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No actually if anyone's meaner to the other person it's me. He's way too nice to me. I run the show, down to the penny, hence why I could spend $10 without him knowing about it because I call all the financial shots in our household, I manage all bills, all investments, and I decide where our money goes.

We have a lot of money, I just like more of it. He hates that. I am not a budgeter, but I never spent $10 at CVS before. I have always shopped from a list when we made very little and because things were so tight at most we could afford was 1 backup of anything. So when on sale, I would buy two, use a coupon, then wait until we were down to one and look for another sale. We were also very tight on space so we never stockpiled and have never wasted food. So our food budget would be something like $20/week for two people, with only staples.

Now we don't do that. I don't shop from a list. He doesn't like couponing because he feels that I buy stuff we normally don't eat. So I don't coupon much for food, only if there are coupons for stuff we use like spices, raw foods, meat/seafood rebates. I am not allowed to buy any non-processed foods, sweets, and treats, he's very health oriented. He feels we're to be careful what we eat so we stay fit, healthy, and are investing for less health problems later. He grew up very healthy, portion control was a must in his house, no desserts, no sweets, no fun food, and only cooking from scratch. I have to admit it does help control my weight because my family well we're more enjoyment eaters. He's a superb cook and prefers cooking stuff from scratch, pasta, bread, pizza dough, even ice cream (sometimes).

The reason I have spent so little is getting a small stockpile of stuff for us is easy because we aren't huge users of stuff and we don't use it fast. And with all the meds I have to add, before we had 1 bottle of tylenol and that's it. He doesn't believe in medicine if possible and we're generally really healthy so we don't use anything only prescription allergy pills.

Previously we've shopped at costco and never run out of everything, we buy one thing it lasts 6 month to a year or 2 years in the case of laundry detergent. So I can see his frustration that I've bought a ton of stuff. Plus I only shopped coupons sales then too. I know how much per pound or per ounce I spend so I can determine when it's a better deal there or at the store.

He's really thrifty is the problem, spending an extra penny above and beyond what is absolutely necessary to him is wasteful. I read the other thread about the ham, if I ever did that, he would be really mad. I make a point of cleaning our panty and fridge out regularly, cleaning meaning we eat out of there till it's empty pretty much. Nothing stays long because I know he won't waste anything. And we shop sales.

I never had an out of control budget is also the problem, and we're not seeing huge savings. And I have a hubby who knows I am fiscally very responsible and I think feels right now by spending and extra money I'm not being fiscally responsible. I am not over budget at all, way under budget actually since I have been tracking every penny.

He lets me run the money because I do not spend on stuff we don't need. I haven't stepped foot in a mall in a few years. I don't shop, I like making money. But this I think is making him wonder if I'm becoming a "shopper". I even hate grocery shopping, I considered online delivery but worry over quality of produce. So he's worried I'll start ringing up CC charges, get hooked on spending, and I even went to target to buy electrasol tablets, which I haven't been in for probably 2 years. I never window shop and he feels I'm window shopping in CVS.