Hi everyone!! My name is Jen, Im from NH and a newly again single mother to my beautiful daughter Jaelyn and these are the stories of our ups and downs :)
Wishing to be a good couponer
Posted 03-10-2009 at 10:45:00 AM by jaelyns_mommy
WARNING: VENTING AHEAD
Yes Im doing a little venting today. Day after day of coming here I keep thinking I can save OMG so much and stockpile better than the Walmart Distribution Center in my town. I know that walmart doesnt double q's but in all honesty I dont feel like driving 20 minutes to the closest supermarket that does. And I keep seeing all these deals that I want to get like dry food and frozen meat but I dont have any room to store it. I still live w/my parents and w/my dads food, my stepmoms food-shes filipino and only eats little 'american' food- I have no room for my food. Well since I had Jaelyn my stepmom basically refuses to buy me food that I like and I eat mainly cheap food ie: mac & cheese, ramon noodles, chicken, hot dogs, etc... It really sucked when I came home. There was litterally like no food at all just her asian food and didnt do grocery shopping. Although she did go shopping for herself and bought an SUV and complains about having no money. I also must state that me and my stepmom arent on good terms, we never have since she married my dad. She also attempted to call me a slut because I got pregnant but Aunt shut her down before she even said it..thank you Auntie. But anywho my family lives in a tiny trailer and thats one of the reasons why I have no room to do a mini food stockpile. I do have all my household stockpile done. Half is in my car not packed yet and the other half is packed and is in one of our storage boxes. I know moving is very stressful and maybe this is why Im freaking out about not being a good couponer. This sunday I bought 2 papers and theres no good q's for me :( Im trying to trade but mine arent going so good. Im trying so hard to save all the money I can but I just cant seem to do it. I have no credit and its hard to get anything w/no credit. I am going to the bank next week to take out a $400 loan so I can get the internet. As I mentioned in my other posts Im not getting cable. But Im not sure how Im gonna get by. Since my rent is only $318 at my apt. my TANF will go down to only $500ish. Im pulling my hair out trying to get everything done and trying to budget also. Plus Jaelyn has hit a little growth spurt and is teething a bit and its driving me insane. She is completely attentionfied on me. I mean I cant get anything done w/out her whining and my dad complains because shes crying because Im not giving her full attention as Im trying to pack.
I feel like Im being looked down on from other moms in my town because I wasnt financially ready for Jaelyn and I get TANF and WIC. They get WIC also but for some reason its wrong for me to have it??? I dont get it. I mean ya I wish I did have a job or at least be in school before I got pregnant but I wasnt about to 'kill' my child or give her up for adoption. Was I wrong for doing this...I dont think so but other people do. I know I should just ignore them but it hurts so much. Heck even at the birthing classes I got looked down upon so I just stopped going. Im now going to mommy/baby classes on Tuesdays and they are so understanding about my situtition. I love Jaelyn to death and wouldnt change anything in the world for it. Well I know this was supposed to be about me wanting to be a good couponer but I do digrese. Sorry for the length also. I just had to let out some steam and didnt feel like going outside and screaming then have the cops be called on me. Well I hope everyone has a good and be thankful that spring is on its way...bye bye snow :)
Yes Im doing a little venting today. Day after day of coming here I keep thinking I can save OMG so much and stockpile better than the Walmart Distribution Center in my town. I know that walmart doesnt double q's but in all honesty I dont feel like driving 20 minutes to the closest supermarket that does. And I keep seeing all these deals that I want to get like dry food and frozen meat but I dont have any room to store it. I still live w/my parents and w/my dads food, my stepmoms food-shes filipino and only eats little 'american' food- I have no room for my food. Well since I had Jaelyn my stepmom basically refuses to buy me food that I like and I eat mainly cheap food ie: mac & cheese, ramon noodles, chicken, hot dogs, etc... It really sucked when I came home. There was litterally like no food at all just her asian food and didnt do grocery shopping. Although she did go shopping for herself and bought an SUV and complains about having no money. I also must state that me and my stepmom arent on good terms, we never have since she married my dad. She also attempted to call me a slut because I got pregnant but Aunt shut her down before she even said it..thank you Auntie. But anywho my family lives in a tiny trailer and thats one of the reasons why I have no room to do a mini food stockpile. I do have all my household stockpile done. Half is in my car not packed yet and the other half is packed and is in one of our storage boxes. I know moving is very stressful and maybe this is why Im freaking out about not being a good couponer. This sunday I bought 2 papers and theres no good q's for me :( Im trying to trade but mine arent going so good. Im trying so hard to save all the money I can but I just cant seem to do it. I have no credit and its hard to get anything w/no credit. I am going to the bank next week to take out a $400 loan so I can get the internet. As I mentioned in my other posts Im not getting cable. But Im not sure how Im gonna get by. Since my rent is only $318 at my apt. my TANF will go down to only $500ish. Im pulling my hair out trying to get everything done and trying to budget also. Plus Jaelyn has hit a little growth spurt and is teething a bit and its driving me insane. She is completely attentionfied on me. I mean I cant get anything done w/out her whining and my dad complains because shes crying because Im not giving her full attention as Im trying to pack.
I feel like Im being looked down on from other moms in my town because I wasnt financially ready for Jaelyn and I get TANF and WIC. They get WIC also but for some reason its wrong for me to have it??? I dont get it. I mean ya I wish I did have a job or at least be in school before I got pregnant but I wasnt about to 'kill' my child or give her up for adoption. Was I wrong for doing this...I dont think so but other people do. I know I should just ignore them but it hurts so much. Heck even at the birthing classes I got looked down upon so I just stopped going. Im now going to mommy/baby classes on Tuesdays and they are so understanding about my situtition. I love Jaelyn to death and wouldnt change anything in the world for it. Well I know this was supposed to be about me wanting to be a good couponer but I do digrese. Sorry for the length also. I just had to let out some steam and didnt feel like going outside and screaming then have the cops be called on me. Well I hope everyone has a good and be thankful that spring is on its way...bye bye snow :)
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I'm sorry to say that first off I don't think taking a loan out to get internet is a good idea. You can go to the library and use internet for free. I seriously don't think a bank will give you a loan for internet anyway. And don't think a loan company or payday loan/title loan company would be doing you a favor.
When I was first married, we didn't have cable or a telephone for probably 2 years. We made do without. We only had $40 a week left out of the paycheck for gas and groceries. We paid bills first, bought gas, and used a calculator to grocery shop so we didnt' overspend. We never bought soda, snacks, or other luxury items. We bought the necessities like Toilet paper, toothpaste, etc. and then the food. We ate a lot of beans and potatoes.
I understand you are trying to learn to coupon and stockpile. I have read all of your post and I am guessing you are very young. And speaking from experience.... it's true - you live and you learn. And, I say you have a lot of both to do - livin' and learnin'.
First I'd have to say you should re-evaluate this "boyfriend in jail" thing. Second, I'd say you may need a little help adjusting to dealing with finances as there is a big difference in "needs and wants". For example, I want a new laptop but my family needs the electric/water/gas bills paid. Sure I'd like to run through Wendy's or Taco Bell but the truth is the $4.31 for tacos = 1 gallon of milk and the $10 Wendy's burgers & frosty's = 3 or 4 packages of meat (for a careful budget shopper). Let alone the new clothes and shoes you spent money on.
I am not trying to lecture or sound cruel....
I am also not a Dave Ramsey follower but I read that he says to "live like no-one else today" so you can live like you want tomorrow.Posted 03-10-2009 at 03:56:42 PM by ELLE-TN
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I have to agree with the above comment. You are a mom
now, technically your wants do not matter anymore. If you don't have a job, then you certainly cannot afford internet, its just a luxury unless you are earning a living using it. I too am not trying to lecture, look down on you, ect, but the reality is no your parents, step parents do not have to buy you the food you want,
babysit your child while you pack, store your stuff, ect.
If you are old enough to have a baby, you are old enough to do all this for yourself. That is what being
an adult is.
Good luck,Posted 03-10-2009 at 07:18:45 PM by nurseannette -
Hang in there, girl!
We all have obstacles to our couponing...sometimes its space or time or whatever. But you can keep a small stockpile under your bed if you need to! You just have to decide if this is really something you want and then...when there's a will theres a way!Posted 03-11-2009 at 05:45:12 PM by chanelle -
Ouch, that sounds like a really nasty situation that you are in. Just hang in there and do your best. GOD help you that you will find your way, and the path will get smoother for you!!Posted 03-12-2009 at 02:59:40 PM by DGA
