fl isn't going to be consistant for a while. Hang in there.

[jesekknitasmom]

I could have written this myself...except my H has been unemployed since mid Feb. We just got a notice from the complex that we are going to be inspected on Wed...and of course he's SLEEPING today. :shrug7:

Ok, maybe I am flying off the handle early - I'll give ya that, but what is it with some people that don't have the "urgency" that others have?

My husband lost his job on Tuesday and I'm sorry, if it was me I would have already had another job.

As soon as he lost his job, I took all of my coupons and ecb's and planned out some pretty good scenarios to get us milk, eggs, diapers and some other necessities that we would need in the coming weeks to get by. I also took inventory of all our "luxuries" like extra tv's, DVD player, exercise equiptment, furniture, etc and listed most of them on sale lists. Face it, they were just sitting around anyway and we don't even use half of them.

I am trying to make some extra money by having a really nice sale on my website for my wholesale customers and this week, I've already paid all of our bills for the next month and it is ONLY SATURDAY.

I guess I just need to rant because the only thing he's done was pissed and moaned about how he was wrongfully terminated, doesn't want to do this and that around the house (I give him a list of stuff every day to do) oh! and he's also filled out 4 applications for jobs this week.

I just get so sick of doing EVERYTHING all the time in my family - I don't mind being a mommy to my little boy and my doggies, but when it comes to my husband is it so wrong for me to want him to "man up" ???

Short of what I've already did - do any of you have any advice for me? I think we should be ok for the next month on mortgage, auto payment, insurance, phone and cc's (I've long since cut these up, so using them is not an option while he is unemployed) - I think we will be ok on groceries for at least 3 weeks because of my excellent stockpiling skills - but what else am I missing? I feel like there is something else I should be doing, but can't think of it right now...

Oh! I've also called all the places that we owe money to so they know our situation and it is very surprising and pleasing to see how many of them are going to be patient and work with us.

[beth119]

This is a little off topic, but if he was carrying your medical insurance, you should look into Cobra. Depending on what state you live in, your insurance can end at midnight his last day of work. You have 60 days to sign up for Cobra, but it can be expensive. If you can't afford it, look into other options, especially for your little boy. HTH

[heyaheather]

Not that it matters if you answer to the board, but ask yourself why you are really mad. Are you mad because he hasn't done anything about it, or are you mad b/c he lost his job? It takes time to get over a big blow like that, especially if he thinks that he was wronged. Ask DH what he needs you to do to help him get on his feet again and his head back in the game. And, listen. Sometimes listening is all that it takes to help another out.

[puakinikini]

I hear your pain - my DH and i have different approaches to things - I want to fix everything right away and plan for the future - he is more the denial type.

My advice is to try to be supportive - as others have said losing your job is really difficult. Plus, marriage is all about surviving the bad times together.