What is a girl to do???????
Posted 01-20-2009 at 06:58:03 PM by arasic
:hectic1:ARRRGH planning this wedding is stressing me out like no other
I have no clue what the H-E-DOUBLE-HOCKEY-STICKS I am doing! Where do I start???
We have a date-9/19/09
We have a location, talked to the pastor, counseling later in the spring
I ordered my dress, it is custom so it won't be here until MARCH...it was supposed to be
in by the first of the year.:hectic1:
Have the place we WANT the reception at...haven't heardback yet:shrug7:
Have what we want for the center pieces at the wedding
ummmm, THAT'S IT!!!!:sad:
I don't know where to start. I have NEVER done this. I don't have ANY help:hectic1:
I am about ready to have a melt down.
I don't even know what time it will be at, who picks that anyway??? Do I just walk up to my pastor and be like, it will be at this time, I already have the invataions, too bad. ???:shrug7:
I have no clue. I am so lost and about ready to friggen elope
I have no clue what the H-E-DOUBLE-HOCKEY-STICKS I am doing! Where do I start???
We have a date-9/19/09
We have a location, talked to the pastor, counseling later in the spring
I ordered my dress, it is custom so it won't be here until MARCH...it was supposed to be
in by the first of the year.:hectic1:
Have the place we WANT the reception at...haven't heardback yet:shrug7:
Have what we want for the center pieces at the wedding
ummmm, THAT'S IT!!!!:sad:
I don't know where to start. I have NEVER done this. I don't have ANY help:hectic1:
I am about ready to have a melt down.
I don't even know what time it will be at, who picks that anyway??? Do I just walk up to my pastor and be like, it will be at this time, I already have the invataions, too bad. ???:shrug7:
I have no clue. I am so lost and about ready to friggen elope
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Just some bit of wisdom I'm sure you have heard.
It's not the wedding that matters to plan, it is the marriage.
If I could re-do our 2 hour wedding followed by a reception at hotel a couple blocks away. I would elope.
I had about 250. Now I wish I would have done what my BIL did.
Got married on the beach. Called up a minister. He met them there (pre-planned 2 months ahead). There were even dolphins flipping up in the background.
It was immediate family and grandparents.
Hope everything works out for you.Posted 01-21-2009 at 08:43:14 PM by BigDog
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Make it as small as you can! That's my end-all piece of wedding advice:). DH and I got married in October of last year. We just did close family, around 50 people. I know cutting people sounds harsh, but a small wedding is great. As the bride, you really get to see and talk to everyone. You get TIME with everyone and the day is more relaxed. Everything will be so busy, believe me, so it's important to focus on the people you really want to share your day with. Everyone said that our wedding was so "laid back" and "fun" and I think the size had a lot to do with that.
Then, just ask the pastor when the church is free around your date. We had to move a bit because of a service, but it all worked out in the end.
This has gotten long, but I'd say make a list of what is the MOST important to you and put your money/time there. For me, it was making the reception easy, the pictures, and my hair/makeup. I cut costs on the cakes, flowers, my dress (I wanted something simple), etc. Choose your battles and try not to sweat the other stuff as much.
Also, really haggle with your vendors! The recession is in YOUR favor here! Flower vendors and bakeries will want your business. Tell them your budget and walk if they don't give you options or act like they are willing to work with you. Believe me, you will find someone who can work with you! You should be able to call any of them and get a free consultation where you can see or eat their work (the cake tasting was DH's favorite part of the wedding planning, by far).
And you should try out the checklist on theknot.com. It's huge and not everything applies (all the weird little wedding stuff, we didn't do most of it). Still, it's a good way to keep track of things.
I hope you have a good wedding!Posted 01-21-2009 at 09:07:58 PM by cooktre - You've got some really good advice so far. I would say a small wedding with family and a few friends and spend money on what you deem important, like the dress. I had a hugh wedding the first time. Had something like 80 candles and a thousand flowers. Know what? It took FOREVER to light the candles and I barely remember the flowers. Secondly, when I watched the video of our 2 hour long wedding I thought, OMG I'm surprised people didn't hate me for sitting through all that crap.
Remember it's better to have less and enjoy the day then to be so stressed that you end up in tears.Posted 01-22-2009 at 07:06:11 AM by writermommy6 -
First- take a deep breath! You have a groom, a location, and a dress, so you're good for 9 months out!
Second, you've got plenty of time to work out the rest of the details. YOU decide what time the ceremony/reception is. Just go to the minister and say "I want the ceremony to start at 2pm" and if he has a conflict, he'll let you know.
Third, if you have friends/family with certain skills relevant to a wedding- Put them to work! My best friend (who was also my maid-of-honor) did a lot of the photography for my wedding. I also did my own make-up, and my DH had friends from culinary school who did our cake for us!
Lastly, I agree with theknot.com, it was super helpful.
If you need any help/advice/a sounding board, just PM me! You'll get through this!Posted 01-22-2009 at 07:26:36 AM by VivaciousJewelz - Relax ..you only need four things to get married and you have three already....bride, groom, pastor, and marriage license. (Don't worry about the license ...they expire in thirty days in some states so it is too early!)
My advice from catering thousands of weddings and helping a zillion relatives....
Start with a plan....use the website suggested or get a notebook (binder, whatever) where you can keep all of your important information together. There are numerous wedding websites and books out there that can help step you thru the process.
Second, you need some kind of budget...no, it does not have to be to the penny. Just a loose idea of what you will spend for each category so you don't overspend in one area then later find out you are out of money to pay for something you need. Ex...dress and clothing ...$$, food..$$, flowers ..$$, photography...$$.
The time of the wedding is up to you but..
find out what times the church and reception hall are available before setting a time. You don't want to have the wedding and then not be able to go straight to the reception hall. If the church and hall present no timing issues then pick what suits you best. Keep in mind, if your reception starts at lunch or dinner time ..it will take more food to feed the crowd and thus cost you more.
Most of all remember it is a celebration of love ...and love is free! My favorite wedding picture at MY wedding was taken by my aunt.
Hang in there...you can do this!Posted 01-23-2009 at 02:13:06 PM by Banshie64
